you have broken up and you have accepted it you have both have moved on. both with new loves i guess i'm really asking is it ok to still think about that person and still care for them no matter how much pain they caused you.i mean i hated my ex for the way he treated me but i still care about him and i often wonder how he is, we haven't spoken for months. is it normal to have some kind of feeling towards an ex? do all feelings normally disappear at once? or will they always be there maybe not a strong as they once were.
2007-03-10 10:24:47 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I still have feeling for a few ex's and I do miss them - but my aim is steadily improving....
2007-03-10 10:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by thecoldvoiceofreason 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its absolutely normal to feel that way, I've been through the same thing.
When you have such deep feelings for someone who has become a big part of your life then you can't expect the feelings to go away all at once. The thing is, that person affected your life in a way that nobody else ever will. You will be involved with other people and you may love them even more than this person, but your feelings will be different with each person you get involved with because they're all different people.
This person will always be special but your feelings won't always be a strong for them as they are now.
2007-03-10 10:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by greenfan109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal. My ex bf and i are probably the closest people you will ever meet. And we dated for 8 month's and were madly in love. We are both currently single and we still talk a great deal. Matter of fact we both hold feeling's for each other. So Yes. It's normal! You might never forget about him. I was into this guy for a little while and i grew close to him before my ex bf. I still wonder if he's alright seeing as how we dont' talk. Yet i know i have no feeling's for him other than memories.
2007-03-10 10:32:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Bob Dylan put it better than I ever could
"If You See Her Say Hello"
(Blood on the Tracks)
If you see her, say hello, she might be in Tangier
She left here last early spring, is livin' there, I hear
Say for me that I'm all right though things get kind of slow
She might think that I've forgotten her, don't tell her it isn't so.
We had a falling-out, like lovers often will
And to think of how she left that night, it still brings me a chill
And though our separation, it pierced me to the heart
She still lives inside of me, we've never been apart.
If you get close to her, kiss her once for me
I always have respected her for doin' what she did and gettin' free
Oh, whatever makes her happy, I won't stand in the way
Though the bitter taste still lingers on from the night I tried to make her stay.
I see a lot of people as I make the rounds
And I hear her name here and there as I go from town to town
And I've never gotten used to it, I've just learned to turn it off
Either I'm too sensitive or else I'm gettin' soft.
Sundown, yellow moon, I replay the past
I know every scene by heart, they all went by so fast
If she's passin' by this way, I'm not that hard to find
Tell her she can look me up if she's got the time.
2007-03-10 10:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish all feelings disappeared after the breakup, but they don't. I'm in the same situation as you are now, and I've asked the same questions. My only advice is to go with your feelings and accept them as normal. Time will eventually dull the ache, so I've been told. Just have faith and believe that if it's meant to be, it'll happen. You might also try to remember the times he hurt you, because there is a tendency to only remember the good. You broke up for a reason. Good luck to you!
2007-03-10 10:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by Katiecat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course!!! I dont believe unless, the break up was really awful, that you'd stop thinking about that person or having feelings for them. You share a history together, there will be good memories, cos you dont always dwell on the bad stuff. And even many years later you still have a special corner in your heart. So no it doesnt ever really go away.
2007-03-10 10:45:51 · answer #6 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur right... once u have loved someone, no matter how much they hurt u or cause u pain, u will always love that person, but not as strongly as b4, u will always wonder how they r doing, and if they r happy or not... u'll always care... this is all normal and usually happens to everybody who has broken up w/ the guy/girl they love.... u can still move on though, u can still love someone else again...
2007-03-10 10:30:30 · answer #7 · answered by blumonkee93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been divorced a lot of years but i still have feelings for my ex and he has for me, we see each other now and again and still have a laugh together, but we both know its not the same feelings that we once felt for each other, so i would say it was normal
2007-03-10 10:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your feelings will fade but you will always have a special place in your heart for him. Yes that is normal just try and remember tha bad times too so that you never make the same mistakes.
2007-03-10 10:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very much normal to still have feelings. Love isn't something you can just turn off like a faucet! If you find yourself not having feelings for him anymore, then you have to wonder if what you really felt for him was, indeed, LOVE!
2007-03-10 10:30:02 · answer #10 · answered by Christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this is normal. Once you love someone you dont just stop. But remember that they are in the past for a reason.
2007-03-10 10:28:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋