Wow, long story, I made a huge mistake. Me and my ex dated 2 yrs, planned on getting engaged. He was feeling trapped and confined, he met this girl, and left me for her. After 5 months apart, he is still with her. I saw him the other day and we ended up making love.
After it was over, I asked him if he loved me and missed me, he said yes. He said "There was nothing really wrong with us, I just felt suffocated" When he dropped me off at home, he said, he was confused, he cares about me, misses me, he needs to work things out in his head.
In front of me she called and he told her he loved her, then a few hrs later slept with me. I asked him if he was in love with her......he said "I love her, but I dont know if Im in love with her."
Is he being sincere? Is he really confused, or does he just want the both of us? Why would he say all the "I miss u, care about you" talk the next morning?
Is it cause he means it, or he wants to keep me on the side for more action?
2007-03-10 09:34:55 · 10 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your just a bootie call mate. Dont go back to him hes not worth all the heartache you could go through all over again.
He just said all those things 2 you cause he just finished having sex with you mate. I mean cmon guys will say anything you want 2 hear after they got what they wanted from you.
I dont mean to sound harsh but that is the works of a male mind like his. Not all men are like that but your ex is.
So just move on you can do way better mate and you deserve way better as well. Dont stand for 2nd best mate. MOVE ON!!!!
Take it easy mate
2007-03-10 09:41:45 · answer #1 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, the boy wants you confused. If he can convince you that he still 'loves you' , you'll continue to sleep with him. BUT, he is still with the other girl. My advice?? DUMP the piece of garbage and find someone who is worthy of YOU.
So, you made a mistake. You realized it. But it sounds to me like you want what you used to have and honey its gone. Get rid of him and please don't make the same mistake twice.
Did you stop to think he may be doing the same thing with his other X's?? What this boy needs is to have a foot planted up his butt so far he's sipping water from a kneecap for life ersonal experience tell me this
2007-03-10 17:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by newfieswoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
re-read your post and maybe you will recognize the answer yourself it is there 1 he left you for her 2 he has been with her for 5 months 3why did you have to ask him if he loved you he should have just said it 4 he admitted to you as well as her when he said he loved her on the phone 5 after just having relations with you he says he is confused if he loved you why be confused at that particular time..........sorry good luck
2007-03-10 17:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys are seriously confusing and they say we're confusing. he might just be using you cuz you give him what he wants, which is probably good sex to him. he may love you too and just doesn't want to break the other girl's heart so soon after dating her. i think what i would do in that situation is to really confront him about it...before you have sex, whenever you are just around him. To test him, you could say no to the next few sex sessions and tell him that if he truly loves you, he'll wait for you, which could mean, till you get married or get serious again, or till he shows he truly loves you by things other than sex. you might find your real answer if you try that, you'll find if he just wants you for sex or for the real thing
2007-03-10 17:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by ~*.:Kyla:.*~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok girly im gonna break it down to u as easy as i can here it goes ..i know its going to hurt but come on hes a guy hes going to use any excuse to get u into bed he just used u for the sex because u witnessed that he told her that he "loves her " but its all an excuse trust me its happened to me before i know it hurts but it is the truth
2007-03-10 17:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by BLI-BLI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling...he's in love with your VAGINA. If he really cared about you/or was interested in getting back with you then he wouldn't have called his current g/f and tell her that he loved her..IN FRONT OF YOU! Be strong and move on.
2007-03-10 17:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by hellokitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he prob does still care for u, hes prob just rly confuse give him some time
2007-03-10 17:40:26 · answer #7 · answered by angelpinkgal 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is using you for sex. He is a player who can not and should not be trusted.
2007-03-10 17:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by Tom B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT SLEEP WITH HIM AGAIN!!!!! Then see where things go, good luck!!!
2007-03-10 17:53:16 · answer #9 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Booty call!!
2007-03-10 17:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by rustybones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋