All parents are participating in the cereamoney, except the step-mother who was told she would be lighting the unity candle with the bio- mother earlier, but at rehersal, step-mother was left out to everyone's suprise without warning. How should this be handled?
2007-03-10 09:31:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I take it you are the step mother?
Who conducted the rehearsal? Was it a wedding planner or the minister?
NO WAY should a minister EVER turn his/her ceremony to another, but some do. That's their call. some are grateful for the planner.
Why didn't step mother say something at rehearsal? Was she afraid to start a ruckus? I personally would say something to the step child? Whoever's mistake this was, the step mother, at the very least, deserves an explanation.
2007-03-10 10:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of my parents are remarried, When I got married, it was only my mother and my husbands mother that lit the unity candle. What I did to honor my step mother was in the middle of the ceremony, we turned to our parents and gave them a "good bye" hug and I gave her and my mother a rose and my husband gave his mom a rose too.
I have been in my step sons life since he was 3, but I feel it is the biological mother's place to do the unity candle. I don't expect to be doing that at his wedding whenever he gets married.
2007-03-10 17:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First was it a mistake? If it was just inform the officiant and fix it. I don't know who you are so this changes the answer if you are the bride and groom fix it with oficiant if you want it done your day your way.If you are not the bride and groom its time to be the bigger person smile it off and be gracious. You might want to work on a nice story/speach to tell at the reception when their is an open mike. Other than that its the lucky couple day the rest are along for the ride.
2007-03-10 17:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by emmandal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my cousin got married, this was how the parents were presented:
"xxx, mother of (the bride), and her husband xxx ... and yyy, father of (the bride) and his wife, yyy."
As to the unity candle thing ... whose idea was it to leave the stepmother out? If it was the bride's, then the stepmother should gracefully step back and let the bio-mother have her moment in the sun.
2007-03-10 18:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by JohnD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your day we're advising on and you want your Step-Mother included it's up to you to make sure she is. If everyone is being polite and civilised simply introduce your Stepmother/Stepfather as that. I hope the day is wonderful and everyone works toward making it so.
2007-03-10 17:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch....step mom needs to be included in ceremony, sounds like someone may be alittle jealous
2007-03-10 19:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ŗεŋεε 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The step -parents are the spouses of the parents-- nothing more.
2007-03-10 17:39:31 · answer #7 · answered by ee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would ask why the stepmother was left out first of all.
2007-03-10 18:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by Dawnita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋