Ever since I started going out with this guy I have been paranoid that he is spending time with this other girl [lets call her Tiffany]. They have this afterschool thing that lasts an hour after school, and I have been told that she flirts a LOT with him...and that he flirts back. [But this source isn't TOO reliable because the girl who told me thinks that everybody flirts with her when they are not..hah] But anyway, Tiffany CONSTANTLY flirts with all guys anyway. When I discussed Tiffany with my boyfriend he assured me that they were only friends, but i just don't know.
Should I be jealous? I feel horrible when I am jealous...but am I licensed to be jealous or feel paranoid or SOmETHING? And what should I do about this girl?
[sorry if it was a little confusing]
2007-03-10 09:31:02 · 8 answers · asked by Quin G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I definitely agree with Answerer "Bevin..." who posted his answer right above mine...
But this girl, as you recognized, is not a reliable source when it comes to flirting. So, I highly highly doubt that there is anything really going on between your boyfriend and this "Tiffany" girl.
And don't worry over it too much, even if it turns out to be true. Many guys see flriting as a harmless little bit of fun, and as long as there are no feelings and physical contact involved, there is nothing to worry over.
Besides, he obviously chose to date you, not her... so he may find her attractive, but you obviously have qualities you are missing. Guys are usually pretty straightforward about these types of things-- and so, if he liked her instead of you, he would ask HER out!
Most of all, it is all about trust and you need to trust that your boyfriend will be loyal to you. Trust is as important in a relationship as love, and if you become overly possessive, desperate-sounding and clingy, you will only scare your boyfriend away ... as they say in the "Princess Diaries": "Like a startled fawn."
2007-03-10 09:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by -- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you proceed this, and he's disillusioned by technique of it... a million. he is going to sense such as you cheated or did something incorrect the only blaming and controlling is the guy who did something incorrect. 2. He might start to ask lady acquaintances for suggestion as to why you're appearing that way. this may lead on the female acquaintances to take great factor approximately being the crying shoulder. 3. right this moment up he will say you're psycho and go away. My superb suggestion is to understand the end results of being controlling and paranoid. you will lose him. understand this and alter, or dont. yet you at present understand what is going to ensue in case you do no longer exchange.
2016-09-30 12:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by puzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you and he have an understanding that you only see each other exclusively-- then yes he does have an obligation to not be deceitful. don't focus on her, it will drive you nuts.
stay busy, don't question him about her--guys don't like insecure girls. assume he is doing the right thing.
mabey he is trying to make you jealous? in that case; don't fall for it, continue to be a strong girl and pleasant and that will make him come around-and meanwhile talk to other guys.
you must show him 2 can play this game. [personally the last thing i would do is join that same club-give him so much space HE'LL start to feel insecure].
2007-03-10 09:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be jelous,it'll eat you up!Find out whats going on.Talk to your boyfriend.Have a different friend check things out.Or go to the school after....... and see for yourself.Its better to be single and loving it than 'with' someone and hurting or jelous all the time.
Maby its nothing.(personally I think the flirting thing is a no-no if your 'with' someone).But I'd be finding out anyway.
"Been there".
2007-03-10 09:40:54 · answer #4 · answered by gotabedifferent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only human mate. Just trust him thats all you can do really. And hopefully he'll keep to that trust.
I know thats not really comforting but when your in relationship you gotta have that trust there. And if in your heart you trust him, then there should be no problems.
Dont be jealous it doesnt suit us women seriously.
Just trust him
2007-03-10 09:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl-who is he with? of course you!!! there is nothing wrong with him flirting with this girl any how it is nothing but harmless fun-so what he may think she's fun and pretty-but you have her beat because you obviously have something that she doesn't besides him- also i'm sure that you flirt harmlessly with other guys when he may not be around and think nothing of it-that goes for the same for him-i wouldn't be too concerned-
2007-03-10 09:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by ang925 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your concern, I know how you feel because the same thing happened to me.
You should tell him how you are feeling. Jealousy is a difficult feeling to deal with.
Most probably, it's nothing serious.
2007-03-10 09:36:07 · answer #7 · answered by rayne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you join the club after school, with your boyfriend...and then you can see first hand. Who knows, it could be fun..and its not spying if you want to spend more time with your boyfriend.
2007-03-10 09:34:45 · answer #8 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋