my mom is always in my business whether its with guys or i like or who im talkin to or what happens at school. i mean i know moms are supposed to be protective of their children but....everytime im on the computer iming sumbody she has to ask who...sometimes she gets on the other computer and listens to half the conversation((what the other person says))..if i come home and say one thing she ask whats wrong or something like that and if i say that i like a guy she has to know every detail. what do i do????
2007-03-10 09:19:30 · 9 answers · asked by JoeJonasLover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mom wants to participate in your life, let her. Their are many parents out there that don't give a hoot about their kids or what's going on in their lives. Talk to your mom and let her know that you understand that she is concerned for you but it is becoming too confining for you. Let her know that you want to come up with a solution to your situation so that both of you are satisfied - you will get your privacy and your mom will know that you are safe and sound. Talk to her in a responsible adult-like manner and I am sure she will treat with the respect that you want.
2007-03-10 09:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gain her trust by not being suspicious or secretive, for example, if she says "Who are you talking to?" Just reply e.g."James", and continue the conversation, and if she persists in asking what you're talking about, put the phone to your chest and quickly say "Mum, I don't mean to be rude but our conversation is really of no interest to you. Please could you just give me a few minutes?" And if she doesn't leave the room, once you're off the phone have a talk with her. Just tell your mum that you understand that she's concerned about your welfare, but now you're growing up a little, you need your space and privacy. Stress that no one ever grew up being wrapped in cotton wool, everyone has to learn from mistakes. Tell her that you're allowed to have private crushes. Say that you're sensible online, and know the dangers. I hope that she'll come to her senses.
A definate no-no is, never become really secretive, because if you push her away she'll either try to intrude more, becoming even more annoying, or when the time comes when you really need her help, she'll have the attitude of "You don't need me, so I'm not going to help you." She's like all mums - they're only trying to look out for us!
2007-03-10 09:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by peaches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moms love their kids and try to protect them. Sounds like ur mom just wants to know whats going on with u. Shes probably over interfering cause she doesnt feel like shes gettin any info from u. Sit down with her and tell her whats going on in ur life. Tell her that u trust her with this info and would appreciate it if she wouldnt get so involved especially when friends are around.
Chances are that she'll appreciate the info and not metel so much. Ur mom prob wont get so involved if she thinks she knows whats going on with u. Sounds like shes just worried bout u, most likely not by not trustin u but afraid of what the rest of the world could do, she just doesnt want u to get hurt. Talk to her and tell her that u love her, appreciate what she does for u and respect ther for caring. She'll prob cool it a little.
Hope this helps.
2007-03-10 09:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy that your Mom cares about what's going on in your life. What you see as intrusive and nosey is actually caring. No matter how grown you think you are, there are still situations that you will face that you won't be prepared for. She's trying to protect you from those things. Cut her a break, you'll understand when you have kids of your own.
2007-03-10 09:24:08 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it, if there are things you dont want your mom to know, then play it off. Change the subject or keep it to yourself. Fill her with other new that you dont mind sharing. Maybe your mom is bored. She just wants to be a part of your life. Or worried that you might be growing up too fast. You can't change a nosey mom, just say what you want to be heard. Dont put your whole business out there unless its necessary, or you want to.
2007-03-10 09:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Moni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes just being a mom. That is what we are supposed to do. It might be that she feels left out of your life now that you are growing up, so she asks questions and tries to fit into your world now.
2007-03-10 09:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by Karen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 01:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make something up my use to that then i just start making up all the staff and didn't did any thing frount of her then 1 day shy didn't ask me any thing!
2007-03-10 09:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by rita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her whacked by Tony Soprano
2007-03-10 09:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋