OK going on from question below... how do you mature withotu being sexaully active or other stuff.?

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OK going on from question below... how do you mature without being sexaully active or other stuff.?


In regards to the right age to start.


Several parents seem to be under the impression you pick up maturity points out of thin air as a present on your birthday.


I dont get this.


I only understand people maturing due to certain experiences of them and friends.


Without those experiences how on earth do you mature?



its like saying somone can become an excellent driver withotu a car or be a top pool pl;ayer withotu a pool table.


Simply as they got older.



What if you went into a coma at age 14 and work wehn you are 20m, and instantly have to move out of home.


How can you mature simply by age?


So why do people think you are experienced and mature simply as you had more birthdays.


Ie how do shelteredd kids , who got no dates, no gf/bfs mature?

With parents wanting them to wait before they date.

How will they get a date ?

Likewise if all shelters in a nice safe area how are they supposed to cope and be auto matured enough to cope with a dangerous area and survive?

If never been in a fight, had to look after themselves, handle realtioship etc before how on earth can they compete and do it withotu having done all the rookie stuff before as now they are at say


level2


All else at lever 15


More mature ans more experienced.



if you keep a kid as a kid and dependant on you and shelters and no dating etc.


how on earth ca they cope with the big wide world that will expect them to have certain experience to make them a certain level of maturity?

When they are not?


All you will get is 28 year olds 35 year olds, 21, 32 year olds with the mind of a 16 year olds as they have not done all the normal inbetween stuff that is typical for their age maturity wise.


hence that maturity

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Actually dances it is a lot harder ... maybe its a hell of a lot easer for a girl...


Guys go for the clueless virgin thing.


girls dont.


girls want you to be the expert, never make a mistake, perfect and confident at asking them out, maature, experienced person etc.


Aint gonner be that without relavant exp.


its like jobs...


No experience, no maturity.

No maturity no experience


no maturity due to no experience
no girlfriend, therefore no relatioship therfore no marriage

I note that none of these answers are from guys as girls wont touch virgin guys or date them so cannot mature.


Zombioe part of respect os not leting people tell you waht to do.

You dont date so have no control whatsoever over your own lives. Thats not maturity... you have to therefore let parents control you life as you cannot therfore find anyone of your own.


thats the perpose of dating.




And can somone educate all these people of contraception you would think there would no about it.



And zombie dating is not immoral its simply how people form couples.


Marriage is simply the advanced stage asfter the sexaul activity

NO sex = no relationship

No relationship = no marriage

Answer 1

I would love to know where you get the info from that you use coz to mature as you age is to learn and be sensible, my 15 year old is very mature for her age, as for the no sex no date that's total C*ap have to say, i am a mother and i have an open relationship with all my kids, and my girl has boys following her around like lost puppy's all the time and ok i know she's no longer a virgin but she's been with the same boyfriend for over 2 years now.

Answer 2

I am answering this as I am a virgin. I am 25 and I have never ever been told I am acting younger than my age. I live alone- I moved out of home at 18 and have lived both with other people and now alone for the past 6 years. I have plenty of friends, I have had plenty od offers too. But I get the feeling those offers ar based on the way I look and not the person I am. I'll be damned if I spend time screwing a perver-t*sser so the answer has been no.

As a virgin I am able to cope with the big bad world fine actually. I pay my bills, I go to work and work out at the gym. I have a 2.1 degree funded by moi, and am also able to do all those things all you -have-had-sex-already- types do.

Having friends who have slept around and such, I dont alwayts rate their maturity- infact, some I wouldnt say had an ounce of maturity.

And going on the fact 14 year olds- and probably younger- are having sex, how does this go? should they start fasmilies at 14?- no, why? because they are not mature enough!!

Answer 3

You can mature just fine without having sex. Just because you have never done it in your life when you get married does not make you an immature person. You are trying to relate everything to sex and you just can't do that.

To me having sex before marriage is very immature because there is to much involved. You have to worry about having families to soon and STD's, it is not good decission making.

Not knowing where it goes and how long it takes to get done does not make you immature.

Basing experiance on sex is what makes a person immature. How bout getting to know someone and just going on a normal date, and not worrying about whether or not you are going to do it?

It does not mean that age does not play a factor either. Oh you could go out and do it at a very young age, but you are going still act like a fifteen year old or younger, but you are going to know more about sex is all.

It is also a body thing. Your body needs to mature. Young girls and or boys should not be having sex and trying to "mature" physically their bodies are not ready for it. Mentally also they learn stuff that is best left to an adult.

Yes you can mature in other ways. You can learn about families and about sex and having children.

Let me tell you at 25 I did not have the maturity level that I do now at age 37 and it has nothing to do with sex and I have had that sense I was 20. It has to do with simple living and learning.

Answer 4

Sex is not the deciding factor in a persons maturity there are plenty of other experiences in a person's life that makes them mature. Just because you go out and have sex with 50 ppl before your 18th birthday doesn't make you more mature than a 25 yr old who has never had sex. In fact you may be more immature. Most ppls parents feel like a childs mind may not be ready to be romantically involved with anyone. That doesn't mean that they can't have friends of the opposite sex they just don't want them to label those friends as their bf/gfs

Answer 5

If you need to ask this question, you are not mature enough to be having sex!! There are other things, like education, hobbies, helping others, reading and getting out into the real world, which don't happen if you waste all your time on sex. When you are 14, you think you are grown up. When you are 42 you know that you were not.

Answer 6

I don't believe you have to be sexually active to become mature. It is the experiances of life its self is how you mature. You have to experience growing up etc. to mature. And everyone is different, I think it also depends on the parents as well to help. To teach morals and values,etc. Everybody is different and mature at different ages,etc. It also comes down to respect and trust when your dealing with parents, because if the kid can't be trusted well then obviously they did something to prove not to be mature, parents usually know what's best for their kids. I would have never said that when I was a kid now as an adult I know better. My parents were right

Hope thats something you were looking for

Answer 7

You don't have to have sex to be mature. You can go on dates and not have sex. It's not mandatory. Age has little to do with maturity. I know many people who have the years, but not the maturity. I think it's how you are raised and how you feel about yourself. Feel good about yourself. Go out and have fun and don't worry so much! You're too young to be worrying about stuff like that.

Answer 8

Because its not necessarily by experiences alone that people grow wiser. Some people feel they learn by this but its not completely the only way. You might know that you dont want to smoke and can say that absolutely 100% knowing that its bad and all that without having to have tried it. Its the fact that as we age we are more able to rationalize and to explore ideas that we grow wiser -if we had to experience everything to learn about it, most of us wouldnt be around very long.

Answer 9

what are you trying to get to with these questions, sex does not make you mature, and not all experiences are learning ones, people mature at different rates, don't say parents, not all parents feel the way you describe, in general age matures you, just with normal life experiences, the number of dates you have has nothing to do with it either, i don't think you are very mature i also think your definition of mature is way off, don't confuse mature with easy and don't confuse mature with street smarts, what do you think maturity is? you are trying to get your parents to let you do something they do not think you are ready to do, trust there judgment, maturity comes with age, education, you are no different then any other teen who believes you know best and adults know nothing, you are mature when you realize you know nothing and are willing to listen and learn from others, you have a long way to go

Answer 10

Well I'm mature and I never dated until 18. Partly because my parents didn't want me to date, and partly because no guy ever liked me in that way. In Islam girls and boys are real mature. It's forbidden in our religion to date because you can get children out of wedlock, single moms, dad's running out on their pregnant girlfriends. They know how to behave and respect themselves and their husband/wife when they get married because the mother is always there for the children to raise them and teach them how to behave.