my mom is constantly yelling at me and i take it but i feel bad if i hurt her becuase hse went through so much but i still feel like an outcast and my family never understands me my brother is always instigating and i get blamed and it makes me mad and i just want her to see my side of the story but she refuses to listen...what do i do to make her love and except me as me?
2007-03-10 09:00:31 · 7 answers · asked by sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hi SAM, sorry but i can't answer your question, the only reason I'm answering is to give you another perspective...
I got to boy 3 and 5. My 5 year old i never bonded with. I don't know why and i don't know how to fix it.
My 3 year old i fell in love with as soon as i found out i was pregnant!
I always try to treat my boys equally and fair, but i know that my 5 year old is trying so hard for my affection, cause he knows the other one is my favorite.
Maybe it was the same with your mom, maybe when you where born she suffered postpartum depression, i think i might have. As i said i do not know how to fix it, i wish i did... i do try every day... Maybe it helps you though to know that you are not the only child that feels unloved.
2007-03-10 12:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are some things you can do.
take very very good care of yourself if you feel others don't think of you enough.
You may also try to be very diplomatic. just take the blame. don't worry about it. just try to see what everybody is really feeling... maybe your mom feels she has way too much to do... or maybe your brother feels you can de everything better than he can....
there are lots of reasons why people yell at eachoter and you can try to understand that maybe your mother loves you very much, but that she also yells at you sometimes?
Ask her straight out if she loves you. I doubt that she will say no.....
Understanding eachother takes time and effort. Do your very best to explain yourself in different ways if they don't understand. If they still don't,... make it more simple.... Good luck!!
2007-03-10 17:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your mother. The only person that needs to love you for who you are is you. No one else really matters. Make a succes story out of your life and use your mother's agression towards you as motivation to become a fabulous adult, and then when you're sitting at the poolside of your amazingly huge mansion drinking mimosas made of 330 dollar a bottle champagne, and you see that she's calling you on your cell phone to ask if she can come stay at your guest house and meet all of your celebrity friends, just press IGNORE.
2007-03-10 17:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by Brento! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel......Hopefully she will understand. If not, just keep trying or runaway. Don't hitchhike though. That might be bad. It would be really bad. I've tried it, and u dont even want to know. I mean, It was bad. So........Have a good time and live your life and be happy and dont worry about what your mom thinks. Goodbye
2007-03-10 17:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
on her good day (urs too) talk to her... about how u feel.. she will always listen and be curteous of ur opinions.... she will always love you even when it seems like she's given up on u...
my parents love me to death.... i listen to what they say... i hate argueing so i always go ah ha ah ha... ok ok... and when they ask for help, i help.... im more old traditional style respect ur elder type stuff....
2007-03-10 17:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your brother disappear
2007-03-10 17:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by John M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coz you cant spell
2007-03-10 17:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by Britsrule 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋