What to do when someone you love is dating someone else?

Question

okay, so this is a problem for me and it is very ironic. so one day i come up to this girl i knew for about 6 months and i was finally going to ask her out on that day. We were like really good friends too. i looked really nice and i made sure that this day was gonna be perfect. i even had flowers haha. So, she comes up to me and smiles (of course i hid the flowers just in case if the wrong thing happened) and she told me that she had a boyfriend. i felt like just getting angry and that whole day i just didnt feel like talking and i was depressed. i wasn't emo however haha. I even had to throw away those flowers that i spent money on. Now i just cant forget her because i love her but i dont know what i should do. any ideas anyone?

Answer 1

im not the best person to answer this ahahahh [=

if the person theyre with is the person they want to be with, theyd be happy, right? i mean, if this person broke up with the person theyre with, it would be good for you, but it would be a heartbreak for them. and think about how lucky you are to see this person smile everyday, instead of the fact that youre not with them
like, how many people wish they could be in their persons life just to make it better for them, and then look at where you are right now. id say youre pretty lucky =] i guess if youre meant to be together itll happen

Answer 2

First: You don't love her. You cannot love a person until you've dated them and got to know them much better than you know this girl. You may have a strong crush on her... you may be infatuated with her... you may see her as a woman you COULD love... and someday you might actually build a relationship in which love can bloom. But right now, what you are feeling is most likely not love.

Second: You have two choices: A) tell her how you feel and hope that it will influence her decisions with this other guy. Maybe she feels the same about you but since you never approached her she moved on. or B) just wait. Stay friends and be ready when her current relationship ends. But that is taking a chance, because that could take months, years, or who knows.... she could marry him.

Or you could just be cool about it and tell her that you think her boyfriend is very lucky to have her as a girlfriend. And if she ever changes her mind about him, let you know because you'd love to date her.

What you should NOT do is sabbotage her realationship. She will resent you for that.

Answer 3

I recommend you give her flowers again, tell her how you feel, but that you understand she has a bf, and that you care so much for her and dont want your friendship to end. And that even as friends you will do the best to take care of her. Then treat her like a good trustworthy friend. when you go out with other girls, tell her about it in a good way, like a friend. Never treat her bad and dont let your feelings get in the way, there are other fish in the sea and she is still in the sea, its not like shes getting married, plus this gives you a chance to meet other girls, you got freedom dude. Be optimistic.

Answer 4

This is probably the most opportune time to step up your game. Of course, you emotions will be hurt if all goes wrong, but it's certainly worth a shot. You gotta put the pressure on, but keep it to a "friendly" pace. After that, don't get intimate but get very close. You know with hugging instead of saying hi, etc. Once you get to that point, then you get into personal stuff which includes her talking about her bf. It's gonna be rough hearing some stuff but I bet you that she'll one day confide in you for a mistake he made. That's where it's all or nothing!

Answer 5

I'm sorry to hear about this, but I have been there too. Since she's already in a relationship, there isn't anything you can really do. Allow yourself to be sad and mourn for a little bit, but then go looking elsewhere. You can remain her friend, but don't wait around in the hopes that she will break up with her boyfriend and then come to you. It's a difficult time, I know.

Answer 6

Respect the fact that she has a boyfriend and offer to just be friends instead. You never know maybe one day she'll dump the guy she is with and then giving you a Chance to make your move! However, in the meantime, keep your options open and date other girls. You might just meet one that special someone who will take your mid off this girl.

Answer 7

tell the person how you feel and then if they still don't leave the other person then move onto the next girl. then you can still just be friends. this way whenever something is going wrong, then she can just come to you and talk about. that way you are becoming more close to her. and finally when she breaks up with the other guy (which she will, we all do that) then she will see how nice and sincere you were to her and ask you out.

Answer 8

Well you don't want to ruin her relationship with whoever this guy is - even if the thought of it is pleasing. If she just started dating the guy, that doesn't mean it's true love for her, so you still have a chance. Just maintain your friendship with her, and wait it out. Be there for her every chance you can without being "intruding". If you love her, you'll wait for the right chance.

Answer 9

You obviously invested in some time thinking about her and it is normal to feel that way. But, she has a boyfriend and you need to forget about her and move on. Go to the clubs, movies, dinner whatever it takes to forget about her. I am sorry it turned out like this for you.

Answer 10

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