I broke up with my boyfriend today. We had been dating for over a year. It was just getting so stressful and I felt that the costs of being in a relationship were outweighing the benefits. We just seem to fight so much. We're both so stubborn and selfish. But I love him so much. I have been planning on spending the rest of my life with him, but I was so tired of fighting. I feel empty. I don't know what to do. I haven't cried, I haven't even gotten sad. I just keep trying to figure out if I'm doing the right thing. I love him so much and I have never cared for someone else's well-being so much before. I guess my question goes out to all you people in relationships: does it have to be this hard? Is it always like this, or is there something wrong in my relationship? Did I do the right thing by ending it? Or, should get back together with him (which is what my heart is telling me to do)?
2007-03-10 08:58:42 · 6 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're both stubborn and selfish then it sounds like a good match! Just kidding, but seriously, he shouldn't be arguing with you, and since he was, a breakup was his shortcoming. Look for a guy who doesn't argue with you because clearly you don't want that in a relationship. Buit more importantly, know what traits caused the arguments, and look for a new bf who doesn't have them!
2007-03-10 09:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by BS2NITE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with someone you fight with all the time sounds like the best idea. Love isn't about arguments -it's about peace, security, contentment and sharing. People who are stubborn and selfish don't usually do well in healthy relationships. I think you need to work on yourself before getting into a relationship with him or anyone else. Also, stubborn and selfish people who fight a lot don't make good parents, do they?
PS If you cared for his well-being so much, why the fights and selfishness?
2007-03-10 09:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When ur young you think ur in love with many different people. As time goes on ur get to realise love for Love.
Being in a relationship that causes u to be upset and frustrated is not love.
We sometimes find ourselves in love with what we had before not necessarily with the person we know now! When u know in ur heart that you cant bare to with that person because they drive u insane u have to just walk! You can be friends with them, maybe thats the side of the love u have with that person.
try getting a new hobby and try not to concentrate on him. With time it gets better. Time is a great healer./
wish u all the best
2007-03-10 09:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's natural to question your decision but if I were you I'd wait before considering getting back together. Relationships require work by both parties to make them work, however if you are both equally committed to making a relationship work it shouldn't be harder for one person.
2007-03-10 09:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rule #1 - There's plenty of us guy's out here. Rule#2 - Don't stress. You cut him loose. that's OK. If he comes back, you got something. If he doesn't, you never did. Then refer back to rule #1.
2007-03-10 09:10:41 · answer #5 · answered by Rudy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart and your gut instinct and just get back together again...maybe yall are really meant to be
2007-03-10 09:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋