Hello .. i am gaining alot of unwanted weight....?

Question

i am not obese thank you but i suffer depression and am on medication but i still comfort eat .. what can i do to divert my attention away from food all the time ... i have 4 kids and don`t have time for myself but i walk my dog alot (sometimes with sweets in my pocket ) i just feel my eating is getting out of control ... No rude answers please you can`t make me feel any worse than what i do already .... Thanks

To Michael , there is a difference between honesty and rudeness ..

Answer 1

You are better than that and you need to turn your life around... You may have four kids who look upto you but you need you time too...With regards the food? Look at healthy recipes, cook them with the kids, ditch the sweets, fizzy pop, and crisps....Find yourself, be strong and keep a nasty picture of yourself in full view....You can do it keep walking that dog and jog along side with him....Lifes too short to keep thinking maybe tomorrow....GO FOR IT

Answer 2

Hi! I too have a weight problem, but mine is due to not eating enough. I find that when you worry excessively about your weight it seriously becomes the thing that causes you to put more on cos all you think about is trying not to eat but then eat all the wrong things. Stop obsessing about what to eat and what not, and replace it with sensible eating i.e. have a little less on your plate, take each day as it comes, have low fat yoghurts instead of the snacks, eat if you can 5 small meals a day rather than 3 main meals. ALWAYS start the day with breakfast, preferably not fried, but things like a good cereal or toast and scrambled eggs. Just watch what you eat and be sensible about it too and keep things varied. Introduce the new thing gradually rather than a drastic change, cos that really doesnt help. And be more active... just walking more, running up and down your stairs at home, a brisk walk to the shops, add things that you wouldnt do normally. But if you freak out about your weight and food its a never ending story of yoyo dieting that does nothing but makes you bigger in the long run. I hope this helps in someway. Good Luck

Answer 3

First of all, do not buy any sweets. I know when you are at the store, you might say you will eat it in moderation, but if you already know that the temptation is too big, you shouldn't take it home. And no, your kids don't need the sweets either. So don't take the temptation home.
If at some point, your kids really want a sweet, they can buy an individual candy, not in boxes.
Get a really nice blouse out of your closet which doesn't fit anymore to give you a goal.
Play with your kids in the park or around the house. No board games :) Something that makes you do some exercise.
Good luck.

Answer 4

don't feel bad. i feel like this too. i have depression and comforted eat too. it's a vicious circle. the worse you feel the more you eat. and the more you eat the worse you feel. try joining a group cause it may well give you some support. i didn't go out much but if you really push yourself to attend it will soon make you feel a bit better. having other people around who will feel like this too will help. and just going somewhere to have a break from the kids is always useful. when you meet new people and have an interest it can also help lift the depression i have found. hope this helps!! good luck.

Answer 5

The problem with depression is the unatural attraction to the negative. Its such an uncontrolable feeling that keeps you unable to free yourself from that state of mind. Often times people generally find themselves trying to alieviate this by attaching to something else that they convince themselves is helping in the healing process. This something can be just about anything from a habit, to a certain person. In your case it has to do with food.

Fighting those types of habits means you'll need some support because often times we tell ourselves we can do it alone. Sure it's possible to do it that way, but it takes a strong discipline that most times we're unable to attain on our own.

If seeking support is some how out of reach then heres what I recommend.

Now I'm no doctor or scientist or anything. I just understand the common sense of life and accept it for what it is and work my way around the issues as we all do in our lives.

You need to find something or somethings that are productive, fun, positive that eat away your time to divert your mind from foods you shouldn't eat. You need to stay away from anything in the sweets or candy catagorie completely.

All of us can live with out candy or muffins or chocolates or Fast Food. (Something even I have to tell myself everyday)

You need to segment your meals to about three meals a day and nothing in between except water or a lite snack.
If you ever go to your local supermarket and look around the different foods, there are tons of alternatives you can have that are specifically meant to be either low calorie low carb or low fat.

If you ever get a sweet tooth, eat an apple or banana or orange. A method I use without even noticing it often times is I chew Trident gum sometimes all day and its almost a hunger deterant between meals because I'm always chewing something. There are many flavors that can not only help your sweet tooth but avoid damaging your teeth in the process.

When you take a walk with your dog, really walk with your dog, in other other words, fast walk and keep your heart rate up. Take time to occasionaly take walks when you can. (Music can be a great motivator)

Most of ALL
Develop an attitude of positivity to battle your depression. Find a way to laugh daily or entertain your self or others around you.

4 kids is no joke. That can really leave you feeling burned at the end of the day. Its the smiling faces on those four children that matter the most in life and if that doesnt make you feel more accomplished, I dont know what will. Everything you do should be for them. Use them as your motivation to live longer and healthier so that you as well as they can live wonderful lives.

Answer 6

I feel like you after my fourth kid I have gained so much weight through comfort eating.,I am so depressed because of this and I do try to control my appetite.It is so hard in the winter and I hope that the summer will stop my appetite,in the meantime I am doing a work out video and am decorating the house.This is stopping me thinking about food and all I do when I am busy is drink black tea. The answer is KEEP BUSY

Answer 7

I sympathise completely. I have depression and weight control issues. First, please report your weight gain to the Dr. who prescibed your meds. A change may be in order.
Unfortunately, weight gain is a common side effect of antidepressants. Even if the Dr. says it isn't, it CAN be, so don't let him deny your experience.

Second, find a non-food method of comfort. I love aromatherapy. Candles, essential oils, scented lotion are little treats I give myself instead of food some of the time.
Try using your non-food comfort first, and really be mindful of the comfort it brings you. Then, if you still feel a need for a comfort food, allow yourself to have a small portion. You don't want to feel deprived, after all.

Hope this helps.

Answer 8

The key is going to be finding something else to do for "comfort." Is there a hobby you can do wheyou need to be comforted? How about worry-beads... just something you can put in oyur hand and "worry" around... like one of those crazy koosh balls.
If you are already depressed, the extra weight gian will simply increase the dpression, then you are going to be in a very unhealthy place mentally and physically.
Try to take some time for yourself... I know you think you can't possibly have any "me" time with 4 kids, but it is crucial to your survival, and thiers in the long run. If you are married, ask your husband to take care of the kids for 30 minutes a day (and why, oh why should we have to ask them to take care of their own children??? sigh) and use those 30 minutes for YOU. No laundry, no chores, no kids. Exercise, meditate, read... whatever it is, just have "you" time. If you'r enot married, see if a friend or neighbor will provide respite care.
If you don't take care of yourself, you will eventally not be able to take care of your children.
Good luck!

Answer 9

try to keep your cupboard and fridge full of healthy foods, foods that can be snacks like olives, grapes, strawberries, plums, and stop buying bread or things based on flour. No cereal, , just dont buy foods you know you will be eating next thing in the afternoon, and that will prevent you from eating them as you would feel more bothered to ake a walk down the corner shop and get something, try chewing gum if you have good teeth. east five times a day healthily.

Answer 10

Hello,
I gained 25 ponds when i stared taking my meds... I found out most of the medication causes water bloating. or my body weight was all water from my medication it was not enough i was depressed now i am more depressed my clothes do not fit me i have never been over a size 9, i went up to 14, i was angry...I went to have my annul check up my doctor noticed that my feet wear really swelled up he did all kinds of tests it was coming from taking DEPOKTE for 10 years i was off that right away, he put on TOPMAX it a Micaela pill it make me sleep good ,no depression, and it a skinney pill you loose you inters in food in one month i have lost 12 pond and i take effaxser. talk to your doctor about it