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I think that most parents of adolescents will be quite surprised at the answers I got to this question. The majority of the answerers do not feel that they are getting the reasons WHY they are told not to drink/drug/smoke and have random sex.
Any comments?
2007-03-10 08:34:08 · 4 answers · asked by Holiday Magic 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Obviously the kids are not getting the back and forth chats that they need with their parents, and definitely at not an early enough age...I think too many parents like to bury their heads in the sand and think...NOT MY KID, they won't do THAT...The key is to start talks and start them early, so that what you say goes into the kids' brain when they are still young enough to listen to you, to trust you and most of all to talk to you...I started the sex and smoking and drug talks with my kids when they were fairly young, and now they know that they can come to me with ANY question and that not only will I tell them the truth, but that I have FAR more reliable information than them going and asking their friends...
2007-03-10 08:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by Proud Mommy of 6 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's so great that you got so many honest responses. I didn't expect to see that!
Anyway, I very much agree with many of the responses. I do feel that parents don't make time to just talk with their kids about these things. Many parents also use the "because I said so" excuse every time. I also believe that many parents leave the drug/sex/violence speech up to the local school their child is attending. This doesn't show morals or values but just what an outsider [teacher in this case] said.
When my children reach that age I want the lines of communication to already be there. You can't just start a relationship with teens out of nowhere--it has to be a constant effort with them from the minute they can talk. I feel many parents wait to have that relationship until their teen is way over the edge.
Interesting findings. I hope my kids feel they are able to talk to me before they get into trouble with drugs/sex/violence instead of after. I hope my kids are open with me about all of the areas in their lives. It can be hard being a parent sometimes.
Good question!
2007-03-10 22:42:53 · answer #2 · answered by .vato. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
most of the time my parents were the same way. I got most of my "why" questions answered from my pastor and youth leader at church. my parents almost always say "because I told you so." and my parents almost never let me do any thing fun when I was younger. like when ever the youth group went to a amusement park I was not allowed to go "because they told me so", and for a long time I was not allowed to go to summer camp "because they told be so", and many many other harmless little things that they church youth group was doing together I was not allowed to do "because they told me so". I never got answers to those questions. but things like drugs, sex, and other things were explained at church.
2007-03-10 17:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the parents may not be explaining in some cases, but I can garantee you that sometimes the children are just not listening.
I know my friends are very careful to inform their children.
2007-03-10 18:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋