baby shower?

Question

My sons wife is expecting her third child and she wants a baby shower, I am on a fixed disability income, but i dont want any problems so i said i will help with the cost, Her mom and her sister and a good friend of mine and my sons 7 yr old daugher are giving the shower at a restaurant, My grandchildren never call me nor my daughter in law, she is from a very cold family adn i have tried to mind my own business, They live 10 minutes away from me, Her mom when she is at their home and i am there on occasion, when you walk in the room, neither one of them bother to turn around and say hello to me or my family, my granddaugher is acting the same way, The invitations were printed out that the sister did, Her mom is first my granddaughter is 2nd, my friend is 3rd i am next to last and her sister is last, this may seem petty to people, but i gave them 125..00 last month for it, and now they want another 125.00, What do you think Is this right how i am being treated?

Answer 1

NO....they are not treating you with good manners. I would say that it is rude how you are being treated. You are already in it $125.00 but if you with-held the other $125.00 you would probably start a conflict you may not want to.

I say give them the other $125.00....don't worry about a gift because $250.00 is already A LOT of money (are they having it at the Four Seasons or what??). Go to the function and try to have a good time. Next time they try to rope you into something like this just tell them you aren't available to do it.

I am sorry and can only imagine how this must make you feel. Manners, it seems, are something that aren't as important as they used to be...which is a shame. I know this must make you hurt inside. Feel better knowing you helped with the soiree and that you are in possession of wonderful manners even if her and her family are not.

Answer 2

Since all they are asking from you is money and you have already given them $125, I say you don't owe them anything else.

You helped with the cost.

Frankly, I have NO idea what kind of gravy train they are expecting for a baby shower and for the THIRD child, no less.

In some places, it is not customary to give repeat baby showers for the SAME mother/father even when it is a different child.

Generally, the feeling prevails that a simple card and a small monetary gift or a personal item is ENOUGH.

SO, let them know you gave at the office and cut off the free ride. $125 bucks will buy a LOT of meals at a restaurant.

Answer 3

I had a sprint one bathe for all 4 of my toddlers. such as you, I not had the previous infant's products when I had the subsequent one. (My 1st 3 toddlers are 5yrs aside, the third one became a woman and then my final newborn is 7 yrs youthful than my daughter.) If human beings opt to grant you a bath then enable them to. the rule of thumb is which you do not provide your self a bath. yet...It makes much less issues which you will could purchase. I see not something incorrect with having a bath for all your toddlers. Is the 1st one the only one that is think to get this actual medical care? i don't think of so. decrease back in the day while human beings had a newborn 10 months to a twelve months aside, you probably did not could have yet another bathe considering which you nevertheless had the child stuff and maximum infant products have been unisex-white dressing robes and diapers-yet those days maximum folk wait a pair of years or extra between toddlers, so which you finally finally end up desiring to substitute each thing from the 1st or next go around. that's not written in stone to have basically a million infant bathe. the persons who say which you're able to not have yet another are the two stingy, mean-hearted or in basic terms did not get large bathe presents themselves. ha ha ha. that's what you're able to say to the destructive human beings. snicker it off and revel on your bathe or Showers.

Answer 4

Personnally if it were me, I would feel wrong asking for a shower for the third baby. As for advice for you, do not give them anymore money. You already gave $125.00 for the shower right? Well my Mom did my ENTIRE shower for less than a hundred dollars, and we had over 50 guests. It was also a very nice shower, though at Mom's house instead of at a resturant. In my opinion, you have given your share of the shower money..had it been me, I wouldn't have even given that much. Is she also expecting you to get a really nice gift in addition to all the money she wants? She sounds a little spoiled to me.

Answer 5

First off she shouldn't be having a baby shower for her THIRD child. Politely tell them you do not have any more money to give them for the shower.

Good luck!

Answer 6

It sounds to me like they think they are better then you ,
But they are not Let her know how you fill don't hold it in .
It is not your responsibility to pay for the whole thing .
It sounds like they need to put some money in on it if they are so good .
You are on a fixed budget and they know that it is not fair of them to do you that way.
You sound like my Mom she was the same way always trying to please someone.
It is just not fair of them to do you that way .
Please don't let them make you fill your no one because you are a very special person.
Don't take it

Answer 7

Perhaps you could provide another function in leui of the $125

Answer 8

why a shower? after having two there should be nothing she really needs. my daughter is expecting her 2nd.. a shower..not from me. i spent for the first one. my daughter -in-law. her 1st different story.have you noticed how kids come around when they need something.