Why do parents want their kids to be 18 or older when they first have sex?

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Why do parents want their kids to be 18 or older when they first have sex?

not a perve angle more serious.


ie why would you not want first times whilst they are still at home and living with you who can monito the situation and act as giude, mentor, support, shoulder to cry on when dumped and help with development.


Plus it to be in line with others their age and general growing up, in line with music, first festivals, when they have a large group of friends to hang out with and party with.


When they have each other to truen to.

And when in an instituion where there are hundreds their age mostly single going through the same thing at the same time.

So they get a chance to evelop emtoionall so when they get to say uni or work or bars...

They are for want f a better way of putting it


level 10 like the others not level 1 in terms of chatting up, pulling, handing relationships etc.


As its all competiton to pull those you like and to keep them

Sorry PC went down before question was finished.

Now none of these werdo worriess about perviness. creepiness wonderoing why the question is being asked or other crap... Look at it striaght the reasons are clear its stating why it would be better etc etc... ok adding

It just gets really annoying .

Ok back to Q


Why do parents wnat their kids first times to be after they leave home at 18 in uni where they will have no chance against all those who started mid teens and now experts at chatting up and dating and in bed...

Whilst they will be a virgin clueless nurd with no change of getting with the person they really like and love as they will bgo with those better with the opposite sex.


Plus it will be far far harder for them to make friends when seen as cluelss.


or worse work. where odds are anyone their age will already be in a couple, more senor then them and the compnay probably has a

Dont date or your fired rule

Or even harder why would you want them to wait till no longer in a school or uni with hundreds their own age when they can get to know people before and make friends


As opposed to have to make perfect first impression in 30 seconds in a bar or they are rejected, no 2nd chance

As thats what its like...

Thining from what Ive seen with friends over time, and felt when that age...


Best first times appear somewhere between late 15 and 17. Depneding on maturity and how you get on and form realtioships... ideally 16 having done all the 1st,2dn, 3rd base stuff before so when you enter in the uk 6th form or college (like us highschool) you aint clueless and can get dates etc and readdy for all the raves and nightclub entrry and parties and won't be the cluless nurd or alreaddy with somone and ready to progress further so can have some years to develop emotionall when you are sexually active still at home to go their safely with parental support.

Info wtahcing friends , seeing who did well, who idnt. And when they did get to adulthood over 18 or over 21 or in mid twenties who were doing ok and who were messed up needing concelling even though its usless and finding out they are probbaly going to be alone for life and never going to have a family

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Several here mentioned marriage.


HOW ON EARTH DO YOU GET IN A COUPLE AS FAR AS GETTING TO THE POINT OF CONSIDERING MARRIAGE WHEN AINT DONE THE BASICS TO ENABLE YOU GET DATE, PULL, SEDUCE, FORM A RELATIONSHIP, KEEP IT, DEVELOP IT TO THE POINT YOU WILL WANT TO MAKE IT PERMINANT

THEN GET MARRIED


without doing all the dating, sexaul relatioships and rooking beginner stuff first?

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Gursey read the question

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Let me make this simpler


People mentioned maturity...


how can you possibly mature emotionally without having sex and realtioships?


its like saying you can become a good driver without having a car or being in one.


You cant mature emotionally unless sexually active to learn from experience.


you get older but dont mature, and never grow up just get older.

ERM OPERATING ON THE BASIS HERE THAT THEY USE CONDOMS AND ARE ON THE PILL SO NO PREGNANCIES AND NO STDS.



A 44 YEAR OLDS CAN STILL GET STDS OR PREGNANT IF CLUELESS ON CONDOMS

Answer 1

Couldnt agree more.....Hope my children will come to me and ask advice, rather it be in my home than on a cold park bench without any knowledge.... If my daughter wants/feels ready at 15 then she will go on the pill and be taught about STD. Why are people so ignorant? Happy kids, happy parents/honest kids/honest parents............

Answer 2

Like a few others, I'd prefer they be married first. But I can also be realistic. The problem with putting sex first is that two people who are incompatible will try to stay together because it's the easiest, most secure way to satisfy that biological compulsion. It is what it is, don't sugar coat it. In addition, they don't realize until at least their early 20s just how much they've changed. This has been recently verified as a function of the prefrontal cortex maturing, and it can't be rushed. Yes, it really does take that much time.

You assume that this is all just a matter of learning and they'd be better off doing it under adult supervision. That's a far better argument for arranged marriages, oddly enough. It's also not what I've seen in the real world. Those who pair off at a young age seem to restrict their social growth more than expand it, and it's difficult or impossible to make up the lost ground once you pass through the age where you should have been learning those things. They end up with poorer social skills, not better ones. Most of your social interactions throughout life don't involve sex.

Answer 3

As a parent I would like my boys to be older, I do realize this is a dream of fantasy world but I can dream....

I want grandchildren very badly. However I do not want to raise these grand babies. I want to be a grandma and get to give my grand babies everything there parents can not give them, babysit them when parents are working. Do all those things, but I want to SEND THEM HOME at night time.

Not have them living with us. Or paying child support for our grand baby. Kids youngest then 18 are very irresponsible in general. Most of them do not have a job nor have there own home. Most live at home with mom and dad and do not pay any bills.

So how on earth could a child raise another child? Kids need to think of consequences. Not quick gratification and bragging rights. This is just childish.....

Answer 4

Hmmm lets see. A) They will be out of high school B) They will be more mature then under 18. C) They will possibly be out of the house and D) They will likely be in a serious relationship. Thats not all the reasons but those are some main ones.

Answer 5

As a mother, I will tell you it is maturity not age that concerns me. Sexual relationships are complicated and for a female child in particular can have lifelong emotional ramifications. Sexual wisdom must come before sexual practice. A child cannot make an informed decision because they do not fully understand the results of their actions in nearly any situation and in particular a sexual situation. The body is our most precious belonging and sharing it with another is serious business.

Answer 6

People have many different reasons for wanting their children to wait to have sex. There could be the religious reason. But most often its because sex is something special. Yes, true, sex is mostly for procreation (Having babies) but in humans its a bonding mechanism. Sex draws us closer to our mate.
There is also the issue of sexually transmitted diseases, with HIV and Aids so prevalent now, that is a good reason to make sure you wait to have sex. Sex is not meant to be recreational.
I think the biggest reason parents don't want their children having sex is because of the chance of bringing another child into this world before the parents are ready. I work at a high school caring for babies of the students. Some of my babies have moms who are as young as 13. These girls didn't think having sex just once could get them pregnant, but they found out it did. Now they are trying to go to school and raise a baby. Many of the Moms are in foster care. Not a good way to grow up.

Answer 7

They want them to be mature enough and to know enough about it before they start doing it . At certain ages kids see that other "immature" kids are having sex and they want to have their first experience . Also they could get forced at a young age by peer pressure . But certain parents say that because they don't want their children to make the same mistakes they did .

Answer 8

Beeeeecuz younger teens while they aer doing it for love there is a small chance that both couples are gonna go to the same college have the same dorm same state same everything and then get married.

parents want you to commit to the person you want to live with

also aids HIv herpies on the genitals

also love can get in the way of school

fall in love focus more on the chick or guy and date instead of study

Answer 9

so they are not responsible paying for a child that they did not bring into the home and so that they dont have to pay very expensive hospital bills as well if there children get a std or get raped or abused because of said relationship,
There are many more things that happen from teenage sex that does not come from adult sex.

Answer 10

Okay......
I think parents want their children to be able to care for a child if they get pregnant, and be able to handle the responsibility.
Also sex isn't something children should have to worry about. School and there friends, what clothing is cool, where to go on a Friday night. Not sex. That's why I want my child to wait till she is 18 to have sex.