My life partner and myself (both males) are wanting to have a family, am I wrong to ask my cousin to be a surrogate with my partner? So we could have our own family or should we abopt? However if we abopt it wont be the same or will it? Your opinions please
2007-03-10 08:19:52 · 7 answers · asked by Stalker 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You might want to bring up that your thinking about finding a surrogate mother and see if she volunteers because if you ask and she says no, she will feel awkward around you guys for a long time. Like she took away your attempts for a family.
Good luck
2007-03-10 08:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by Brittney U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if I were in your situation, or in a situation were I am just not able to have children altogether, I would adopt.
Everyone feels differently about adoption, and it's important that you and your partner decide how you feel about each (adoption, surrogate). Either one, is a blessing. With adoption though I feel I am given the opportunity to give an opportunity to a child who might not ever have a chance of having a family. I have never adopted, but as a person with a big heart, I can tell you that an adopted child will be loved just as much as a child you conceived, or your partner conceived. In addition, you're practically saving someones life when you adopt.
Either way, this is a choice you should make with your partner, not us. Whatever you decide, may everything go well throughout the process and may you two soon have a family you love!
P.S.
I think it's wonderful that you are looking into starting your own family. And please ignore the ignorant people who say two men or two women should not have a child together. Families come in all different forms and sizes, all you need is love and as with all families, stability. Good Luck through this journey into parenthhod!
2007-03-10 08:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by katiesmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problems with surrogacy is that sometimes the "host" doesn't want to live up to their end of the bargain. I suggest adoption, and unless you put conditions on love then it WOULD be the same.
2007-03-10 11:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason it takes a man and a woman to have a baby. If you two were meant to have a child, one of you would be able to carry and give birth. If you want babies, find a wife, not another guy.
2007-03-11 04:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Deborah B 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I know a lady who adopted two kids because she thought she couldn't have any.
Then she had two kids.
She says there's no difference, and her husband agrees.
Why not adopt? Kids are fun!!!
2007-03-10 08:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by nora22000 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes ask, and if she wont do it, email me more info maybe i will, good luck
2007-03-10 08:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No kid should have a dad and dad, and especially dads that can't even spell "adopt." sheesh....
2007-03-10 08:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋