I am a married man in the Los Angeles area who is stuck in a sexless marriage because my wife is never interested in sex. It's strange to me because I keep myself in great shape physically, I'm very romantic, give her lots of attention, and treat her very well. I'm wondering if there are many married women who are in the same situation? That is, women whose husbands are not satisfying their needs in the bedroom.
If you are a married woman with this problem, I'd like to hear about how you are dealing with the situation.
2007-03-10 08:14:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So, you are here telling women how great you are while saying you want to cheat. Nice.
I say a cheat is a cheat. And if a man is that self serving and will sink that low, it's a TRUE statement of his character. Romantic? Hardly.
If there is a problem in your marriage..TELL HER. Tell her you are considering cheating. Go to a counselor. GeT HELP or get out.
Only lowlife scums stay and cheat. Grow a pair and DO SOMETHING about what's wrong in your marriage.
2007-03-10 08:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My opinion: You do all this "wonderful" for her. You are a nice guy, great shape. I wonder if she feels that every time you are nice to her or bring her a gift, you are just "asking" for sex. I know if I'm not in the mood, I just feel as though I'm being used. Just an idea: Talk with her. Tell her that she is the one in charge of sex now. Let her call the shots. OK, I know you are rolling your eyes and saying you will NEVER have sex again, if it's up to her....you could be wrong. My husband's sense of timing was lousy, even after 20 years of marriage. I liked being in control. Once it was in my hands...he had more sex than he could handle...it was on MY terms.
2007-03-10 16:23:15 · answer #2 · answered by janice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is the same to me that you say you are to YOUR wife. BUT whats missing? He doesn;t TALK to me! Coming home and destressing abotu work, fine I'll listen, but there HAS to be more conversation then that. You get a man into teh bedroom through his body but you get a woman there through her brain! Just try havign a REAL conversation. Not about work, not about kids, about almost anythign else.
My husband even does most of the housework some days, but if I don't feel like a REAL person WITH a brain then I'm still nto gonna wanna even entertain the thought of sex.
2007-03-10 16:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Betsy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a hard one to answer without more details aboout your wife. Could she be depressed.....did you just have a baby? After the birth of both of my children I did not want sex at all....I was just too exhausted....slightly hormonal and just not up for it. But i did recover. On the other hand my sister was married to a man who sounds like your description who was a jealous control freak and he beat her. He too was romantic and took care of himself. Since you at least are asking....and i dont know her age...i guess maybe she is depressed maybe she needs to talk about it. My husband never asked me what was wrong he just got jealous of all the attention that i gave to the kids and he even acts like a child to get my attention. I wish that i could be of more help. Its pretty hard to just guess whats wrong and I will admit that I have wanted my husband to guess what is wrong with me even though he is mostly clueless. I have been married ten years now and things are looking up for me. Good luck!
2007-03-10 16:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by compooters are silly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried asking your wife what's going on ? why is not interested in having sex with you? i wouldn't assume that's its you may be its a bad relationship, past abuse. Lot of women sometimes despite of their husbands providing them everything don't feel attracted to their husbands. My husband always wanted to do it after he ate his dinner, watch his tv always in the bedroom. No change always the same old boring routine. I would try talking to her with being confrontational may be some sex therapy will help.
2007-03-10 16:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by gaganjai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look here you sound to be very narcisstic to me.Such people are often blind to other people's need.Sex is just 50% of your married life.There are lot of other things too.Try to invest some time and money on her and wait for good results or you have already fallen out of your relationship?
2007-03-10 16:24:13 · answer #6 · answered by uncoolmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋