My parents are on a tight budget for the wedding esp. the bridesmaid dresses. This is because I have found a dress that I like that is a little over my budget, but what the hell you only get married once (well I am anyway!) so therefore the money-pot has gone down a little more on bridesmaids dresses. I am paying for my maid of honours (she has just brought a house and is broke), my godmothers' daughter is paying for half of hers, my cousins' father is paying for one of their dresses and my flower girls dress is therefore still left to be covered. My fiance family are quite "well off", so why the heck couldn't I ask if they could pay for the little one's flower girl dress. I have even thought about saying don't worry about giving a present it would mean a lot to pay for the dress. Which woulfd only be about 50 quid anyway! ($90)
Am I about to be very rude or what??
PS. My fiance's sister is expecting a baby anyday soon and I have just brought the baby 2 cute outfits!!! hehhehe
2007-03-10 08:02:06 · 8 answers · asked by Fairy Dust :*:*: 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As a bridesmaid - I have paid for some dresses and not for others. BUT - the deal was always that the bridesmaids and flower girls were ALL paying or ALL NOT paying. Your mistake was deciding who would and wouldn't pay on a case by case basis. Now you're stuck.
Probably the best thing you could do is go over with the outfits for the baby - and then bring it up - saying - "Gosh - things are pretty tight with the wedding budget - so I was hoping that in leiu of getting us a present (not that you are even expected to do that but....) could you cover the cost of your daughter's dress? If you can't - I totally understand - and I'll find some way to do it." Do NOT mention the fact that the reason the budget is so tight is because you splurged on your own dress. That will only make you look greedy and self-centered. Now - if your fiance's sister thought at any point that YOU were going to cover the cost of her daughter's dress - then YES - this is a rude thing that you are about to do.
And just so you know - just because people are "well off" it does not give you the liberty to take advantage of them. Usually people are well off or broke (like your maid of honor) due to the CHOICES that THEY made in their lives.
2007-03-10 08:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bridesmaids are generally expected to pay for their own wedding-day ensemble (shoes and jewelry included). Once they accept being apart of the wedding party they should have then voiced any financial concerns prior or during acceptance. I think you've gone far beyond the call of duty as I've never heard of getting a free ride on my outfits. You simply state the style, Color & cost and leave them to it....and see if there isn't room to accomadate in styles so it's more cost effect....and be sure to give them their Thank you Gift.
More importantly if you are paying for some others dresses already, keep it on the Down Low and let them know not to spread around the kindess. Good luck.
2007-03-10 08:17:08 · answer #2 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i actually do not see a challenge. at the start would not Traci artwork? in basic terms tell her she would be in a position to could pay for her own gown. Years and years in the past the bride use to pay for the outfits. The groom paid for the plant existence and the practice consultation dinner. Now they simply pay for the practice consultation dinner. Bridal party pay for the own outfits except the bride's relatives is wealthy. you're basically having 50 + human beings and that's costing you around 5 ok does that contain your gown and each thing else for the marriage? in case you have been in a pinch for money i could have down sized the cost of a few issues. My daughter had a one hundred fifty concentrated visitor and it did not cost virtually that. relies upon on the section you're from and how lots fact you're desirous to make. Our daughters wedding ceremony became amazing. We did not could mtg our residing house for her wedding ceremony like a superb style of folk do in our section. it seems lots of attempt to out do the different.
2016-10-01 21:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I put our own on, because my mother was widowed, and had no money. I picked out colors and dresses that were affordable. As far as the flower girls went, one of my bridesmaids could sew and she made simple but pretty dresses that fit the the wedding. There are alot of different ways to blend inexpensive, and make the wedding look more. Ckeck out your options, J.C Penny or Sears. My wedding gown was a prom dress, very pretty and no one knew ant different. I wish you luck!
2007-03-10 08:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by mybudnoobs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them all to pay for their own dresses. You are the one getting married and trying to start your life. If they cant afford it, then yes, try to help them out but if you cant then you shouldn't feel bad about it..
2007-03-10 08:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Vicki B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone else is paying for their own bridsmaid's dress, then it would be OK to ask that they pay for the dress, if they are the only one being asked to pay, then no.
2007-03-10 08:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would explain the sitaution to them and suggest to them that they buy a dress that maybe she could wear again. that is unless you have a certain dress in mind
2007-03-10 08:09:52 · answer #7 · answered by kelly g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't see how it would hurt to ask.
2007-03-10 08:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋