Junior Prom is around the corner, and I don't feel comfortable and really don't think it would be acceptable to bring my boyfriend with me as my date. This is because he's five years older than me, and he's my student history teacher (we were really good friends for years and liked eachother even before he became a student teacher.) Anyway, I was talking to my friend Madeline's boyfriend, Ian, about how I wasn't going to bring my boyfriend to Prom, and he was like, "You should go with me, as friends." I was like, "Umm- I don't think Madeline would like that very much." Anyway, now, Madeline's mad at me, or whatever. I feel really bad. Did I do something wrong? How can I get her to stop being mad at me and show her that I didn't do anything and that her boyfriend is the one at fault??! It's not like I came onto him or anything...Any help/advice would be great. Thanks.
Love always-- Summer Hampton*
2007-03-10 07:53:12 · 17 answers · asked by Summer Hampton 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOu haven't done anything wrong you said she would not be happy about that so you did the right thing tell her exactly what happened maybe she is getting a twisted story form her boyfriend...
2007-03-10 07:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ash 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Write her a nice letter explaining how you feel. Just tell her how you didn't do anything bad, and that she's probably hurting your feelings more than what you did to her. If she doesn't understand, it's her problem, not yours. Let her know that when she is ready to be your friend, you'll be there for her, and just leave her alone. Maybe that would make her want to chase after because I am sure she wouldn't want to loose you for such a stupid reason.
Sometimes it can also be another thing that she is mad at but instead of showing it, she is putting her anger into something else. Maybe you are not even the one she is really mad at.
2007-03-18 03:49:17 · answer #2 · answered by Brit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's hurt by what her boyfriend did and she's taking it out on you. Deep down inside she knows it's his fault, but she's finding it easier to blame you. Write her a heart-felt letter. Tell her that you value her friendship and would never do anything to hurt her. It's strange that he wouldn't have already asked her to the prom if she's his girlfriend so maybe their relationship was already having problems, of course don't say this to her. You could also think of confronting her boyfriend. Tell him what a jerk he is to ask somebody besides his friend to prom, even if he was offering it to be "as friends."
2007-03-10 07:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi summer,
Talk to madeline, like; u see him as a respectable person, but ur dream man is different.
Also tell him to just keep relations with some distance, occasionally good talks will be fine. beware him that if he continues to being mad after u , he would lose you permanently (show some fake anger).
And then that affectionate guy would be attentive & take care of ur relations, & will take some time for him to forget ur dream company.
Sit & talk politely, assertively, he will understand you.
Thanks & bye,
Dhaval
2007-03-10 08:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by dhaval7shah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you guys been friends? She should already know that you would never do anything to hurt her. I wouldn't push things and maybe you should go to Prom with Madeline as your "date" and make it a girls night out "Screw guys, Let's just dance" Yeah do it I dare you!
2007-03-18 07:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by shopriteismylife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi!summer,explain to your friend what happened and how it started.one thing a friendship needs is trust.if she can't trust you when you explained the situation then there's more to this.your right you didn't do anything wrong.you were seeking for help between friends and that bf of hers took it to the next level.if she can't forgive you and get over it.you have a much deeper circumstances to handle.maybe that bf of hers has a crush on you or something like that.good luck hopefully this will resolve before prom night.talk to her.
2007-03-18 07:07:54 · answer #6 · answered by Chris y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sucks. Unfortunately this is something that you have very little control over. You've already explained to Madeline what happened and she chose to be mad at you -- big mistake on her part. This is tough for her to deal with and come to terms with, but I bet once she does, she'll apologoze to you. I hope that doesn't come too late though.
2007-03-10 08:00:23 · answer #7 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make a good point. A person really needs to look at WHO IS MOST LOYAL TO HER. No you did nothing wrong.
I think she is hatin because it hurts to know her bf hit on you, and it is easier for her ego to hate you for it, than to risk actually dumping the guy and being alone. Hate to say it but I think you are just going to have to try a heart-to-heart and if that does not work, leave it alone and move on.
2007-03-10 07:59:07 · answer #8 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with a friend, that has no attachments. Doesn't your friend want to go with Madeline, or are they already out of school? If so , I would decline, and say in front of her to him ,thanks, but friendship worth more. Good luck
2007-03-10 08:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by mybudnoobs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's probably mad cause u went to her boyfriend for advice or whatever...you should have asked for her advice... and if you don't feel comfortable about bringing your boyfriend to the prom, then you should go alone.....
2007-03-18 08:31:51 · answer #10 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋