I'm engaged to a wonderful man. We get along so well on so many levels. One thing, in bed he seems to be all rush. I've tried so many times to slow things down and maybe give me some 'quality time'. He's very giving outside the bedroom, but seems to only give me enough of what I need so he can get what he wants. How do I get him to respect my wishes and be more romantic in bed?
2007-03-10 07:52:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've tried telling him exactly what I want but he feels inadequate and gets discouraged. I've also done to him what I would like and told him that I wanted him to do the same to me but when it gets my turn he rushes thru it so he can get off. Not only would I like more foreplay but when it comes to intercourse he says I take to long and he cant wait. Help! I love him so much but our sex life is discouraging. I dont have a problem telling him what I want.
2007-03-10 08:12:32 · update #1
I dont agree with Itwatkin because all he told you to is something that will please your man, when really what you want is whatever he said done to you. In a way he have a point. The best way to let a man know to take his time with his foreplay and love making is by talking to and promising to show him how you want it. Thats when you can jump in and show him exactly what you talking about by doing everything Itwatkin mentioned. Now you can do these things he mentioned all day long for years but the point is that he still wont have any idea that this is the way you want him to return the favor UNLESS YOU LET HIM KNOW THAT IT IS TOTALLY NECESSARY. You need to let him know that you want him but you need a little bit of time to get excited. Females take 10 min to get to that point, men can get excited in 2 and it is going to be visible. Females are the ones that need to get lubricated and relaxed in order to make sex very pleasuring. Some of us need time for that and a lot of play. Thats when foreplay is very essential. And i think this is exactly what you meant when you said 'romantic in bed'. So my advice...talk to him. Just dont bring it up after sex or during. Just talk to him sometime when both of you home and chilling. Make sure you approach to him by asking him simple questions like "Babe you think our sexual like the best it can be?" or "Hey, can we talk about this.....i always been satisfied with you but i think we can do better" or "I need you to take a lil bit of time, you think you can do it for me?", etc. Good luck and have fun.
2007-03-10 08:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they're extremely awesome! if he's so gentle with u now then u know in bed it would be the same unless u tell him what to do and trust me they do it! and him not kissing u just means he's looking for a longterm relationship so he's takin it slow and doesnt want to rush u. but u can be extra flertacious and speed up the process its all up to but try not to act needy or he'll totally back off oh and try to act like ur not attracted to him it makes them want u even more, he'll work harder 4 u!!
2016-03-16 08:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be direct with him and tell him what it is you need in order to be satisfied. Be specific in what you ask for. Don't just say you want him to slow down......tell him what you want him to do. It might feel a little strange to ask him these things because most people are shy when it comes to discussing sex but that is the way to do it.
2007-03-10 07:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to take control in the bedroom. I tell you what get him in the room and sit him either on the bed or in a chair and give him a strip tease or just tease him period. But here's the catch rub on him form herad to toe lick him, grab him, caress him but don;t let him touch you until YOU are ready for it. This will drive him absolutly crazy he will want to touch you so bad and stick to your guns on this if he tries to touch you just push his hands back or tell him you're gonna stop what you are doing if he does touch you. By the time that you are ready to touch him he'll be ready to explode. Good luck
2007-03-10 07:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Share with him with a book of romance.
2007-03-11 21:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by fong p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure out what kind of romance you want and tell him
2007-03-10 07:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what u want. Act very s-e-x-y too.
2007-03-10 07:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by The Curse of Curves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
2007-03-10 07:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by mary m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋