im 18 and theres this guy thats 26. i used to talk to him just like freinds nothing more. he was cool to talk to. but after a while he started to have feelings for me. and when i found out i told him that i didnt feel the same way. im sick when i was born i was born with a illnes so this illness stops me from doing any thing. but he wont give up on me he says that he rather dei than not have me in his life. but i dont feel the same about him. and i did everything possible that i know to make him stop. but i see that nothing works. help i need some good advice!!!!! help help help any one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-10 07:49:11 · 15 answers · asked by *****heart***** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks to every one who gave be advice. but no hes not stalking me or harassing me. and yes i told him how i feel and i dont answer his calls or anything. and he stoped talking to me and calling me. but the last talk we had about 6 months go he said that he rather dei than not have me!!! and my dad talked to him about a week ago and my dad brought the subject about me up. he told my dad that he didnt want to talk about it but my dad didnt drop it. so he said that he never stoped loving me and never will.he said that hell give me my space untill i relize that i love him too. and him he has to wait for the rest of his live for me that he rather do that than get marred and me to get better....he belives that if i get better than i relize that we are ment..
2007-03-10 08:18:41 · update #1
Hello there! I would definately come out to him with your true feelings. Tell him how you feel and that you don't feel the same about him and stick with it! you can do it! Sometimes you just have to end it all together, even though it may be tough at first...but doing that will give you both peace.
2007-03-10 07:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by kitten_z0916 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if you can't or don't want to be with him, then don't. easier said than done yea, i know. but if it's starting to bother you then you should tell him! Sometimes being nice about not wantng him can just fuel thier fire, be strong, be firm. worst come to worst go down to the court house and file a restraining order. the paper work is easy to complete but emotionaly hard to complete. i suggest having someone who knows what happening go with you for support. thje restraining order will make it so he can't contact you in anyway for at least a year, after that year, you just have to have it renewed...but thats the very very last resort. good luck
2007-03-10 08:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by mkchappelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really serious - you need to talk to the police - they can file him for harrassment. Just tell him first, say that you do not want him as a boyfriend and if he cant keep away you will go to the police.... if he still insists, do it - it seems he may be obssessed with you - then he needs professional help. Good luck.
2007-03-10 07:57:25 · answer #3 · answered by gudsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really don't like him you shouldn't even consider him at all regardless of your illness.Don't let him to continue to try persuade you, you only giving him hope by doing that.Tell him that you and him will never be and was never meant to be and its not going to happen ever so back off record your phone calls so you'll have some evidence, put it in god hands, tell one of his buddies to cool off, and if that dont work ask for a restraining order if he continue and you have some sort of evidence that he wont **** off.
2007-03-10 07:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure you've done "everything," since you are obviously still communicating with the man.
Tell him saomething like: "This is the last time I want to have this discussion. I have told you before how I feel, and it makes me very uncomfortable for you to continue to say these things. If you continue, I will no longer be able to speak with you at all. I enjoy our friendship, and would hate to end it, but I will have to if you refuse to respect my wishes."
Then stick to your guns.
2007-03-10 07:54:03 · answer #5 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pick up phone when he calls, you keep record what he left messages on answering machine.
Don't open the door when he stop by your home.
Don't respond e-mail him when he send an e-mail and keep it for show police.
Save gifts when he send it to you, but don't respond it.
You need any evidence to show police that he won't stop. OK good luck!
2007-03-10 08:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by foxxmay2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he stalking you? If so, you need to get a restraining order from the police. Warn him first. Is there a male relative that can tell him to back off?
This can be serious. Don't take it lightly.
2007-03-10 07:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's harrassing/stalking you, that's a matter you need to take to the police. Since you sound so desperate, maybe it's time for the next step to make him stop.
2007-03-10 07:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rawr_Kitty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should give him a try. you're feelings for him might change if you take the relationship to a new level between you two. and he cares about you in more than one way so why not give him a chance? good luck.
2007-03-10 07:57:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to do something drastic to get him to understand. Threaten to call the police if he doesn't quit harrassing you, or tell him you have a bf that is very jealous and might hurt him.
2007-03-10 07:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by supertop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋