My bf has been talking to someone on his phone only when I'm not around. He has her number saved in his phone as "B", not even her whole name. I called the number back and I recieved her voice mail in which she stated her name is Bianca. I am afraid to confront my bf about it because he'll know that I got her number off of his phone. He normally tells me about the friends he meets and has no problem talking to them when I'm around. But he's never mentioned her. What do I do?
2007-03-10 07:46:51 · 16 answers · asked by DRE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry, but it doesn't sound good. it's pretty obvious that he is hiding something from you. whether he has cheated YET is another question, but sounds like he intends to. you should confront him, he'll probably have some kind of lame excuse, or he'll get really defensive and make it your fault for looking in his phone. what a jerk!
2007-03-10 07:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say confront him. What do you have to lose? So what if he finds out you got the number from his phone, if its not a big deal, he won't make a big deal out of it, if he does, then just forget about him and the relationship. You don't need to waste your time with someone who had secrets and who is untrustworthy.
If you don't want to confront him then I suggest waiting for a while to see how long this goes on before he mentions it to him or the next time he leaves to talk on the phone, ask him about it. If he blows it up, then his feelings are involved and he is hiding something, if that is the case, get out of there. Its not worth the heartache
2007-03-10 15:52:44 · answer #2 · answered by First Lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but it sounds like he's cheating on you, or getting ready to cheat on you. He put the initial on there instead of the name thinking that would be enough to fool you if you happened to see it. Confront him, you don't even have to tell him how you found out. Just tell him that a little birdy told you that he's messing with somebody named Bianca. Of course he'll probably lie to you about it when you do. Do what your instincts tell you to do. I kept thinking this guy I was dating was cheating on me but I stayed with him anyway. Finally I got slapped with the truth and immediately broke up with him. I could have saved myself the years I wasted on him and the stress I felt wondering if he cheated on me. You deserve better than some guy who is going to lie to you and cheat on you.
2007-03-10 15:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think its a risk u should take ...u have to ask him ...searching in his phonebook is not so right but u can just ask him ho is B? i accidently saw the name if he tells u about it then so it be but if he lies about it and try to hide something then back off and see what he would want to say later ....thats how i would deal with thius situation but still u know the guy you should decide the way...Good Luck ....dont worry it wont be really cheating ..maybe just boared and want some fun or something ...hopefully its not but listen....that what most guys do
2007-03-10 15:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ring her and ask her, then confront him. He's hiding something from you and it's usually nothing good in these situations. Do you really need to be with someone dishonest and probably unfaithful? There are plenty of guys who will treat you better.
2007-03-10 15:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him without saying anything about snooping, etc. and don't make him feel like you backed him up in a corner. He'll let more out if he doesn't feel so targeted.
2007-03-10 15:50:53 · answer #6 · answered by Rawr_Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask to see his phone and when looking at his contacts ask who B is and if he says it is my friend bianca ask why u never heard of her. Try that =]] Hope it works
2007-03-10 15:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u have to confront him and let him know how u feel....because if u don't u'll only be playing ur self and if he gets all up set, then yea.........he, is cheating... cause if he is not doing any thing then there should be no need to get up set!! BEST OF LUCK.
2007-03-10 15:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by bye bye!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would beat him at his game i would just break it off with him out of the blue blow his mind with it and go on and find someone that is going to treat you right he is working on someone else good luck hon just remember you deserve better than that
2007-03-10 15:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by poohbear27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are in one of 3 states of mind. They are cheating, they are thinking about cheating, they are thinking about the consequences of cheating. It is one of them.
2007-03-10 15:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋