Me ex broke up with me and I am pregnant. He moved 20 hours away. He knew I was pregnant when he left. We are young, 22 & 23. Been together for awhile, lived together. Engaged before baby. He thought I was dating someone else and flipped out, I told him I wasn't. Now he tells me that he started "talking" to another girl...already..haven't even been broken up a month. I am busy with getting my babys room ready but I still want him to come to his senses. He moved with his father who deserted him when he was a child. Has this ever happened to someone before? I am trying to move on but its hard when I have a part of him growing inside of me. I really do love him and would never get back with him just because of the baby. He said that towards the end we fought too much, well, I'm pregnant.
2007-03-10 07:42:50 · 11 answers · asked by maryjane_catnip 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, this happens to people all the time. You only have one choice here, to decide to make the best life possible for you and your baby, without the jerk who left you. What he did to you was cruel, and it doesn't sound like he's a very good boyfriend and probably wouldn't make a very good father. I know it hurts terribly, but you have to stop calling him and focus on yourself and the precious baby you have growing inside of you. Your ex is the one who will be missing out, not you. You deserve much better than how this guy has treated you. Good Luck.
2007-03-10 07:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you. My sister had this happen to her - although he wanted her to have his baby and this child is now 7 yrs old and she cant get over the guy still. He has moved on, married someone else and has 3 kids to her. My niece has no communication with her father and I think this is sad. Your boyfriend is selfish and immature, perhaps he didnt want a child but to do the same thing his father did to him is crazy, you would expect he had learnt from it. The best advise I can offer is to look at your future as a single mother, if you can accept you will have no support from the dad, if you can move on and be open to a new love (in the future) then things should work out for you. Please dont think that because you love the father of your child he will come back to you - this is a fantasy and this could ruin your future. Try to find love and happiness with your own parents, siblings and friends - men are never usually reliable and you have already started with your left foot forward. Good luck and keep positive. God bless.
2007-03-10 07:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by gudsport 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that I've ever been in your position, but I would advise you not to depend so much on your ex. He obviously doesn't want the responsibility of a child, and do you really want your baby to have a father that, at sometime, will leave their life? It'll be a cycle, just all over again. Find someone else, like a good friend, or maybe your mother or father(?) that can help you.
2007-03-10 07:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rawr_Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, men scare easily I think. I got pregnant early in the relationship and he left us and turned to drug abuse right after my son was born. Locked up for 2 years, just got out and he hasn't called or anything, he moved in with his father who abandoned him when he was young, makes you wonder if the abandonment issues run in the family. Anyway not to get you down, but my son is almost 4 now, his dad hasn't called or seen him in over 2 years...Im a single mom and I think we are better off not to have someone like him in our life, if he doesn't care about his own child enough to be there for you and see what this puts you through is he the type of person you want in your childs life?
2007-03-10 07:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by stacy f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear this. It sounds as though the had two things going on here. The loss of his father his entire life, the needing and desire of a relationship with him, and you becoming pregnant scared the hell out of him. Hopefully, he will come to his senses and do a better job at being a father then his father did with him. Good luck and God bless****
2007-03-10 07:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens all the time. Commitment scares cowardly guys. This is what happens when you get pregnant with no commitment. Make sure you file for child support.
2007-03-10 07:47:59 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any man that could leave you under these conditions does not deserve you or that baby....have no further contact with him...make it on your own and you and that baby willhave a wonderful life...good luck
2007-03-10 07:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's not good...um that happened to my mom when she was pregnant w\ my sister. forget him....go move in w\ your brother,sister,parents,etc. jst find someone....i would also suggest a bible study and re-newed abstinence
2007-03-10 07:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by yeahh_buddy23231 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but i don't know what to do. the most i can do it say i wish you luck.
2007-03-10 09:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never happened to me and not gonna let it
2007-03-10 07:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋