i had sex before marrige does god still love me?

Question

im only 14.
my friend was over and she asked me if her boyfriend & his friend could come over i said yes and my friend and her boyfriend where on the top bunk while me and the other kid where on the bottom bunk of my bed.
I made the first move by kissing him,i guess i did it becasue he was really hot but i still shouldnt have anyways then things escaladed & i told him where not having sex but he kind of forced me into it but i made him stop.
anyways a few days after it happend he called me and I let him come over again then we actually had sex,
that was my first time ever doing it and it was with someone i dont even know.
i made him use a condom, it broke but im not pregnant.
thank god.
right now hes in juvi for drugs.
i cannot bieleve i would do something like this to myslef & to god.
i am a christian and i love god with all of my heart.
but im just wondering what i should do to make this situation better?

Answer 1

learn from it. learn your limitations then don't cross that line again.

Answer 2

It is very hard these days to be pure and wait to get married, I did my share of fooling around but I did not have sex until I was married to my husband who was also a virgin. What is done is done. Ask God for forgiveness and go on with your life.
I never meant to go as far as I did and I felt awful because I was a new Christian at that time but 1 John 1:9 Says If you confess your sins He is faithful and just to forgive your sins and cleanse you from all unrighteousness. Talk to and older in the Lord that you can trust God is with you and He has not stopped loving you. Be encouraged and here are some hugs for youooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

Peace be with you
Encourager4God John 14:27

Answer 3

Well, this really brought out the punters. Far more than my question about whether there are any Sudoku puzzles amenable only to exhaustive enumeration. Wonder why? (LOL) I think you get the general jist. You are forgiven, not only by God but by most of the respondents here. Go and sin no more.

You know, God forgave Saul, who actively persecuted the early Christian church, and he became Paul, not only forgiven but singled out for the top job of bringing the early Church to the people. And Jesus forgave the thief condemned to die on a cross alongside Him. And God forgives criminals with murder and more on their hearts, for Jesus said "Though your sins be as crimson, they shall be white as snow."

So don't beat yourself up about the past. There are reasons why God doesn't want unmarried 14 year olds to have sex. Part of that is that you can very easitly be exploited by older men who want nothing but sex. Believe me, I know. All men do if they are honest with themselves.

Your gift of love will make you and some good man very happy one day. But right now, there is the matter of an education and growing up to do.

Look after yourself, and seek wise counsellors when you feel confused or unsure of yourself. People are praying for you.

Answer 4

I am so glad that you posted this question. There is nothing that anyone of us can do that would separate us from the Love of God , if we are in Christ. You say that you are a Christian- then confess to the Lord that you were wrong- CONFESS- means agreeing with Him about the situation- what you said makes me believe you have already done that- then repent- which actually means to turn away from the sin back to the Lord. IF you confess, He is faithful and just to forgive you and cleanse you from all unrighteousness. Even though physically you have lost your virginity- spiritually you can be renewed- make that commitment to purity and allow Him to forgive you and give you strength. Knowing you did something wrong is the beginning of the healing process. I counsel young girls and have seen many turn back to purity. I am so thankful that you are not pregnant.

Answer 5

God loves everyone and will forgive you if you are truly sorry for your sins. "To err is human, to forgive divine."

In my view, you have basically only committed a sin against yourself, since you are the only one who will suffer the consequences. It is much worse to me to commit sins that hurt other people, and luckily you have not done this.

Again, in my understanding, God is only concerned with sins that do damage to ourselves or others because he cares and wants the best for us. You can't actually "hurt" God, since he is all-powerful.

If you are Catholic, you might go and confess to your priest, otherwise you can speak with your minister or other trusted person who can help you work through your issues about this.

It is generally considered that 14 is too young to start having sex, and there could be serious implications if you continue. Having a child at 15 or catching a disease would be immeasurably worse for your life than just having sex.

All God can ask is that you try to control yourself better and refrain from sex until you are older.

Answer 6

Don't beat your self up about it just ask God to forgive you and mean it and wait til the right man comes along and marries you then he will love you all the more for waiting for him and you have already confessed it to us you will not have to ever tell any one else if you don't want to because God has for given you all ready you just need to for give your self you are human just ask God to help you stay out of sin from now on! God protected you this time but don't take any chances next time you might not be so lucky! stay a way from bad boys and ask God for help and protection from bad boys! you can e-mail me if you want I am a good listen and I have helped many young people too!

Answer 7

God loves you no matter what you did. Would you still love your child or friend if they had sex before marriage? God has even more compassion on us than we do our own children or friends.

God tells us not to do these things because he doesn't want us to cause hurt to ourselves or to other innocent people... like babies of 14 year old children... like diseases that we catch and spread... like guilt and shame that we carry with us.

This happened to me. I just felt so special to that person for just a minute. I felt so loved, for just a minute. I felt like he cared about me for just a minute. Then, I was ashamed and embarrassed and pregnant.

It felt good to seem special to someone. I didn't want sex. I just wanted to be loved and cuddled. I just wanted to make him happy. I didn't want to tell him no because that seemed mean. I didn't want to lose his friendship or make him mad at me. But, like your experience, it didn't work very well. It didn't last very long.

Maybe you could find another way to feel special, to make someone else feel special.

But, God still loves you; He forgives you; and He has forgotten about it. The bible says he puts our sins as far away as the east is from the west. Now you try to do the same.

Answer 8

i think of abstinence is bull****. It would not extremely resolve any problems, all you're doing isn't doing something you opt to try this's certainly exciting. human beings make this super deal over virginity, while extremely, there is not something to kick back approximately it. I mean, the 1st time is in basic terms approximately unanimously undesirable except your significant other has heavily extra journey than you. in case you experience such as you opt to have intercourse with somebody, then via all means as long as you utilize risk-free practices, why not? Why stress go against all organic instinct and anticipate the government to grant you a bite of paper until now you have intercourse? All this does is create rushed marriages while extremely human beings could be at the same time 2-3 years until now marriage as that's the universal length that the "domestic dog love" lasts, the place you're doing it in each room of the residing house. as long because it would not harm everyone, why not do regardless of you opt to do? regardless of if i presumed in God, and could visit hell for eternity for it, i would not wait, in basic terms because of the fact i think of it motives extra problems than it solves. not because of the fact i'm a guy and that i stay for intercourse, because of the fact that's in basic terms effortless stupid.

Answer 9

A wise preacher once said, "When you sin, don't run from God. Run TO God".
Yes, God still loves you. Pray that He gives you the power to avoid temptation. Sex is one of the biggest temptations in life. You will mess up your life if you get discouraged about it and just become promiscuous. God will forgive and help you. Ask Him to help you. That's what He does.
God bless you.

Answer 10

awww..well. Everyone makes mistakes. That's why we have a savior who forgives us.
You need only repent and turn away from this and ask the Lord to cleanse you. He will do it!
Get back into church and into the word of God. Those things will strengthen you. And always be vigilant about how you spend your time, and with who. Don't give yourself an opportunity to fall into sin again.
You are young, have fun with boys in groups with your friends from church. That will protect you .

Answer 11

Yes, God still loves you. But please don't have sex anymore. If you are not pregnant, you are very lucky. You can also get a lot of very ugly diseases, even with a condom. You are worth far more than some cheap sex. Treat yourself with respect and insist that others do as well.