We tried once and i think it really hurt for her. she scrunched up her face and so i stopped and she said to keep going and that she would just cover her face with a pillow so i didnt see her pain! why is it hurting her? is there anyway we can make it not hurt? she says she wants to do this but could she be lying? why would someone want to have something painful happen to them? i love her very much and dont think i can hurt her on purpose, it doesnt seem like its worth it even for sex... what should i do?
2007-03-10 07:31:59 · 13 answers · asked by wq e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
where are you taking it?
2007-03-10 07:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you sound like a standup guy for not wanting to intentionally hurt her. She's a lucky girl!
She probably isn't lying about wanting you; sex is more than just a physical relationship, there's a strong emotional bond involved that she has chosen to share with you. For most women, it hurts really badly the first time! my boyfriend was exactly the same way with me; I practically had to force him. We took it VERY slowly; push till it hurt, then wait until it didn't, then push a little more. I still believe it was worth the pain (by the way, it doesn't hurt at all after the first couple of times!) If you are both ready for such an emotional commitment, then proceed, but go slowly. It will stop hurting eventually. Above all, TALK to her! tell her your fears! she'll appreciate your caring and honesty, and will try to help you make it less painful for her. Eventually this will be a pleasurable experience, both physically and emotionally, for both of you. Good luck!
2007-03-10 07:43:24 · answer #2 · answered by Chamberienne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K, firstly, you are going to have to make sure she is REALLY turned on before you go there again. Lots and lots of foreplay!!!!!! Get some lube, get her going, and then just get it done. You want to make sure that she is as prepared as possible, hon.
My first time hurt, but I didn't care because he went to a lot of effort to make sure that I got some pleasure out of it. Once the pain subsided it was all good.
Good luck! And btw, it's nice to see a guy care so much about his girl that he's thinking of forgoing sex because he doesn't want to hurt her. She's a lucky girl, and obviously loves you.
2007-03-10 07:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by bcs_boadicea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of that's amazingly candy which you will agonize approximately your girlfriends thoughts. you're able to in basic terms take it sluggish. do not stick your penis in each and each of how. After she feels comfortable with that progressively slip it each and each of how in. God Bless!!!!!!!
2016-10-01 21:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she said keep going.
has it occurred to you that her face was scrunched up by intense pleasure??
2007-03-10 07:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh. Doesn't sound like either or you are ready. Wait a few years.
2007-03-10 07:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying, be patient, unexperienced girls supposely have the best sex so keep going.
2007-03-10 07:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow. you're a lucky guy, man. your girl must really love you. i don't know what to say, but good luck with that.
2007-03-10 07:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by Austin Tyler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sex hurts the first time dont worry but tis the pain thats the fun part
u ever heard passion of pain well this is what it is
2007-03-10 07:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by Angad 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Lube and the right hole.
2007-03-10 07:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by daboss 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋