He still comes to my house and tells all of my friends that he wants to be with me. I don't belive this crap. Lately, I believe he has started stalking me I can't stand the thought of him being married, but on the other I don't want to disrespect his marriage vows and be with him.Since, karma is a b*^%&!!! He is making me see him for the person he truly is and I don't ever think that I want to have anything to do with him. But he is so FINE!!!
What should I do?
2007-03-10 07:11:12 · 25 answers · asked by gangsta ma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, this sounds familiar. I dated a guy for quite some time and he eventually married someone else. Things was not going the way he thought it should go in his marriage. He started telling everyone I knew that he still loved me, he hate we broke up and marrying his wife was a bad and fast decision. He was also fine but I found it in my heart and self to say, I don't want to hear it, I don't want no confused man nor do I want another woman's husband. I ignored it and moved on with my life. Yes, I still had feelings for him but I made myself realize that if this man would do this to his wife, he would do this to me (and I won't having it).
Please don't allow yourself to fall for this man. Tell him to stop coming around because you are single and you need to associate yourself with single men not married men. Tell the folk who keeps telling you he said this and that that you don't want to hear that either. The people who was bringing news to me about what my ex said, I eventually told them " I really don't want to hear what a married, confused man have to say about me" and that stop that. Be strong and don't allow yourself to have a relationship with him. Think about it, if he wanted you, he would have married you. He is now looking for something on the side, don't let it be you.
2007-03-10 07:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-07 16:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by Gilbert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's married now then he is in the category of ,,,, OFF LIMITS ,,,, He's evidently letting his glands do his thinking for him if he had you and married some one else ,,,, But you just might consider that you are the better off for it ,,,, I mean if he's married to some one else and he still hangs around you or his old stomping grounds then what's to say he wouldn't do the same thing to you that he's doing to the wife he's supposed to love ,,,, He's history for you sugar ,,,, Time to turn a page in the book of your life and start a new chapter ,,,, I see no profit in it for you to keep worrying and fretting about this ,,,, There is none ,,,, It's obvious that he doesn't even realized He severed all relationships with you when he got married so that shows you just how much he respects the "I do" factor ,,,, With allot of guys it's I do until he doesn't want to anymore ,,,, He might be pleasant to look at but he's really ugly on the inside ,,,, He obviously has no respect for you or his wife or the sanctity of his marriage if he's acting the way you described ,,,, You just don't marry someone and keep saying that you want to be with some one else ,,,, He's a loser and that's what he's going to make of anyone that lets him have his way ,,,, True tale ,,,, bottom line and end of story ,,,, Go find some one that deserves you ,,,, One of the stars you got for this post is mine ,,,, Good luck ,,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,,,
2007-03-10 09:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds like you are saying you don't really like this guy, based on the fact that he cheats (be it on his wife, or whomever, he cheats) and he may be a nut by stalking you. He has no respect for women, for his vows, for things that he promises a girl.
BUT you hate that he's married because he looks good. That is pretty shallow. I know I wont get points for this, but that is really low. Think of what you would tell a friend if she were in exactly the same position as you. Exactly the same. Now think of what you would tell a friend if she were the married girl, the one married to this loser.
Looks are soo important as we are dating. But you need to find a GOOD MAN. A man you can COUNT ON. A man that brings you UP, makes you BETTER. This jerk is a loser and he just misses being single. And apprently you play right into that.
2007-03-10 07:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by WriterMom 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like you need professional help. you obviously have a very unstable relationship with this married guy, and for that very reason it seems as though you're not using your better judgment. If you truly feel he's stalking you, then for the sake of all parties involved, I urge you to go to the police and file a restraining order. Don't take anymore of his calls. Don't call him or keep in contact with him by any means. If he continues to harass you, then don't hesitate to call the police. At a time like this you need support, so seek out friends and family who you feel are rational and ethical, and keep them informed of the situation.
This guy sounds like a narcissist, who seems to lack all good sense. A real loser. Hopefully you and his wife will be able to see this soon.
2007-03-10 07:43:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He may be fine on the outside but the inside is rotten, dear.
There are lots of fine guys out there. I didn't see them before when I was heartbroken, but I do now and you will too.
Real men are what we want to have, but in order to get them we need to use a good filter. One filter type is self-respect. Another kind is "Tell your ex to drop dead".
2007-03-10 08:10:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kerosa S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay the hell away from him. If he's only been married 5 minutes and he's coming back to you, it sounds like a situation that can only get more and more messy and confusing. Threaten to tell his wife, that may do the trick. Irrespective of how fine he is, its quite obvious that he's a d***head, so thank your lucky stars YOU arent the poor soul married to him, and run the hell away from him!
2007-03-10 07:15:02 · answer #7 · answered by lululaluau 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
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2015-09-28 16:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him and ask him not to come to your house anymore. How would you feel if your husband was going to see an ex? He chose to marry someone else and you should be out of the picture. You are not disrepecting his amrriage vows, he is. But it is up to you to ask him to not come around again.
2007-03-10 07:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to leave all that extra baggage in 06' and move on to bigger and better things in yo life n 07'......real talk..
1st: u need to start off by not lettn him come to your house, if u keep seein him your gonna keep wantn him...
2nd: hes gettn everything he wants but your not, hes the one thats married but is still able to see and spend time with you... if he wants you like he say he do then he would leave his wife for you.... but i guess he all talk cause he aint and dont look like he will be makn that move kno time soon...
3rd: You should never let a man juggle u around especially in the situation he is in.... I hate to say it but to me it seems like your a back up now.....and u should always be the front runner. Quit lettn him get his way and move on sweetie u deserve better............
Signin Off
Good Luck
2007-03-10 07:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by so-sexi 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋