Ok, theres this girl I've known since I was 7, and we always had strong feelings for eachother, and last year I asked her on a date, and we went out for afew months, but then she left me because she said she had feelings for someone else.She soon found out that the boy she had feelings for already had a girlfriend, so within a week she had started going out with one of my friends, but it didnt work out. Now, a month after they broke up, she sends me an E-mail telling me she still has feelings for me and is really sad and sorry really wants to get back together, and that she understands if I don't want to. When I read this I got butterflies in my stomach and I'm not sure why. Should I get back together with her??
2007-03-10 07:10:56 · 4 answers · asked by Mr.Right 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would wait. It sounds to me like she is going for the safe bet and a familiar relationship to ease her loneliness. Tell her that while you have feelings for her, you don't want to be her safety net or a rebound. If she is willing to wait a bit and see if the feelings are really there, then I would go for it.
2007-03-10 07:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by bcs_boadicea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah to be perfectly honest with you i've been there done that..I went through the exact same thing that is happening to you.It had me so spun around that i went to see a councilor about it..and this woman explained to me that this type of woman is not a person who will ever be the commitment type.She is the kind of person who thinks that the grass is allways greener on the other side of the hill and also spends her time thinking she can do and get better.But she allways wants a "safety" waitting in the wings and that's exactly what you have become..She is affraid of being alone but doesn't want to chance missing out on something better..this councilor told me to run a personal test if i wanted to so i did..She told me to get a whole bunch of friends to go out for an everning and ask this girl to come out also but just as friends "to see how things go" then to make sure i had one of my single friends who she doesn't know very well to come along and when my back is turned to make passes at her and flirt with her and really get the rest of the gang to go along with the plan and really make it look like this "guy" is succesfull and a real nice guy..at the end of the evening before everyone goes home he is to slip her his phone number ..then wait to see if she tells me about this guy making a move on her or wait to see if she calls him without saying a word to me..now keep in mind this is a girl who "realizes she made a mistake" and wants to get back together with me...after i dropped her off at home within the hour my friend called me to tell me she had called him to see what he was up to and wondering if he would like to get together sometime.So i'm glad i dodged that bullet..so either do what i did or come up with some other plan of your own..but for now don't jump into any situation where you may end up getting hurt..even though we are guys we do have feelings..and even though women think we treat them like meat..more than often it's the other way around..these days most women look at men and ask themselves "what can i get from this guy-what can he do for me" ..i know i have alot of women friends and the way they act when they are out looking for men is sometimes extremely discusting.. so good luck my friend.
2007-03-10 15:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by rcbrokebones 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She went the other way and the door closed on her and now she wants reversal and seeking to get what she could have had at first. So bottomline is you close the door too and go on with your life in a different direction yet be nice and friendly about it all.
2007-03-10 15:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES
she likes u
u like her
GO 4 IT
2007-03-10 15:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by Marnett Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋