Why do guys act differently when you're alone than when you're in a group? This guy and I kind of flirt with each other. I'm mid 20s and he's early 30s so it's not like we're high school kids. When it's just been the 2 of us, even for a few minutes he's really sweet. But we get in a group and he's Mr. Joke Guy and doesn't seem as responsive. Why do guys do that? What does it mean?
2007-03-10 06:55:07 · 31 answers · asked by Squeegy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
guys act differently around their friends..,
2007-03-10 06:57:26 · answer #1 · answered by Josy M 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most guys (immature as we tend to be) have a persona that we have when we are around friends. This is because we can't show our "soft" side to everyone. That would make us look weak. So that side is saved for when you two are alone. Hoever, when there is a group, we tend to be a bit more macho. With age (I know you are not kids anymore) it gets better and more acceptable to be a bit kinder to those we care about. I would sit down and talk to him about it. Let him know that it bothers you a bit. See how he reacts. If he flies off at the handle, then you need to re-examine your commitment to this guy.
2007-03-10 15:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by Gary M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know something i been trying to find the answer to this question for sooooo long, and now i have finally found it, i been in a couple relationships to know why they do it, and its simply because some guys dont want there friends to think that they are, or possibly "in love" or really " like" you. They try to hide it! when there with u, there the nicest guy u have ever been with, very caring, loving, affectionate, true gentle men, but when there with thier guys then here comes mister joker, who suddenly doesnt know ur there, who might pay attention to you here and there. Its just somethin that all men do, it doesnt mean they dont like you, its just in there nature i guess, lol. well good luck, and maybe u should sit down and talk to him if u really dont like it, thats what i did!
2007-03-10 15:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by yolif862002 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most people do that. They feel like they need to joke around to cover their own insecurities and he probably feels embarassed to be like he is with you on your own because he thinks he may get some stick for being sensitive. It isn't the done thing for a guy around guys. I've done it before, and i'll probably do it again. It's nothing against you, its just to protect our image in the eyes of our mates. Don't feel bad, it's just one of those things
2007-03-10 15:21:18 · answer #4 · answered by drummanmatthew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think it's their insecurity. And when they're around other people, guys feel like they have to be the "alpha male" in some way. I wouldn't take it personally right now. If you end up in a relationship with him and he treats you differently in front of people, that's a different story. But for right now, don't worry so much about it. Sometimes men feel like if they show their emotions in front of people it makes them look weak. Just take it slow & see where things go.
2007-03-10 14:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by hlynae 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
were different things at different times,when your hangin with your boys,your one of them and when your around your lady you need to be all sweet and nice. like when you go to church your on your best behavior,not like at a football game or something.when i am at work i am BU2,(I'm in the navy) but when i come home i am daddy and husband.not a big deal just different roles we play in our lives.
as far as him not being as responsive to you do you speak up and get his attention?get in the mix and have some fun. it seems he is the life of the party so to speak and he has his attention at a lot of places at once,being mister joke guy.
2007-03-10 15:15:28 · answer #6 · answered by donald k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us guys, as you say are a peculiar breed. Personally I'm 38 and have and always will be the same in a crowd vs. being alone.
If he were really "into you", then he would make it a point to let others in a crowd know that he is. The 'cold shoulder' stuff is so high schoolish. I welcome you to find the kind of man who would ALWAYS treat you with respect. Because the way you describe it, he's not respecting you and your relationship. (If there is one)
2007-03-10 15:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by briantbilane 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that is really normal i think. my husband is still that way after 5 years. isn't it normal for anyone to be more outgoing and social when they are with a group of friends. maybe you are reading too much into it, or being too needy.
2007-03-10 15:00:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men want to be the cool guy around their friends no matter how old they are. As long as he aint disrespecting you in front of friends or people is the only thing that matters.
2007-03-10 15:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by pharroahofgreece 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's ego my friend. some guys gotta act one way to impress a group and another way to impress just one gal. there's no use understanding it, just try to deal but if he's a real jerk, then quit him. actually, it doesn't even sound like you're really together so that should be easy.
2007-03-10 14:59:56 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if he did all the things he does around you and did them around other people as well mostly guys he would be made fun and the other guys would think of him as a l3itch so he only does them around you that is actually a good thing if you would just think about it.
2007-03-10 15:03:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋