What is the future of a rape victim?

Question

What do I have to look forward to ? Has anyone ever ben through it and feels perfectly fine now ?

I know it wasnt my fault and all that. Im just asking for more insight.

Answer 1

Your future is going to be what you want it to be. If you are going to dwell on being a victim, then that is what you will be. I can say you will never feel perfectly fine. You will feel better. You will feel safer. You won't blame yourself. You can be alone with a man again, find love, get married and have children. You will have a life but it's going to take time, lots of time. Allow yourself that time. Allow yourself to live again. Pray if you believe. It helps.

May God Bless you.

Answer 2

Basically the key lies in this word "victim". I know society lables you that way but if you take on that viewpoint about yourself it will taint the rest of your life.
You may have experienced an incident where your self determinism was forcefully undermined, and for that instant became a "victim". But that self determinism was not destroyed or erased by this event. Nothing can do that unless YOU agree to let it.
It was only temporarily suppressed.
That suppression is no longer in the present moment...... unless YOU or others keep putting it there with this label, of "victim".
That is how you "moved on". Look around you and locate the present. It is only you that can keep the past in the present. Just notice you are no longer in that moment, no longer a victim..... and let go, and you will be in the present and moving forward.

Answer 3

Yes !
The future is fine & you will definitly get over it,
with Gods help.
I was raped by a horrible man when I was sloshed one night.
I had a party at the station in Qld I was cartaking.
I was 24.
My girlfriend, the one I was just speaking of, (don't worry I'm not scitzo)
Well she woke up, realized after a bit that she had tried to fight him off before she passed out & raped her.
She found out she was pregnant & did the only thing she felt she could do & drove 3 hrs to the nearest clinic when the doc came down from Townsville.
I believe it was horrible.
But she recovered within weeks & has never looked back.

Answer 4

Well I'm going to share something with you I very rarely share. I was the victim of male rape. At the time male rape wasn't recognised and I had to walk past my attacker almost every day. However I learned to live with it. In small steps but I did learn to live with it. No one will ever say the path is easy, but I was determined I was not going to have my life ruined. I am fortunate to have some people in my life who were and still are an incredible support to me. I had to learn to be able to express how I felt even if it was bad. For only by giving expression to my feelings could I begin to come to terms with the reality of what had happened. Good luck my friend and stay strong.

Answer 5

It has been many years, I was 25 at the time. Fortunately, I was married at the time to a wonderful man who helped me recover. I couldn't sleep for weeks and I never left the house for quite awhile unless Tom was with me. I found myself pregnant and 6 weeks after the rape, I terminated the pregnancy. I did the right thing and I have no regrets.

Get some professional help. You need to talk to someone. I hope you reported it and will see that he is prosecuted.

It is 25 years later and I just accept that it happened and i survived. Time is a great healer.

Answer 6

that depends, do you want to move on or not?
it's all about your mindset. if you want to be progressive, start advancing. and it's not like you'll be hated or anything, especially not by God. I guess it may be easier for a Christian than most people, as they have the fruit of the Spirit (one part is peace; gladness coming from the knowledge that God is loving and knows what's best for you), and know that you can always pick yourself up (God'll help you if you want).

and it's not like it limits your potential, but I guess devastation is hard to get over with anybody in anyway. I prescribe God's peace and maybe comfort many times a day.

Answer 7

Yes, it has happened to me, and no I'm not perfectly fine now. There are times when I feel I've dealt with it, then it comes back to slap me in the face. Having said that, I live a perfectly normal life. I've done alot of soul-searching, and have come to respect the person I am. This is a part of my life, it's who I am, and I'm not a bad person. The hardest thing for me is forgiveness. I know if I walk around with hatred in my heart it only hurts me, not him. Good luck to you, you're in my prayers.

Answer 8

First of all I would like to say I'm sorry this terrible thing happened to you.
It has never happened to me but it has happened to someone I cared for very much.
The only thing you can really do is never stop believing in yourself...
They say that time heals all wounds but this is a very traumatic thing....my friend still has not gotten over it and I doubt she ever will.
you must find comfort within yourself knowing how much of a fantastic human being you really are.
you must be strong and never falter in loving yourself for who you are.
The future is yours to grasp and make of it what you will to the best of your abilities.
Be strong and you can thrive without fear or self loathing even though this horrible action was taken against you.
Trust your loved ones because they are there for you.
I truly despise and am saddened by what happened to you.
I hope you stay strong and find peace within yourself and use the future to your advantage.

Answer 9

Rape is a forced act that is imposed on a women.she is not guilty in that case...She does go under stress with it.but what all she has to do is to get ride of that psychological stress and thats it..!! thats is not the end of the world........Life is beautiful so is this world....start a new life with new spirit and don't look back ! Take it as a bad dream and look at your future.......don't let this destroy your whole life !

All the best !

Answer 10

perhaps when this happened to you -family and friends came together and showed their love for you. some people do not have this 'togetherness' - sometimes there is a light through all this pain and suffering - rape, disease, illness, children dying...and that is hope, faith, and finding out who is truly there for you - I hope you have found out and will continue to live by spreading your own love to those around you.