So if you've been dating a guy for 2 yrs, and broken up 3 times, and all 3 times its been a 2-5 mt thing, help
what are u suppose to do?
how do u read into it??
and what if when ur off he flirts with alot of other women??
plz reply sooon
thanks
2007-03-10 06:15:42 · 16 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's time to let it go.
I did the on-and-off thing twice, both very similar situations to the one you describe. We were together for a few months, would fight and separate for about 6 weeks, then get back together. With one of them, the third (and final) time we got back together, her friends literally took bets on how long we'd last that time.
You have to realize, the separation is your head telling you that the relationship isn't right. The getting back together is nothing more than your heart telling you you're lonely and that this is better than being alone or going through the trials of looking for another partner. Mostly being alone.
A counselor friend of mine once put it this way: "Some people convince themselves that being wanted for murder is better than not being wanted at all." Translated: some people think having the wrong kind of attention is better than no attention at all.
Lasting relationships aren't supposed to work like this. If you want a lasting, fulfilling relationship, you need to move on and look for someone else.
2007-03-10 07:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by JohnD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you've broken up with someone I don't think getting back together later will fix anything. Because you'll be with them for awhile and then you'll remember why you broke up the first, second, etc time.
Flirting with lots of other woman? I don't think he's worth the heartbreak. If he's said he'll change his ways, or has said it...actions speak louder than words.
Woman deserve a man that won't look twice at another woman, and say goes for woman. A relationship is suppose to be an equal and fair thing, not a constant battle over wondering what they are doing all the time.
I guessing if you've been with him for two years, there is something that keeps bring you back, but there's also something stronger that pushes you away.
I say go out, enjoy life, and find someone that will appreciate you and vice versa. Sometimes the best things happen when you least expect it.
2007-03-10 06:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Virginia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems to me this is an on again off again thing that isn't good for either of you. quit it, move on and find someone else that's more stable. if you've been dating over a 2 year period but have broken up 3 times for let's say 3 months each time, that's really only a little over a year that you have been together. stop now before it becomes harder for you to end it, from what you've said I don't think this is going anywhere.
2007-03-10 06:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is a organic issue. Its moves that make or damage a guy. there is healthful flirting and risky flirting. you'll understand the distinction. If it truly is the risky type then you definately will ultimately go away once you've felt sufficient soreness. reliable luck
2016-12-01 19:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on why you are breaking up, it sounds like he is a bit of a commitment phobe... the flirting could be because he is either trying to make you jealous so you get back with him, or because he really doesnt want to be in a relationship and wants to have a bit of fun. how would he react if you told him you weren't gonna get back with him? upset, angry? u are giving him the opportunity to just come back when he gets bored and lonely, so you need to be firm and say no. go out and have fun of your own when you are apart, he will realise what he's missing! don't be played by him. try talking to him about why you are breaking up in the first place. it should make things clearer for you.
2007-03-10 06:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am little surprised to read this question because your answer is in the previous question you asked about trust, communication and understanding in relationships.
Work on trust, communication and understanding in your relationship with your guy. Writing this way about your relationship is like putting it on the road, to let people disgrace it.
Respect it, talk to your guy, even he is so much willing to make it better for both of you. Trust him and relationship, communicate to him and reach an understanding between the two of you. May God shower all blessings, care and smiles on the two of you.
2007-03-10 19:32:16 · answer #6 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so u proved that the world is round coz u bumped into the same person over and over again....what patience u have! Hats off to u!...Either u think that u wont get any1 better than him or u love him tremendously!
Please ffind somone worth of u and leave him alone to die alone where he would only get to flirt with women and no1 to take care of him when he needs!
2007-03-10 06:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by jrom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh believe me boo boo. That is nothin. I've been dating for 6 months and we've broken up 6 times. It's been a once a month thing lol. But yeah just think.. When ever you guys do break up.. What does he do in that spare time? Maybe you should just take a break from each other. Not all guys are dogs, but all guys like to have their occasional fun.
2007-03-10 06:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley Sweets 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I feel for the amount of time that you both have been together that breaking up 3 times is alot. Perhaps you both are not meant to be together.
2007-03-10 09:08:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well get over him and move on for petes sake, its not going work so time for you and him to end this on again off again relationship ,, you dont need this kind hurt over and over so why set yourself up for the hurt in the first place
2007-03-10 06:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by beth b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋