I met a guy online while playing a yahoo game and he seems really nice but how do I know that he isn't some kind of freak or something? I need some advice.
2007-03-10 06:12:53 · 15 answers · asked by redrose998 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Protect yourself first of all. Don't give your real name! Don't give where you live! Try and get him to provide you with details about himself. Try to get a photo of him. Preferably one with other people in it. Be a little skeptical about everything. Find out his real name and check if he is in the phone book or mentioned in any of the normal public data bases. Write to each other.
If he is pushing for you to meet then be careful. Always meet in a public place. A mall or coffee shop is best. Some where there are a lot of people. Don't hesitate to make a scene if you feel threatened or something is wrong. Have a friend or parent near by or with you. So that if anything does go wrong you have someone to help you. Always let your friends and/or parents know what is going on.
I have met many nice people on line. It is a good way to make friends outside your normal circle. You do have to be sensible. Take normal and standard protection measures.
You will never know if he is some kind of freak until you reach out and touch him. If you go around looking for freaks you will find them. Just take sensible precautions. Be ready to back off if you are feeling unsafe and unsure.
2007-03-10 06:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by peter w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't know that he's not some kind of freak. That's the scary part. I don't have enough details to give you the green light on meeting him. I'd be careful about personal details and if you DO decide to meet him, do it in a very public place with some sort of buddy system with friends in place (someone else is there with you or knows where you're meeting this person) If you're in a public place and he gives you the creeps you can run for the hills. Trust your intuition, its there for a reason.I'd get as much background information on him as possible, if he's a stand up guy this shouldn't be a problem. If he doesn't seem willing to give you information all bets are off. If you are underage, talk to your parents about any meetings.
Good luck :)
2007-03-10 06:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a very difficult question. For starters, most of the "net"people are everyday nice folks. Not a perv among them. But there are exceptions My recommendation is (if you are in contact with the guy) get a phone number. DON"T give him yours. If he seems to be a nice person on the phone, and you both hit it off, set up a meeting,during the day, in a VERY public place. See where it goes from there. But remain on your guard. Even seemingly nice people can be putting up a "front" until they get you where they want you. Find out where he works, where he lives, etc before you commit to a "date".If he has problems with any of these steps, then drop him like a hot rock. If he is a decent kind of man, he will understand your cautions.
2007-03-10 06:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by sarge 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't know if he's not some kind of freak. That's the bad thing about the internet. You have to take your time with this....and if you do decide to meet him, then make the first several meetings in a public place. Just be careful.
2007-03-10 06:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you meet him in a public place. I met my hubby on AOL and we have been married for 6 years now. You never know about a person until you actually meet them in real life. People can act like whoever they want to be online so be careful. If you can have a friend go with you and have them stay close by.
2007-03-10 06:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by luvsreward 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would be asking him different questions.like:
whats your name,where you from does he live in the
same state city, how old are you?But never give ur
private info to someone you don't know! If u were 2
meet this person 4 real I would go somewhere
public like a coffee shop or dinner.And see if
he looks weird or strange.
2007-03-10 08:46:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing him better but it not suitable meeting unknown people in the internet because people tend to cheat to know your personal data and use it to get money, the best thing to do is be friends and become online friends, if that person lives near you, then you could meet him personaly (by the way, ask him for a photo in the internet) and maybe you could pick up things by your way....
2007-03-10 06:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by JMCG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't meet anyone online unless I have known him for a long time. I would get to know him better, then decide if it is a good idea to meet him. Even if you do decide to meet him in person, I would make sure that it is in a public area, and someone is with you.
2007-03-10 06:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that it is him and not some psycho person. Give him a cell number so you can talk to him or meet him somewhere if you live close and you can always change your number. Just be safe. My sister married someone she met on the net! lol.....Good Luck!
2007-03-10 06:18:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get his email, and email him for a while and get to know him. Email is funny, you will be able to break the ice and also know by what he types if he is a jerk or not. Ask him about how he treats his mother or siblings and listen to what he says, if he treats them badly has he done this to g/f's too? Take care Heather
2007-03-10 06:17:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋