My ex is being an ***...what does he mean by this stuff?

Question

so my ex boyfriend broke up with me a while ago because he, "needed a break". he told me not to worry since he was sure we'd be together again in the future. well one thing lead to another, and we kind of started disagreeing some, and to make things short...we almost never talk anymore.

so as time has passed, i sort of in a sense, have moved on a bit, in liking someone new. (an old flame that i guess never went out). and im sure my ex knows about this, and doesnt like it too much.

mmk well lately it seems like he's beein IMing me more than usual, and last night he IMed me being a complete ***. at first, im sure he was trying to make me mad, because he was talking about my friends and how he thinks some of them are "hot". then blah blah blah...and when i asked him to leave me alone, he started apologizing and being all sad. i asked him why, and he told me because i was shoeing him away and he was getting excited thinking about me. i was furious.

and i have no idea where this came from, or what he wants.

what do you think?

another thing, im thinking he was drunk...

Answer 1

Due to every reason, including bothering you while drunk, you've given, I'd say just leave HIM alone. Don't let him bother you, if necessary block his IMs entirely.
I woudl also recomend just tp be safe that if you don't block his IMs make sure your settings record every conversation, Make sure EVERy conversation is archived. I recently had trouble with a family member and it sure came in handy when they claimed I did or did not do certain things to have my IMs all saved ;)

Answer 2

You broke up... Period... you can move on, and you need to tell him that you are over with him. It doesn't matter who the new guy is, if there is even a new guy, he is acting immature with wanting a split and you have realized that you really don't want him back.

Couples do argue usually after they break up and your relationship is no different, he is expecting you to run back to his arms when he is ready for you. That is crap, and you deserve better.

Now on to the new guy..... he is an Exflame... why is he an ex? don't run into his arms just because you are upset that your recent ex broke up with you. It will just cause you more pain the in the long run and trust me I did that multiple times, Always ran back to the same guy, but in the long run I learned that he wasn't any better and I have since met a much better guy that treats me really well.

Don't worry hun, it will all work out. you most recent ex is trying to get you jealous because he is jealous of you maybe moving on. Move on, and out of his life, he made the mistake to let you go.

Answer 3

i think you should tell him that your over him and you like somone else becouse did he break up with you if hes goiing to go back out with you thats stupid and i think you should tell however that you like and had and old flame for that you really like him and he may like you back the worst thing he could do is say no and im sure we all knoe how that feels so dont worry about it just take a little risk it probly wont hurt you that bad and if it does you will always have friend that will be by your side and help you get through it

Answer 4

Oh he is jealous all right. If I were you I would just stay clear of him. Nothing says that you can't be friends but if you don't want that just tell him you are flattered by his interests but he is too late because I am in a relationship which is wonderful.
I does sound like he was drunk, you don't need this crap around you, enjoy your life because life is too short to live with regret. take care Heather

Answer 5

Hes just jealous. He realised that there might not be a chance of you two coming back together, you're not his doll, dont let him decide when to get back or not. Just move on to the guy that you like now. Your ex will survive.

Answer 6

I can kinda relate. My ex and I split because he cheated and hit me. After awhile I got back out there and started dating again. He got really upset because he had been trying to get back in my good graces the whole time but he messed up too badly and I was not having it. He started saying really mean things to our mutual friends about me which I disregarded as, "if I am so bad, why does he still beg me to marry him and bear his children?" He is trying to keep you close by talking to you, make you jealous by talking about your friends and make you insecure by saying mean things to you. In the end he hopes to drive you right back to him.

Answer 7

well first of all i think he is immature. and second by being an *** he was just trying to make you mad. and he probably does know about you moving on and that is what may be causin him to treat yo like this. i would say hes acting like a little kid because he wants you to himself and doesnt like the idea of you moving on. if i were you i would try to continue to move on because you dont need stupidity in your life....

Answer 8

He probably was expressing his true feelings since he was drunk and i wouldn`t take him back because yeah he is an a**. so just forget about him and move on with the new people that u like now.

Answer 9

who's idea was it to "take a break"? Guys need to find out who they are but taking a break can sometimes mean "lets see other people then I can go out with someone else without actually cheating on you" excuse. Tell him to get lost. It's his loss not yours. He should have kept in contact with you before this happened. Good luck with your new relationship.

Answer 10

forget him,why waist your life on someone who clearly doesn't want to know.it's very likely that u r not the issue and he is just going through rough times and can't handle a relationship.but thats just a guess he may not like u n e more.truth is only u will really know what it is as u no him and i don't.but one thing is true life is too short to chase dead feelings.