My brother is in trouble with my parents, what should I do?

Question

My Brother has a Massive attitiude problem as I did at his age (17) But the problem is my parents have had enough and are fed up of my brother treating there home as a Hotel.

I have always been close to my brother and I dont want to get involved but I moved out when I was 16 and it ruined my life, i dont want my brother to do the same thing but he wont liksten and he says he could just live with me!!

If I let him stay with me, I will cause major grief with my mum and dad!

What should I do, I want to try and help!!

Answer 1

leave your brother with your parents. We manage to handle everything . If you allow him to live with you he will do the same to you as he does your parents. You do not need the stress. Take the advise from a parent. We can handle the children but what really hurts is that the children think they are always right and the parents have no Idea what kid sare talking about. He made his bed now let him lie in it. If he wants to talk to you fine but no for the moving in with you.

Answer 2

Because you are so fond of him tell him is the reason you refuse to let him live with you. If he did move in probably all would be great because you would give him more freedom etc. Sad thing is at 16 as you will well know no one will convince you that the grass is not greener on the other side. However, don't spoon feed him by taking him in, that would be just cushioning him. Tell him your story although don't expect him to believe you and then if he is still insistent he is leaving home he will just have to learn by his mistakes. Without him knowing however I would keep a watchful eye on him in order he doesn't end up homeless etc. Girls are more resiliant and I think given a week or two away from his home comforts will make him realise which side his bread was buttered on. Hopefully if he then returns home your parents will lay down some ground rules and his attitude problem will have quickly diminished.

Answer 3

You let him stay with you and you'll soon get fed up of him treating your home like a hotel. My son is Exactly the same, he is 16 and things he can do what he wants, yet when I yell at him he does'nt think he's done anything wrong. He has a big meal at teatime and then comes down for midnight feasts, when I get up in the morning, there's a sink full of pots. You'll regret it if you have him to stay at yours. Let it run it's course and hope that he soon changes.

Answer 4

Let me make this clear: You can't control your brother's actions. You can advise, which you have done, but he hasn't seemed to listen. Make it clear to him your space isn't open to him to move into, explaining to him what you say here: "I will cause major grief withy my mum and dad." Also, he may be likely to treat it as he treated your parent's house. Do you really want to clean up your brother's messes? All you can do is give advice and the experiences you had, such as telling him what moving out did to your life and what his actions come across to others. He'll either take it and learn, or ignore it and have to learn his own lesson.

Answer 5

Talk to your parents and ask them if they would mind if he lives with you - that's if you want him to. Then I would tell him that he can live with you on a few conditions - he pay you for rent and food and utilities, he has no parties without your permission, he keep his room clean (you don't want to end up with a stinky house because he leaves half eaten food in his room), and he let you know what time he is going to be home if he goes out (you don't want to be wondering all night if he's lying in a gutter somewhere). After he realizes that he will have pretty much the same rules at your place on top of having to work to pay you for rent, he may wake up to the real world and decide it's best to stick it out with your parents until he can be responsible for himself.

Answer 6

That is a tough one. You don't want to go against what your parents say as long as your brother is not in an abusive environment. If he does have to move out and learn the hard way, you don't want to enable him to stay in any type of bad lifestyle by giving him a warm bed and food. As you said you learned that it was a bad mistake to move out so young so try to work with him to understand that. It sounds like you did learn the hard way and sometimes teens have to go through that to make them strong adults.

Hang in there, and be there for him emotionally but I wouldn't let him move in against your parent's wishes.

Answer 7

Who do you want to cause more grief with. You mom and dad or your brother. You have to decide. Tell your mom and dad that he will stay with you since he is a headache with them. Act like you are doing them a favor. BUT you will have to lay down the law with your brother. Tell him the first time he gives you an attitude it is back to the parents.

Tell your parents that you will take care of him and that if your brother's attitude does not improve or he gives you an attitude like the parents that he will move back with them. See how that works. Act like you are trying to help them straighten out your brother. And you have to lay the law down with your brother cuz he will test you or my name ain't George Bush. lol

Let him know why he is living with you and tell him how it screwed up your life and you do not want to see it happen to him. But if he gives you any s hit that you will throw him out if he will not accept your help.

Answer 8

Take him out for an evening and a good, honest chat. Tell him how you feel about the way you treated your parents and how you felt when you left home and how you feel about it all now. Say you are not telling him what to do, only explaining how doing what you did affected you... Also talk to your Mum and Dad about it and explain your worries... Good luck.

Answer 9

if u take your brother in u are so mad as he is not going to learn a thing is he my brother is a shi# and at the same age my mum told him to go and he came to mine and he just worse then when i told him to go he would cry like a baby and say sorry 3 years later i just blown my stack at him and threw his clothes out it caused so much arguing wen he was here cus my fella was not able to settle cus of the responsability and it was my love of my life our my a## of a brother he now thanks me for doing this as he settled in his home now with a little boy and anouther on the way so good luck

Answer 10

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