I like a guy at work who is single.
I asked a guy who is a mutual friend to find out what he thinks of me a few months ago and he asked him at the xmas party (i wasnt there).
The guy i like said he thought i was stunning but i dont talk to him so he can't get to know me. My friend said he was very complimentary and genuine, so he knows he wasnt messing on.
I then emailed this guy at work and basically wrote that i found out what was said at the xmas party and if he was interested he should talk to me, if he wasnt then just ignore the email.
3 weeks on i havent had a reply but the guy isnt going out of his way to avoid me.
Does this mean he doesnt like me? Why say someone is stunning if you dont mean it??
Any advice from other men would be appreciated!
2007-03-10 04:43:39 · 13 answers · asked by MysticMaiden2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
advice from women too please!
2007-03-10 04:48:10 · update #1
I know he checks his emails everyday. I dont want to hassle him because where i work we are professionals so have to be careful about harrassment etc but i cant get him out of my head :(
I wrote on the email sorry i didnt say this in person but im really shy so he knows im shy and said i'd leave it up to him (to approach me). Ive also heard he might have had a bad past experience from someone who works with him and he doesnt talk about women he fancies, hes very friendly and chatty but never says someone is hot etc. I definately know hes not gay!
2007-03-10 04:54:59 · update #2
we work in diff departments and separate rooms so cant just leave a message on his desk.
2007-03-10 06:30:35 · update #3
Honey, if that was me in this guy's place I would not only answer your email I would be stuck on you like a leach. But we are not all the same. Contrary to popular belief guys CAN be complicated. If he thinks you are stunning but still does not approach you even after the email then there are several things that could be happening.
1. He is gay.
2.He has someone else right now
3.He feels intimidated because of some sort of insecurity
4.He is shy and is waiting AGAIN for you to make the first move because you did it already once before.
I honestly think that it's probably No. 4 because he still sort of hangs around like he is waiting for something to happen.
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2007-03-10 05:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by serphex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You work with this guy and you can't walk up to him and say hello? You had to send him an email?
Get off that chair, turn off the computer and tell him you are going bowling after work and would like him to join you. How hard is that? He'll either ask for a rain check, say yes or say no. He already siad that the issue is that you don't talk to him. So why email him? Talk to him. Say hello. Let him hear your voice.
2007-03-10 12:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by north79004487 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would not email him, especially at work. Speak to him and ask him out for a coffee and see what happens...Whatever you do, do it outside the workplace too as many companies do not approve of office romances and this could get him and you into trouble. Good luck!! (and stay away from the emails)
2007-03-10 12:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by SK 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the email was quarantined by anti-spam mail security and didn't reach the recipent''s mailbox. Although you would have probably got a message saying it wasn't delivered. I would say the balls in his court now, you've done your bit all you need to do now is wait an see
2007-03-10 19:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably shy and doesn't know how to approach you. the fact that he isn't going out of his way to avoid you kinda makes me think that.
you already made the first move with an email, why not try talking to him and see what happens
2007-03-10 12:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Alan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after emailing,you have nothing to loose now.
So I would put a little note on his desk.Saying:
Meet me: (local pub or coffee bar)
Day:e.g Thursday
Time: 6.30pm
Would be lovely to have a chat.
If he doesnt turn up you know! And if you dont mention it again you wont loose face.
2007-03-10 14:28:20 · answer #6 · answered by Honeygo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm complicated! You should say something! Maybe he never looks at hus email address! My cousin looks at it like every month! Oh yah, and the only way to find out that he doesn't ignore you is to actually say something!
2007-03-10 12:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He either really doesn't care and isn't interested enough to be shy with you (to avoid you) or he just hasn't recieved your email, maybe there's a fault? Goodluck.
2007-03-10 13:36:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the guy more, be more social. guys are sometimes the ones who are afraid to make the first move, so we sometimes have to weither we want to or not. ask him to join you for a cup of coffee(if you drink it) or anything romantic like that.
2007-03-10 12:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Naomi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
complicated question...... well i would give him a while to answer your e-mail. maybe he is just busy and doesn't have time to write, the guy i like never answers his e-mails it takes him like 5 weeks so don't worry about it. maybe just start talking to him in person and see what happens then.
good luck!
2007-03-10 21:12:54 · answer #10 · answered by aminallover29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋