I have 3 boys and a military husband that is never home. I have 3 spoiled brat children that daddy feeds into all the time and makes my job as a mom harder. I am constantly fighting with the kids with them disobeying and tantrums. They are 2, 4 and 9. Every day it is something they have to throw a fit about. The tantrums go on for hours! I do all the ignoring and crap, nothing works. I can't go out in public with them fearing that they will embarress me. I am about to have a nervous breakdown. I don't know how many times I have just thought of calling my husband at work and telling him to get home cause I was leaving and take off without a trace. Just to stay in a hotel for a couple days to REALLY RELAX! Has any other mom's felt like this or is there something mentally wrong with me. I want to abandon my family at times.
2007-03-10 04:29:18 · 8 answers · asked by tmae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well i can relate to you in some ways. When i was younger my mother left me. She told my dad that she was "burnt out of being a mother". That will stick with me forever. She left when i was about 6. When i was about 16 she tried getting in touch with me. I wanted nothing to do with her, and i still dont. She gave up on me. Im a kid, i dont know better, i need guidance and i need to be taught right from wrong. My dad raised me all alone. I had to be a teenage girl without a mother. Life was so rough and no i am 20 years old and getting married this summer. My morther is definately not getting an invite to my wedding. Everytime i think of her i get upset and angry. She just picked up and left. You need to think of how your kids will feel 10 years from now knowing that they could of been the reason you left! I understand your really going through a lot but u cant just abandon your kids. I mean you took the responsibility to have them, now you need to take care of them. You need to be calm and not yell at them. Maybe cry, show them that the way they act hurts you. Be their friend as well as their mother. Give it time!! You can do it, i know you can. Just be strong! If you need anything e-mail me, i will be more than willing to talk with you! Good luck!
2007-03-10 04:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by afireinsidexxx77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to feel like disappearing.as moms we need time to are self,so that we can continue we out losing it.I have 6 kids only 3 go to school and 3 stay home, it is hard, everyone is always asking How do you do it? Us moms always know what to do, we seen to have the answers to everything. is good to go out ones in awhile by your self, or friends. you know relax like they say paper yourself. But it never cross my mine to abandon my family. One thing that helps me allot is look at the bite site.kids will get older your husband is looking for a better future.Things will get better just hang in there.Find some one to watch the kids, go out, send the kids to Sunday school, someone in church will pick them up and bring them back. that`ll give you few hours to yourself.that's what i do Hope some of these will help you.
2007-03-10 05:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by babyj7981 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your the biggest influence on your children. take a weekend to relax and reflect on what went wrong with your parenting method. make up 5 ground rules that have to be followed or there will be consequence's. think up punishment for each child if they break them. be consistent. By having a clear picture how you handle them, much of the fighting will be a thing of the past. By fighting with them you give away your power, by making them think they have equal say to how the family is run. You're the parent, act like it.
2007-03-10 04:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by barbara w 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to call nanny 911! However, seriously your children are a refection of you, and there father. You need to sit down and look at what roll model you are portraying if you scream and yell a lot at them and at your husband, the children will mimic you. Your everyday attitude will be there’s as well; they live and breathe through you. The answer to your question is yes, there were at times that I wanted to run away from my responsibilities, I was going through menopause, but I am over it now.
2007-03-10 04:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yea, we have all felt like that from time to time but you being a military wife should know that once you become a wife and mother there has been a tracking device implanted in you somewhere! So my advice to you is run where the journey is worth taking, in your head. I 've been to the most exotic places when all around me the battle was raging on.
2007-03-10 04:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by Laura S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I came so close on one occasion to doing just that--walking. Truthfully, I don't know why I didn't. That was many years ago and looking back, I am so glad that I did not.
Are there grandparents to help? Can you afford a babysitter? Really have no advice but I think I know where you are 'coming from" Good Luck to you.
2007-03-10 05:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
girl u need a break... big time.... ur married but living a single mothers life....do u have relatives that can watch ur kids for a few hours so u can spend time with urself... maybe u can send them to a preschool so they can interact with other kids their age... then u can spend time by urself...if u need a few days in a hotel relaxing...lol... u need to find someone that u trust to watch ur kids...u sure do need a break so u can be a better mom to ur kids...
2007-03-10 04:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by gina B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Time for SuperNanny
2007-03-10 08:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by I love winter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋