I have gotten to the age where I am starting to go to funerals for family members on an all too regular basis- people are getting old
Like most American families mine is scatterred all over America and relatives are being buried in ones' and two's in places that are often far apart from each other . The fact of the matter is that few if any will visit their graves
Does anybody thing it would not be rude and or morbid to suggest to family members that we find a centrally located cemetary and if need be rebury people ? Or did I just cross the line into forbidden territory?
Thanks
2007-03-10 04:17:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
OK I'll concede the point I didn't think out the reality of reburial , I should have but I didn't.
2007-03-10 04:33:37 · update #1
Morbid? No. Thinking out of the box? Definitely. I would put it out there to my family, but we are all pretty much doing that anyway. The ones in the south will go north to be buried as there are fewer of us that will have to be flown to the end. As for moving the ones already in the ground, I vote leave them be in peace. They make a great excuse for a road trip.
2007-03-10 04:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People need to be buried where they request to be. Telling your family to use a centrally located cemetary is crossing the boundary. What if the family member having to pay for the funeral can't afford to fly the body to whatever cemetary you pick? Are you going to pay for it for them? A funeral can cost $10,000 or more and that's without the cost of flying the body somewhere. Just don't visit the graves if you can't get there. No biggie. The soul isn't there anymore anyway.
2007-03-10 12:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are unlikely to get any agreement on that one. You said yourself that the family is scattered all over America. How could you possibly find a "central burial place" that wouldn't mean many of those family members having to travel a great distance to it?
If you feel strongly family orientated, the thing to do is to keep the best possible relationship with them all while they're alive. When it's their time to go into the "great beyond" you can take comfort in knowing that you made the most of your relationship with them in life, and now you can continue to keep them in your heart. After all, it's just a dead body in the ground now, isn't it? No matter what you happen to believe religiously, the person you knew in life is no longer in that casket, right?
2007-03-10 12:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about reburying people, but why not at least start talking to your family about having a central plot for those of you still around.
2007-03-10 12:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a toughy. I think it's a little late now anyway. Even if you made them see it your way, you already have people in the ground everywhere. Just leave it be. I personally am not a very spiritual person and could care less if people came to see my grave. Besides, they should stay where they chose to live, not some foreign town. And it's kind of poetic to think that wherever you go, kin is nearby. Afterall we are the melting pot-that's the beauty of our country that are so intermixed. Alright I'm now stepping off the soapbox-good luck.
2007-03-10 12:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a bit much to ask considering that most people want to be buried near their own families, don't you think? I do, however, think it is acceptable to not attend a funeral that is too far away or inconvenient to get to...
And that's not morbid. Morbid is the fact that I still have my sisters' ashes sitting in my closet because I haven't been able to receive permission to scatter her where she wanted to be....
2007-03-10 12:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a beautiful idea but it would cost far too much money and the legal issues controlling digging up and moving the coffins would be staggering. Another thought too is although coffins are in vaults first they don't always work and the coffins are water logged (imagine the contents?). Write or call relatives now while they are alive, enjoy them, learn from them and have wonderful memories to pass on to your children someday.
2007-03-10 12:23:10 · answer #7 · answered by lindalousmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Death is a reality. I think it would actually be a "nice" idea for the other family members to be able to pay their respects to everyone at one time. I had to do community service in a cemetery before (picking up garbage, weed whacking, etc.) and many families do that.
2007-03-10 12:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think It's up to the person who died,where THEY want to be buried,not to convenience other's after they're gone.My mom is buried in Calif. I'm in Wa. I miss her soooo much,wish I could visit her grave,but, would probably wined up camping there(which IS morbid) But,I know she'll always be w/ me,in my heart!! A plot is just a mark of where they're body lye's,not they're soul.
2007-03-10 12:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by mgle3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is bring it up. It depends on your family's religious beliefs and stuff. I don't think it is a bad idea but I can not really see everyone agreeing on that one. I think at least one of your family members will have a disapproval of some sort.
2007-03-10 12:22:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋