My girlfriend and I have been dating for 6 years already. I'm very much in love with her. She loves me also. We are both 19. She's 4 months pregnant. We are in our 2nd year of college. I still want to keep seeing her. I know I will be with her no matter what but I don't want to spend my money on our child. Isn't there anything we can do? I hardly have enough to even spend on my own stuff since I have to pay for college classes and class materials. Same thing with my girlfriend. I was wondering how come my girlfriend is starting to be a lot more needy? I treat her (as a queen) the same way as before she was pregnant.
2007-03-10 03:59:22 · 14 answers · asked by Ansem 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Honey, good for you for staying with your girlfriend, but kids cost money. Diapers, formula, clothes, bedding etc etc. Maybe get a job? Saying you don't want to spend money on this child is a horrible way to think. You can do it,just get creative and be a good dad!
Goodluck
Jx
2007-03-10 04:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by kirroyale3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. What an awful thing to say, you don't want to spend your money on your child. She's 4 months pregnant now. Obviously you and she have decided to keep the baby, or are you going to give it up for adoption? Maybe getting a job to support your family and going to college is a good plan for you. Don't be so selfish. Your girlfriend is acting more needy because she's pregnant. You're more needy when you're pregnant. I bet you don't treat her like a queen. You sound very self absorbed. Think of the child you created, not the child you're acting like.
2007-03-10 04:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are so selfish. Your girlfriend is going on a roller coaster of emotions. She needs to feel secure and that she can provide for her child and all you are doing is bitching about not wanting to spend any money on the baby. What sort of message is that giving to your girlfriend?? NOT A VERY GOOD ONE !! No wonder she is feeling needy!
Babies are expensive so you better get ready to open your wallet !!
2007-03-13 04:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Laura H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok honey heres the deal......you are having a baby!Which means that baby comes first.before you.before her.before college.your looking at it all wrong.....after you have bought what the baby needs-then you see whats left for college...you should still persue a college degree....but just know that it wont be easy now with a baby that YOU BOTH created.You have to take responsibility and make sacrifices-thats what being a dad is all about.as for her being needy...shes pregnant and with the way your talking i would be very insecure with things too....I cant believe you said "i dont want to spend mymoney on the baby" thats absurd!! you have no choice.....dont be so selfish-your not a bad person your just young and really dont get it yet...i hope you do now... good luck you will be fine....your plans have just changed.
2007-03-10 04:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by tokenwhtgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of being a parent is being selfless.
Your money and time and energy WILL go to your baby if you are a good parent.
This means you need to work more hours and work harder to make more money for your family. It won't get any easier. You are the center of your child's life. You are very important to this little being. Earn your childs respect, and live for that baby and its mother, starting today.
You took the risk with intercourse when you weren't emotionally ready. It is now your duty to back up that decision for the rest of your life. Be the ideal father and husband.
2007-03-10 04:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by gg 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
grow up your a father and that includes spending money on your child ! She is needy because she's pregnant and sometimes she probally just needs a hug and for you to say every thing will work out. There are alot of programs to help kids in your shoes when you don't have money you need to call your local health dept. and ask about WIC (women infints and children) medicade (health ins) and any other programs that are avaliable to you!
2007-03-10 04:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by jason t 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm... if you didn't want to spend your money on the baby you should have never made a baby or at least been more careful.... Thats really sorry of you "i don't want to spend our money on our child!" You must not love your gf as much as you think or you would'nt put everything her shoulders... she in college too and probably has equal responsiblities... she's carrying a baby so don't put anymore stress on her then so needs!
2007-03-10 04:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by Kelsey 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because she's pregnant, they sometimes want watermelon in December. As far as your money, it's now our money, you have only started feeling what a baby cost. Better get a good job and go to night college, it's time to be a man.
2007-03-10 04:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by James B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you decide to have a child our needs start to change.I will give you the advice that at least you finish studying and that way you will be able to get a better job after.It is important that you let her know and talk to her so she doesn't feel like if you are changing cause of the pregnancy.
2007-03-10 04:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by cuttie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you didn't want to spend money on your child you shouldn't have got your girlfriend pregnant. Kids cost cash.
2007-03-10 04:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by pikewingers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋