I can't figure out how to politley say (on invitation) that we aren't registered but there is a gift table and wishing well and that at the reception there is a cash bar.
2007-03-10 03:56:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You never, never, never, ever put anything on an invitation about registry, or gifts. Word of mouth is the only way that type of information should be passed around.
As far as the cash bar, you may be able to put on your invitation "reception immediate following" and under that put - "cash bar". I don't know the etiquette on that one. I would just leave it off, they will find out when they get there. Most people don't go somewhere like a wedding without money in their pockets, just in case.
Good luck!
2007-03-10 04:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, you don't mention the gift table and well at all.
However, the cash bar is another huge thing, and you must let people know. On the lower left of the invitation where you put where the reception is being held, on some line, maybe after the line for the time of the dinner, you must put "Cash bar available" - or something like that.
Just so you know, we are NOT big drinkers, but on principle, we have either not gone to weddings where they are not totally hosting a reception, or left after the program. It's just really rude to not host an open bar. It's really not that expensive.
2007-03-10 14:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't put in your invitation that you want money/gifts. You can tell you bridal party/immediate family to pass the word along. If anybody calls and asks you, you can tell them that you are not registered. Most of the time that means, "We want cash." Which (at least where I live) is the norm to give at a wedding anyway. Or gift certificates. The cash bar should be expected, anyway. I always go to a wedding expecting a cash bar unless told otherwise. If I get there and it's open bar...hey, bonus!
Think of it this way: no matter how you word it, people are going to read between the lines; "Bring us money and pay for your own drinks." (Which is expected at weddings, but rude to come out and say it!)
Best of luck. Have fun!
2007-03-10 12:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The reason you cannot figure out how to say this is because it isn't polite. What IS appropriate is for the guest to send a gift to the home of the bride before the wedding, as per Emily Post, one of the leading authorities on wedding etiquette. If guests want to bring a gift (and the reason they shouldn't is because gifts may be lost, stolen or separated from the gift card tag) they will figure this out on their own. If a guest wants to know if you are registered, they will ask and at that time you can let them know you are not registered. Still, you'll wait to be asked about gift preference.
You never mention gifts or menu, including beverage choice, on a wedding invitation. Guests will know what type of food to expect based on the time of day. A good host never asks their guests to pay for anything so reconsider the cash bar and opt to host the wedding you can afford. Perhaps just offering beer and wine, or an open bar just during the cocktail hour. You could also pare down the guest list if you need to free up some funds.
2007-03-10 12:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by weddingqueen 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you are not registered than dont put anything down. They will than know that you must not be registered and if they still dont get the hint they will ask someone and than have it cleared, there is always a "wishing well" for the cards with money and a gift table they dont need to be notifed on the inviations about that. You also dont have to write cash bar, if it was a open bar than you would write open bar, but having a cash bar is common so you dont have to write anything. If you want you still can write it where it says the time or the reception than below in brackets (cash bar) would be fine.
Congrats
2007-03-10 12:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
As far as i know, none of that needs to be on the invite. Also, just because you're not registered doesn't mean you can't receive gifts, or people won't give you gifts or money. As for the cash bar, i guess the guests will find out when they get there and should have $ on them regardless.
2007-03-10 12:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by sweet.escape77 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not nessisary to add anything on your invitations about you not being registered anywhere,and have a table for gifts-people automatically assume you will have an area for gifts and for your cards-as for the cash bar-are you atleast having a cocktail hour? if so that is included and the time and again people will assume that it will be a cash bar after that-if you aren';t having a cocktail hour-you will have to include that some how in the invitation-cash bar and dancing from__to___. that might not be the correct wording you may want to use it is just an example-i'm sure you will find the correct answer on line by google-or ask?! good luck and congratulations!!!
2007-03-10 12:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by ang925 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When people attend a wedding, they already know to bring a gift. You don't need to sound greedy and more or less ASK for gifts on your invitations. The only reason people register at places is to give the guests ideas of what they like and/or need. Registering saves you the hassle of returning duplicated gifts.
2007-03-14 10:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by hopetohelpyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't suppose to include registry info in your invitations, so don't even worry about that.
As for the cash bar, simple state, "Reception will include Cash Bar," or simply, "Cash Bar" at the bottom of your invites.
2007-03-10 12:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think you need to put it on the invite. If people call you to ask if your registered somewhere, just say no we're not. They'll find something to get you on their own, or will simply give you cash.
2007-03-10 12:00:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋