a bit of a prima donna, only wants to work at Abercrombie, Hollister or Starbuck's because that is where her friends work. they have these jobs because they have prior work experience & she has very little. I have explained she has to start somewhere &work her way up to other jobs once she has some work history. She is very stubborn but complains she has no money??
2007-03-10 03:55:47 · 19 answers · asked by COblonde 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Does she live with you? And do you provide all of her support? If you do, start withdrawing her support on one item at a time until she gets the point: No movies, no cell phone, no car, no clothes, no eating out, etc. This is tough love at its toughest. If you don't stand firm now, you will be like me, still supporting someone at age 42, who doesn't think she should have to work.
2007-03-10 04:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
after she misses a few meals, her interest will pique. How did she get the impression that she wasnt part of the functioning family unit, with duties and responsibilities, in the first place. Sounds like the parent dropped the ball a couple years ago and now its much harder to fix it. why listen to silly, irrelevant complaints??/ Wal mart will hire her, I know because i worked there and had to train some of these nearly useless creatures. Made em mad to hear that the work needs to be actually done with or without a headache but I am not their mother and I hate babysitting so they could get the point or get gone.tremendously useful to encourage to go back and really study something useful.
2007-03-10 12:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by julianne s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nineteen is still young. She has time to make mistakes, figure things out. Still, you're right, it's time for her to start taking some responsibility.
Sometimes I think kids have it too comfortable these days. They have no incentive to leave home. Everything's there for them: cooking, cleaning, a nice room, entertainment...
Does your niece have a place of her own yet? If not, maybe she needs to be notified that she'll have to start making significant financial contributions towards room and board.
But she also should know how great it is to be out on your own. The freedom...the fun...etc.
Hope you'll have a good, friendly talk with her. Maybe over a nice lunch or dinner. No nagging. Just talking.
Good luck!
2007-03-10 12:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by allaboutthewords 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whomever she lives with ought to be telling her that she has a certain amount of time to get a job or move out. And stick to it. It's called tough love. They are not helping her at all by letting her live there without supporting herself. She should have been working for at least a year or 2 or 3 by now. If they don't make her, then they are enabling her to be lazy.
2007-03-10 16:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One option for this person is "Job Corp". This is a federally funded program for young adults 16-24 that provides free practical work training, food, housing, and a safe environment.
There are many, many rules that the students must follow, but it provides a safe environment for young adults to prepare for independent living. It will also teach the student a trade. Check out the web site for details.
2007-03-10 12:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Skeptic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then ignore her when she complains about having no money. And make sure you aren't giving her rides places, taking her out to eat, or giving her money. Don't make it easy for her to be a mooch. I doubt if she even really wants to work at those places you mentioned, if she did she'd be applying for jobs there. Those places are first jobs jobs for a lot of people, so they do hire those with no job experience. What they look for is motivation.
2007-03-10 12:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her no job no money. Cut her off. Stop giving her money for gas, cigarettes etc. Kids nowadays need to learn how to work. I was 13 years old when I got my first job selling monthly subscribtion to the Tulsa World & Tribune. It didn't cause any permanent damge to me and it give me a little extra money. That's how I paid for my own bike and atari games without having to ask my folks.Tell her to buck up and grown up!
2007-03-10 12:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple enough, tell her you are going to start charging her rent. If she is unable to get a job once you start charging her, tell her that it will accumulate and you would hate to see her working the first month to just pay you off. As soon as my folks mentioned rent, I was out the door looking for a job. Good luck!
2007-03-10 12:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by Rebekah B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what got me out there was a good *** whopping from my family. Yeah you have to start some where. You are 100% right!!! You have to put your foot down and tell her how it is. If she does not get out there and make a living then she going to start losing privileges 19 or not she as to learn the hard way.
2007-03-10 12:00:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has nothing to do, have her wash dishes, clothes, do the ironing, etc. And she doesn't get paid for this, it's for her support, after awhile she will take any job that pays instead of working free.
2007-03-10 12:02:22 · answer #10 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋