I can't stop crying, I just want to stop crying. I feel so lousy all the time, and nothing seems to be able to make me feel better. I never really considered killing myself, but I'm having some pretty detailed thoughts about blowing my head off. Any suggestions are welcome.
2007-03-10 03:38:51 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Cutting myself on the leg seems to help me for a good 30mins. I always thought the more break ups you have, the easier they get.....boy was I wrong.
2007-03-10 03:53:47 · update #1
Dear Broken Heart,
You have several excellent answers here but I want to offer you my encouragement as well.
My heart was broken many years ago and I wished my heavenly Father would just let me die. I'm so glad He didn't because these past 15 years have been the BEST years of my life and I know that the BEST is yet to be.
My husband had been having an affair and there was a banking crisis here so morale was really bad at work and after my husband filed for divorce I couldn't even move away to be near family. I felt as though I had open heart surgery on the cold basement floor without benefit of anesthesia. I also felt like I was drowning in quicksand and molasses.
In hindsight I see that what I did was to take my very broken heart to the Author of life and allowed Him to make it new. When I got laid off from my job in answer to prayer, I received 15 weeks of severance pay. There were just no jobs available so I used my time to read the Bible. I had wanted to read the whole Bible since I was about 12 years old but I didn't finally do it until my life was falling apart at the seams.
I read The Daily Walk Bible and it seemed like the only place I could find any comfort. It was so good that I finished it in 90 days.
The other thing I did to lift my own spirits up was to sing the song I learned in Sunday school as a child - Jesus Loves Me This I Know ...
I know it sounds trite but it is true - Hang In There! May you also discover that the BEST is yet to be.
I'll paste The Father's Love Letter below if you haven't seen it before. I given copies of it to others with broken hearts and they have been very appreciative.
Edit: I just remembered the poem Footprints in the Sand. The original poem that was written starts with "One night I had a dream ..." The woman who wrote it (Margaret Fishback Rogers) wrote it after her heart was broken.
Print out a copy of The Father's Love Letter and realize that it is God's Love Letter to YOU.
http://www.fathersloveletter.com/..........
The Cry of a Father’s Heart from Genesis to Revelation
Father’s Love Letter
My Child …
You may not know me, but I know everything about you
Psalm 139:1
I know when you sit down and when you rise up Psalm 139:2
I am familiar with all your ways ……. Psalm 139:3
Even the very hairs on your head are numbered
Matthew 10:29-31
For you were made in my image ……. Genesis 1:21
In me you live and move and have your being ……. Acts 17:28
For you are my offspring ……. Acts 17:28
I knew you even before you were conceived …. Jeremiah 1:4-5
I chose you when I planned creation ……. Ephesians 1:11-12
You were not a mistake ……. Psalm 139:15-16
For all your days are written in my book ……. Psalm 139:15-16
I determined the exact time of your birth and where you would live ... Acts 17:26
You are fearfully and wonderfully made ……. Psalm 139:14
I knit you together in your mother’s womb ……. Psalm 139:13
And brought you forth on the day you were born ……. Psalm 71:6
I have been misrepresented by those who don’t know me
John 8:41-44
I am not distant and angry, but am the complete expression of love …1 John 4:18
And it is my desire to lavish my love on you ……. 1 John 3:1
Simply because you are my child and I am your Father
1 John 3:1
I offer you more than your earthly father ever could Matthew 7:11
For I am the perfect Father ……. Matthew 5:48
Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand
James 1:17
For I am your provider and I meet all your needs Matthew 6:31-33
My plan for your future has always been filled with hope
Jeremiah 29:11
Because I love you with an everlasting love ……. Jeremiah 31:3
My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on the seashore ... Psalm 139:17-18
And I rejoice over you with singing ……. Zephaniah 3:17
I will never stop doing good to you ……. Jeremiah 32:40
For you are my treasured possession ……. Exodus 19:5
I desire to establish you with all my heart and all my soul
Jeremiah 32:41
And I want to show you great and marvelous things
Jeremiah 33:3
If you seek me with all your heart, you will find me
Deuteronomy 4:29
Delight in me and I will give you the desires of your heart
Psalm 37:4
For it is I who gave you those desires ……. Philippians 2:13
I am able to do more for you than you could possibly imagine
Ephesians 3:20
For I am your greatest encourager 2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
I am also the Father who comforts you in all your troubles
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you Psalm 34:18
As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you close to my heart … Isaiah 40:11
One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes
Revelation 21:3-4
And I’ll take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth
Revelation 21:4
I am your Father and I love you even as I love my son, Jesus
John 17:23
For in Jesus my love for you is revealed ……. John 17:26
He is the exact representation of my being ……. Hebrews 1:3
And He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not against you ... Romans 8:31
And to tell you that I am not counting your sins
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
His death was the ultimate expression of my love for you
1 John 4:10
I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your love
Romans 8:32
If you receive the gift of my son Jesus, you receive me
1 John 2:23
And nothing will ever separate you from my love again
Romans 8:38-39
Come home and I’ll throw the biggest party heaven has ever seen … Luke 15:7
I have always been Father and will always be Father
Ephesians 3:14-15
My question is … Will you be my child? ……. John 1:12-13
I am waiting for you ……. Luke 15:11-31
… Love Your Dad
Almighty God
Father Heart Communications Written by Barry Adams Copyright 1999
2007-03-10 05:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by JOYfilled - Romans 8:28 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 15:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I've been where you are, so I have real compassion for you - not that that makes you feel any better!
Time really does cure a broken heart. And healing is so wonderful, it is worth wading through all the tears to get there. Please believe me! When you are going through the pain, it seems hopeless, but that's because the pain is so vivid it's hard to imagine happiness while you are feeling that. But happiness will come to you once again, I promise.
I'm not sure what is causing you to feel like this - if it's a break-up, or you've lost a loved one, or been lied to, or what. Maybe it's just depression. Whatever the case, you ought to consider getting some counselling. You might even need an anti-depressant to get you through this time. That's not a crutch, but something that some people need because of a chemical imbalance. Sometimes, if you've been through a traumatic or stressful experience, the chemicals in the brain get overworked, or used up, and the anti-depressant can replenish those, restoring the balance to normal. That way, you are in a better position to be able to think clearly through your problems.
Try to find a close friend that you can either talk to - or, if you would rather not talk about stuff - you can just BE with the friend, and that alone helps. Sometimes, just getting with friends can take your mind off the hurt long enough to really restore some peace of mind to you.
If you continue to have thoughts of hurting yourself, please call a doctor, or even a suicide hotline. Remember that you can always kill yourself LATER. Right now, it's worth a try to see if you can cure the broken heart and return to a happy life. You might find that once you do, your life is even happier than it ever was before.
Please hang in there, and don't be afraid to get some help.
God bless you (if you believe in God). If you don't, I still wish you great blessings and peace, according to your own belief.
Added:
I see your additional comment now about cutting. That is something that people do to symbolically release pain. For whatever reason, it seems to help. But this is not a healthy release. You really need to make an appointment with a psychiatrist. Please don't think that means you are crazy or anything like that. You are suffering from depression and you need to see a doctor that can help you find healthier ways to deal with the pain. I speak from experience - it can really help! If you are worried about the cost - there is always help for people who need it. My doctor only charges me a portion of what he charges others since I don't have insurance. Don't be afraid to ask.
I'm praying for you. Please let me know if you would like to talk or need anything.
2007-03-10 03:58:02 · answer #3 · answered by Heron By The Sea 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your broken heart to the Lord and ask him to mend it.
Psalm 34: 18 - The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Psalm 147: 3 - The Lord... heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds. In Isaiah 61 these words were fulfilled in Jesus - He has sent me to bind up the broken-hearted... to comfort all who mourn.
Please, please, please take your troubles to the Lord in prayer. I am praying for you also, that He will stay your hand and surround you with angels to protect you from harm.
My husband was in a similar situation some years ago and I was working away from home at the time. I beseached the Lord to watch over him and, when I got back a few days later, he told me that he was on the verge of taking his life, but something stopped him. He prayed to God, even though he was not then a believer, and he was shown a way out.
The other thing I recommend you do, friend, is to seek professional help. If you are seriously depressed then you can get help. May God keep you safe. Oh, and please email me if you think it would help you get through this critical time.
2007-03-10 03:59:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you may have a bit of depression. Find someone you can talk to....a friend, a Christian counselor or even a doctor.
You have every right to feel the feelings that you are....a broken heart is a loss, just like a death and there is a process of getting through it. If the thoughts of suicide are creeping in your mind though, you really need to talk to someone!
Prayer is also something I know will make you feel better. Sometimes the hardest situations in our lives build us into stronger people. It is hard to see now but there are great things waiting for you on the other side of this!
2007-03-10 03:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Buff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dancing, Boxing & high speed running The later takes away so many emotions you really do feel lighter Some people say writing stuff down helps (not my cupa tea) Above all, Realizing that you deserve happiness and if not with this person (loser in my case) then 'The One' for you is out there somewhere, Just keep faith
2016-03-28 22:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cure for a broken heart is LOVE.
Jesus loves you.
Stop crying,wipe your tears as you have a friend ,His name is Jesus & He's calling your name and wants you to have best in life,you are worth many more goods & riches of life.
Don't cry and sulk over the past.
Smile for the wonderful future.
Pray to God with Faith and you shall receive the riches you have never imagined.
Jesus Wants broken hearts and in exchange gives you abrand new heart filled with Love, Hope ,Courage,knowlege and the best of the best.
GOD BLESS.
2007-03-10 04:19:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will take a while to heal and be yourself again, it may even take up to 2 years.
But believe me, you WILL get over it.
Sometimes, if you feel suicidal or can't function to work, you might need some Rx drugs to help you through a bit.
But don't despair, it doesn't last that long, the hurt eventually goes away, even though you think it will never and a new day shall dawn.
2007-03-10 03:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broken hearts are cured by getting away from the person who hurt you for a while. You prolly feel like sheet because you have poured yourself into the relationship and this person and forgot about yourself. Get back on track by solely focusing on YOU. Go workout. Refocus yourself on the goals that got you that chick in the first place.
If you're in High school, don't worry about anything. Girls views are based on looks and not potential.
2007-03-10 03:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way to cure a broken heart is to be patient. Unfortunately there are no immediate cures, but talking to friends usually helps a lot. If you keep on having thoughts of suicide you must immediately see your doctor.
2007-03-10 03:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by remy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋