My reputation is pretty much trashed. Please help me? Details below.?

Question

Okay, so all of a sudden some things about my love/sex life leaked out into people of my grade. At first, I had just told one person about all of this. Keep in mind that this person is like a dear brother to me, and we tell each other everything, so it would be like a wrongdoing for me not to tell him. While I was telling him, somebody overheard and told pretty much everybody about the whole thing: the BJ, the HJ, the makeouts, EVERYTHING! And now people really disrespect me and some don't even believe me. My reputation with everybody is pretty much screwed, and now I have no idea how to fix it or help it blow over, because the news is pretty hot and new. Please help me! <3

Answer 1

well you cant fix it, whats done is done!.......... and if your school is anything like my school, it wont blow over.........even when someone Else's sex life leaks out, they will still call you a whore, the only thing for you to do, is hold your head up high.
if you are not Strong then you need to get strong quick. don't get me wrong you will come across kind people who will get to know you and forget about rumors....... good luck

Answer 2

You can only blame yourself for saying things like that in public. And you can't do anything about it short of changing school & moving to another state.

And no, you don't tell your 'dear brother' etc. everything or every sordid detail that goes on in your love life and feel that you are obliged to do so. There is such a thing as a person's right to privacy. What makes you so certain that a dear friend will never turn on you one day & circulate all the sordid details of your love life when you quarrel? People can be really vindictive which you learnt this the hard way. Take this as a hard lesson - you tell everything, you get burnt.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, this is the problem with having sex so young. This is what you have to deal with while you are young. You can never repair your reputation so you have to try and live a better life and try finding true love and not having sex until you have a committed relationship. This may seem old-fashioned but you will understand what I am saying when you are older. I look back on my high school years and think about people and I still can remember the people who lived right and the people who slept around. Reality is, men get away with way more than the ladies do.

Answer 4

Wow, that's some problem. I had the same thing happen to me, only they were lies, not the truth. If anyone asks you about it, just tell them that they have no business asking about your personal life. Keep your head held high. If you go around sulking, people will begin to wonder. Also, don't go around making a big deal about your friend being a snitch. If people see that it aggravates you, they will keep bugging you about it. Let them see that it doesn't bother you. It's hard to do but in the end, they will just forget about it. Be confident about yourself, and in the end you'll find out who your true friends are. Good Luck.

Answer 5

I'm not sure there is much you can do dear. People are going to be mean and spread rumors simply because they can and they have no life. And there probably just jealous that you had fun. Let it be a lesson to you in the future to be more discreet about the places you to choose to divulge such info to friends. I wouldn't worry about it to much, it will blow over soon enough.

Answer 6

i say don't worry about what everyone else thinks, just be around your friends. If you're not friends with all of these ppl that are spreading things about you then it doesn't really matter what they think. Just live you life on normaly and some other new gossip will enter your school and this will all be old news.
It'll be hard to have ppl talking about you behind your back, but if you show it doesn't bother you at all they will respect you more.

Good luck

Answer 7

if you have an older brother or older cousin...pay them to beat the crap of the rat. Otherwise, i'll do it for free. I feel really bad for you, but honestly, maybe, just maybe you might be over-reacting. This will blow over sooner than later. People don't think about you as much as you think they do. Trust me. So for right now, keep that head up and to hell w/the people who have judge you. And find new "friends." And i use the word "friend" loosely. Smile and walk tall....

Answer 8

I assume you are in High school !
Just move on there is life after high school and I'd say 90% of your fellow classmen/women have done everything you did and more.
It does not make you a slut just a teenager in this day and age.

Answer 9

First of all, don't do such things. Only cheap dirty people do that. Second, keep your secrets to yourself. Why would you tell anyone, even a close friend that you are a person with no morals? Now you will have to live with it.

Answer 10

nicely in the event that they're bothering you, and you're staying there for a week, particular i could tell somebody. If no longer a instructor then somebody who can guard you. yet whilst there is not any one, then tell a instructor and that they could shop a watch on you. in simple terms say they're creeping you out, and if any 4 or 5 boys come over, to stroll over to you. optimistically this scares them. because of the fact i replaced into strolling downtown as quickly as with my buddy and those 2 adult males have been like, "heyy toddler," or something like that, and then stated, "come over right here." i think of, yet me and my buddy in simple terms walked off kinda right now so I thknk they have been inebriated or something b/c they did no longer shop on with us. yet particular, ask somebody to maintain a protective eye on you, b/c that ought to creep me out additionally. exceedingly in the event that they shop on with you, now it is stalking. :] wish this helped.