I might have to move in with my boyfreinds mother because my mom is putting me out for being pregnant! The problem is she hates me and I have never met her. What do I do? By the way, he is 17
2007-03-10 03:37:40 · 8 answers · asked by ~N3VA W0ULD HAV3 MAD3 IT~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I guess you are a teen also. Yes it is all emotionally dysfunctional at this time. Yet, the most important thing for you is to take of is you and your baby. Will you be good at getting all the prenatal care for you and baby? Is there a grand parent or understanding auntie that can take you in? Maybe the babies father's mom isn't that bad. She seems willing to do the right thing and now you have an option if you need it. Maybe the three of you can get together for lunch. You need to meet her and find out if the offer is genuine or just something your boyfriend is just saying. I hope you hold up well under the stress. Unfortunately your mom isn't , but, give her time.
2007-03-10 06:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear lord, you are in a mess. I think you have to go to Social Services and ask advice from them. They may contact your Mother and discuss with her that she should not throw you out because you are pregnant. I know it is a heartbreak that you became pregnant so early and that the father is only 17, but your Mother is only making matter worse by throwing you out in the street. I wish I could speak to her. I don't think it is a good idea for you to move in with your boyfriend's mom, as it will be a living hell. If you say she hates you and resents you, how can you think of living with her. Please, I would definitely recommend that you go to Social Services and speak with a counselor right away and tell her your serious problem. See if she will call your Mother to try to convince her that throwing you out is not the right thing for a Mother to do. Also you are too young to marry a 17 year old boy. How will he make a living? How will he support your child? Social Services is your only way out. Do this right away and see what happens. In the meantime, if you have a relative, such as an Aunt, Cousin, good friend that could try to convince your Mother to take you back home, I would suggest that too. See what you can do. I don't believe in abortion, so I would not recommend that at all, but maybe you can go to a home for unwed mothers and think about giving up the child to a family that can take care of her or him. You have options. I wish you well.
2007-03-10 21:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try doing the responsible thing and asking her out to lunch before you move in. Try talking to her and telling her you would like for the two of you to be friends and get along. And that you do care about her son and you're not trying to steal him away or come between their family. I can't think of any other reason why she would hate you, other than her concern for him being a father at a young age. She probably doesn't hate you, just the situation he's in with you.
She may admire you for having guts and talking to her before you get sprung on her and all of a sudden you're living in her house. As a mother of 3 boys, I can tell you I would worry if they wound up in this situation, but I would know my son played a part in it too, not just the girl who is pregnant. Good luck.
2007-03-10 11:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by nymom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes 17 are you even married? and How old are you? Plus I am a mother and I don't think I would hate my sons girlfriend, but I wouldn't like what my son had done. That would be an uncomfortable situation for everyone, and certainly not healthy for the baby with all that stress. You would probably be better off finding a small affordable apartment for the three of you.
2007-03-10 13:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she hates you if you've never met her?
Also, do you really think she hates you since she's taking you into her home?
Things might be awkward for a while, but take the time to get to know her and for her to get to know you. You might both end up really liking each other even though your relationship isn't starting off in the best of ways.
2007-03-10 11:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you call her crazy mother in law ,1,she isnt your mother in law,and 2, she has reason to be crazy if her son is only 17 and his girl friend is pregnant
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2007-03-10 12:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
This is Monique again,
I think you should move in with your friends' house, and just live there, until you can organize everything out!!!
2007-03-10 14:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋