All I do is work and take care of my 10 year old....married people in my town treat me like crap being a single mother....Are they insecure? I don't want their husbands!....I know I'm not alone here, but I need to expand my social circle and not just for "dating".....
2007-03-10 03:26:58 · 12 answers · asked by Spaceyangel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welcome friend! This is not forever. Understand where you are now. Just a phase you are a part of. He is only 10. - more him and a little less you, for NOW. He will grow up and it will be a new ballgame and a lot more phases before then. I take care of my 14 and 15 year old - I am in the teen phase which equates to a little more freedom to get back into me. Its coming, but to start the ball rolling ('cuz it sounds like you are ready):
Treat yourself like you are another person that you would like to hang with-the positive energy will give you ideas and while you are fulfilling those ideas, you will be out and about and will attract all kinds. Some like-kinds. Make new friends and network.
About being treated like crap: You have the age and experience to know that this WOULD be the reaction of your married neighbors so why sweat it? Why the shock? We married women act like that and we single woman act a certain way and ALL WOMEN should understand just by being "women". We go through things. Don't get mad, respect them, feel sorry for them, whatever, just don't take it personally!
Don't sweat to prove that you don't want their husbands. You're already steadfast in that. Time proves all things and you will have developed a history of not being about someone else's husband since actions speak louder than words! Time is the best proof!
Remove yourself, keep to yourself around them and network - just like you did just now! I like one of the answers you got from a guy on this page.
Go where the single mothers with 10 year olds are, or just single mothers go: on the phone, at the job and in the public places - get a babysitter and hang out with other single moms! Don't EVER LOOK at the gift of being a mother in a negative light! Even when it comes to your getting back into the friend game.
After I hang with my network, I still have my three other friends: Me, myself and I. It gets crowded! Does your 10 year old have friends? You can start with their single parents and build it up to the kind of people you want to meet and have around you.
Happy friendship making!
2007-03-10 03:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Mamadisco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and friendly to everyone who you see at work or in stores or on streets. You'll meet alot of people and some of them you will even want to get to know more. Maybe the married people treat you badly because they knew and liked your husband (did they know him) or because of the way that you 2 broke up. It may also be the type of neighborhood that you live in (traditional family values). Just be open to people and you'll be ok.
2007-03-10 11:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw what everyone thinks!! They are just uneasy about the different. It is okay to be different!! Maybe go OUT of your town where no one knows you or your story and go meet some people. Take a girlfriend along or even go by yourself. Go buy a new outfit, get your hair done etc.. and have a FUN night out. When you feel good about yourself, you exude that to other people!!!
2007-03-10 11:31:57 · answer #3 · answered by ainsley0805 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried joining social groups? Like a church or community project group. What are your hobbies? Try a group that leans towards this interest. I live in a small town but we still have hiking groups and knitting groups and art groups etc.
2007-03-10 11:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coed bowling league!
Coed softball league!
Coed soccer league!
Sign your kid up for sports and interact with the women, THE WOMEN, that are at the games. Do not flirt with the men.
Drop the everyone hates me and life is harder for me 'cause I'm a single parent attitude.
Join the PTA.
2007-03-10 11:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Bart Simpson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went out dancing a lot. It got me no where. I met a wonderful man on line!
He lives in a town that is 265 miles from me. He came to see me often. I now live with him. We have been together for a year and a half! Good luck Hun.
2007-03-10 11:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Check to see if there is a Parents Without Partners group in your area.
2007-03-10 11:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Lottalady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound silly, but what about going to your local curch service? There are usually kid programs and lots of friendly ladies.
2007-03-10 11:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by its me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same as me .. on answers and 360 found some awesome friends here
2007-03-10 11:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice to make your acquaintance! Mail me.
2007-03-10 11:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by 1REWD1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋