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my best friend has met this guy online. they met about 2 months ago and have been chatting to each other via email, messenger, text and phone. the guy seems to be nice although i haven't spoken to him myself. he wants to meet up with her in a few weeks. he lives down south and she lives in wigan. he has said he will go anywhere she wants to meet up. has anyone ever done this? what happened? i'm worried thats all (they are both mid 20's)

2007-03-10 03:18:20 · 30 answers · asked by J x 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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HE SAYS HE IS IN HIS TWENTY'S BUT AS SHE SEEN HIM...I DOUBT NOT...MY ADVICE ...DON'T MEET HIM ALONE AND MAKE SURE YOU MEET IN A BUSY PLACE....THE ONLY THING SHE KNOWS ABOUT HIM IS WHAT HE AS TOLD HER...........JUST TELL HER TO TEST THE WATER BEFORE GOING FOR A SWIM

2007-03-10 03:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by michael b 5 · 1 0

I understand why you are worried, I would be too. Tell your best friend to forget this meeting. How does she know he is in his mid 20's? Has he emailed a photo? ;This is a very bad idea. He could be a rapist, a predator or a molester or a murderer. What she should do is tell this guy that she discussed this meeting with her family and her family is very against the idea, so he knows she has a family and friends, and that she is not alone and vonerable...and she has decided not to meet him. If he really wants to meet her, and he seems that he is on the up and up and legitimate, she should arrange a meeting on her turf, not his, and she should meet him in a restaurant or diner during the day and she should be accompanied by a friend, like you. She should also inform family and friends where you and her will be and she should carry cell phone. She should not go alone to this first meeting. She should not tell him where she lives, or anything that personal until she is sure he is legitimate. She could also check him out if he has any kind of record, or if he has been arrested by going to her local police dept. If she meets him alone, she is looking for trouble. Tell her a retired police officer's wife advised her on ANSWERS.

2007-03-10 03:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0 0

Yeah...lots of people meet up like this. I never have but I know people who have met their wives or husbands this way.

First of all...if they do want to meet, they need to meet the first time in a public place, like a restaurant or something. They do not need to go to each other's homes right off the bat...just as a precaution and so it won't be too awkward or be moving too fast and too soon. She also needs to make sure that several family members and friends know where she's going when she meets up with him. You can never be too safe, I suppose. It's sad that you have to be like this...but you have to look out for yourself.

I used to work with a lady who met men online through match.com or e.harmony, etc...and she would talk to them on the phone a couple of times and then when they first met, she'd go to the guy's home or he'd come to hers. I don't believe this is a good idea. In fact, it's pretty ignorant, naive and irresponsible...not to mention it could be dangerous in some situations. Seems like people would care a little bit more about themselves than this. Go figure...

2007-03-10 03:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

She is old enough to know what she is doing. But if you are worried about her, suggest that he comes up to Wigan and meets her in a public place. If he does, it means he is quite serious about meeting her. Also she will be close to people there she knows. You can even be in the same place without him knowing. Remember; there are some weirdos out there.

2007-03-10 03:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by davethursfield 2 · 0 0

you are right to be worried...yes many people have done this and some never saw the next morning...it can be good or it can be life ending...she needs to meet him in the daytime, in a very public place, somewhere that is familiar to her, she should park in a public area where he cannot see her get out of her car, she should not reveal where she lives, people need to know where she is going and what his name is and anything else that she knows about him. If she is smart, she will take someone with her to be discreet but close by....spend a couple of hours talking..like over lunch and then go home.....tell her to be cautious and stay safe

2007-03-10 03:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

If she is determined she's going to meet him then I would suggest she takes a friend with her, arrange to meet in a public place and STAY in a public place, tell someone back at home who he is and his contact details plus what time they should expect her home. I know a couple who met on-line who are now happily married BUT I've also heard some not so happy stories so I would be very cautious.

2007-03-10 03:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Sounds like a nice guy but then again could be really risky,try suggesting she meets this man half way and in a very public place and she finds her own way there and back.Also it would be a good idea that either you or another friend is watching from a safe distance to be sure of her safety.The internet is a good thing but also can be a very dangerous one,good job she has a friend like you...........good luck.

2007-03-10 03:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by sarah y 3 · 0 0

Has she considered taking someone with her? Power in numbers, public places, and background checks (of even just Googling the guy) are all major things to check of the list before meeting someone offline.

I met a guy offline a few years back and we eneded up dating for almost 2 years. We are still friends...stranger things have happened!

2007-03-10 03:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I did the same as your friend and it worked out really well for me and him. I lived down South and he lived near Manchester. He came down to see me and we had a great time and are now seeing each other. As long as you go to a public place and let people know where you are, it will be okay. Sometimes, you have to take a chance. I was lucky - he's lovely

2007-03-13 02:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by runningbabe 2 · 0 0

Its fine for you to be worried over this, it shows how good a friend you are.
Well there are alot of couples out there who met on-line and now they are very happy together but there are also the horror stories about the people who don't tell the truth and turn out to be total psycho's.
All i will say to you is be there for your friend, if she really wants to meet him then let her but tell her to be careful. Meet him in a public place, in fact why don't you go with her just to be on the safe side.
Be careful xxx

2007-03-10 03:32:49 · answer #10 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0 0

This is no different than meeting someone at the coffee shop, giving them your number and going out on a first date. Just make sure that they both arrive in seperate cars and that they are in a public place.

2007-03-10 03:42:30 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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