I have a 15yr.old son, we get along pretty good,usually, but last night,I made him get off computer so his little sister could get on,boy, what a fight broke out!! He start's by annoying my girl as she play's her game& I told him to leave her alone,a fight break's out! He start 's putting me down(my mom died 10 yrs. ago,have anxiety disorder now) saying I'm crazy in the head,I need to lose some weight!! Yes, I lost it,smacked his head to knock it off,He throw's t.v. remote onto coffee table!Etc. told him to go to room for night!!! We actually, can talk together (heart to heart) sometime's, I' m not a bad mom,probably problem is I do too much for him.He disrespects by leaving wrapper's in living room,etc.My husband's not much help,which make's it harder!!Maybe,it's pay back from when I was a teen????I have already raised a 21 yr.old girl,got to admit, we get along better now than wene she was a teen!I don't know,really if this is a Q. or remark on teenager's,but, what do you think?
2007-03-10 02:54:48 · 13 answers · asked by mgle3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I hate to admit it, but I totally understand where you are coming from. I have a 15 year old son myself, and it has been a VERY trying time. I think I'm a lot like you. I did too much for him. Then, when I get on him about straightening himself out (as I did this morning), he sees it as me betraying him or something. I am so through right now. Sorry...I guess I'm just venting and not giving any advice to you. Maybe because I don't know what to do myself.
2007-03-10 03:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by M2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers have always had problems and been problems to their parents. I don't think hitting your son in the head is the right way to handle it though. That will only make him more angry and rebellious. I know because my Mom used to hit me in the head when I was growing up. Just talk to him and follow through with what you say. Teenagers are at that point where they feel like they are old enough to have their own lives but too young to really be on their own. Try to find a peaceful way to deal with him, talk to him about what's going on with him at school, etc. I think the more you try to understand where he's coming from the better your relationship will be. Maybe some counseling would do him some good to deal with his anger.
2007-03-10 03:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you set up a schedule for when each chilod can be on the computer? That may keep this particular fight from even starting next time.
This is no different than the way kids have always been. Boys are rougher. My brothers were the same way. We had LOTS of rules to keep us in check and if we broke the rules we knew the punishments ahead of time.
2007-03-10 02:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 19:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is typicall teenage behaviour, I have fights with my mum practically everyday and I still love her like I always did. Give your son some space and spend some time together- mabye do something he wants to do. Don't worry about it, every in mum the world experiences this, sometimes teenagers don't really like talking about how they feel, especially boys. I also get really jealous of my little sisters attention and sometimes arguing is my way to get noticed.
2007-03-10 03:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the problem, so why aren't you trying to correct it. You said that you do too much for him. Why don't you try to pull back on that and be more of a disciplinarian. Of course physical discipline is going to make you lose authority. People and countries only get physical when their words aren't strong enough to gain control. So stick to your words and follow through on the rules that you set up.
2007-03-10 03:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you said it all. You do too much for him. Start setting some house rules. He is old enough to start being more responsible and growing up a bit. But 15 is a hellish age, isn't it?
2007-03-11 05:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok beings that i am 15 i have som experience on this one. we really just want to have freedom and be able to do what we want when we want. when you took that away from him he rebelled. my parents set limits for me and ive learned to respect those limits. they let me stay out late and play a million sports as long as my grades stay up. or im only allowed online if my homework is done. maybe your son needs to learn respect for you.
2007-03-10 03:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by hott2trot555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids now a days are like an entirely different breed of people.
2007-03-10 02:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please, love your kids.They are trying to figure out life. Reach your arms out to them and start over. I wish your family all the luck in the world.
2007-03-10 03:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋