I lost my Daddy 2 years ago to sudden illness. I lost my mother when I was 16 too. So my fiance and I are getting married and all the planning has gotten me realy sad about my dad the most we were close and I cant do this wedding without him. I cried all night last night. this is supposed to be a happy time in my life and I am so sad. I lost my mom too and i wasnt realy close to her my grandmother and my father raised me. my grandma is all i have left in my famikly litteraly and she is very old she just told me she is sick now. i am loosing my mind i have 4 beutiful boys and they keep me going as well as my knoight in shining armor. still with all this love i am very lonley and i miss my family so much....any words of wisdom would be very enlightning ..Thanks for your words of wisdom !!
2007-03-10 02:51:01 · 11 answers · asked by A Proud Marine's Daughter 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sounds to me like you have some issues with some of the recent deaths in your family and you need to talk to someone about it to get some sort of closure. Your kids and honey you suurond your self with only works so long, I would talk to some one right away!
Remember we as humans dont last for ever and part of life is death so act today as if it was your last!!!!
2007-03-10 02:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by michael m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling like this because your family will not be there at your wedding. Planning your wedding has rekindled your dreams as a child, most likely, most girls have their fathers to give them away, you have lost yours, just try to think of your father's spirit being with you on the day, having the best view anyone can have. You mother will be there too, think of their love for you and carry this with you on the day.
I'm sorry to hear about your father's and mother deaths, now you have to worry about your grandmother. unfortunately this is life, sickness and death. You could get some counseling if you feel you need it.
You don't say whether you have any brothers or sisters, if you have talk to them, they will help you, throughout your life you will think of those you have lost and loved, this is our nature, it helps to make us who we are, just one simple world can make us remember.
If you have no bothers and sister, you have four lovely boys, these are your family now, enjoy them, they will be with you on your big day, as well as the spirits of your parents.
Daughters always seem to love their daddies more, it's a fact of human nature, you are part of you dad, he is part of you, this should help, he's never far away, neither is your mum. Please enjoy your wedding day, it will be tinged with saddness, but hopefully your grandmother will be well enough to attend, your four lovely sons will be with you, you will have their love, your parents spiritual love and your new husbands love to help you though the day.
2007-03-10 11:34:40 · answer #2 · answered by lazybird2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't despair....your dad will be there with you....just remember that.....Death is a part of life, unfortunate but true.
It's normal to miss loved ones that have passed on....but you do have your Knight and 4 little men to hold onto.....draw your strenght form those around you and remember they are in the present.....Keep your Grandmother close; she may be sick but she isn't gone yet.....Rejoice in the present and the future for the past cannot be changed.
2007-03-10 12:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Odyssey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wonderful way of remembering those that you have lost would be to have a display of their wedding pictures at your reception, like on the guest sign-in table or something. Maybe include a little note that says, for those that are here in spirit and looking down and smiling. Congratulations and good luck.
2007-03-10 11:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by nd721 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God's Word tells us that there is a season for everything. You've had your season of grief. Now it is time for the season of joy. I have no family of orientation left. But I feel the presence of my daddy, uncle, grandfather, and aunts around me. I see them in the faces of my daughter and grandchildren. I thank God every day for their presence and for my sweet son-in-law. I have such sweet memories of them that sustain me. You have been blessed with your sons and a man who is planning to marry you and complete the family circle again. Focus on all you have been given, not what has been taken. And remember, there's a glad homecoming day in the future of all believers when you will be surrounded by all those you've loved. And on that day, you will rejoice in the presence of the Lord, knowing you will never again have to say good-bye to a loved one, even for awhile. What a day that will be!
2007-03-10 11:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the happy times in our lives makes us sad -- because we think of the people who aren't there to share it with us.
You are surrounded by the love of your 4 children and your fiance, and you are watched over by your mother and your father...
Just remember they ALL love you, and want you to be happy.
2007-03-10 11:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by kelannde 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey don't be sad their in heaven with god.I lost my great,great grandmother and my granny but me and my cousins( called her franny) we loved her very much.I feel your pain girl take care of your 4 boy's okay girl!
2007-03-10 12:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by natasha m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
swettheart, I know is sad, cause anybody will like to have their parents at their wedding, but just be strong and think that not everybody gives that satisfaction to their parents(formal wedding), and I'm pretty sure that they're watching you from heaven, and they are going to be extremely happy for you in that special day, be strong for you, be strong for them, congrats.
2007-03-10 11:02:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG you have so much to be grateful for! Concentrate on what you have dear.
Do you think your father would want you sad and missing him right know?- course not.
2007-03-10 11:02:05 · answer #9 · answered by MeaCulpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congralutation to your wedding
2007-03-10 10:57:34 · answer #10 · answered by gadgetki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋