My bf and I are in love with each other, but I have to move from UK to LA for a job. He's 33 and a contract worker earning 6 didgits anually now, but maybe he won't be having his job in half an year. He took me to his parents for Xmas, to Iceland and Spain for holiday, to his best friends wedding...and is a comitment phobe, saying it'll be my decision to stay if I want to. He seems not to want to take any responsibility yet.
I'm having a good offer from LA, more money, a house and a car.
Now I have an exbf who's a CEO of an international company, who still loves me after 2 yrs. He wants me back, and although we have every thing in common, including future goals, I don't find him more attractive than my current bf.
Should I leave my current bf with broken heart, settle into a new life in the States, and get back with the billionare, or stay in UK, struggle to get visa and work, struggle life but be with the one I love now...if I was you?
2007-03-10 02:50:53 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take the job. That way Mr. Commitmentphobe can take an initiative to set his claim for you if he can get that in himself to do so. That's the only way that would ever work because he needs to do that for a positive relationship down the line.
As for the old boyfriend, if you took the job, that gives you time to think it over and see if this is going to work. He has the money to fly to you and court you again. I like this solution a lot! he he he
2007-03-10 02:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call.
Relationships are very much like an investment. You invest energy in each other to share love, affection, respect, expenses, plans, dreams, goals and so on. Some people are better planners than they are lovers, and few people do everything well. If the guy in the States is at least as attractive as your current BF, but your career options are better in the States, that might be the best choice, but only by a margin.
Meditate on it.
2007-03-10 02:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for you, regardless of the 2 men involved. Relationships are not guaranteed, so you should not base your decision on either man.
One observation though..you say that you and your bf are in love, and then you say that you have an ex who still loves you. How do you feel about the ex? He may love you, but how do you feel about him?
I would choose the job and location based on what you want for yourself. If you like LA and will be happy on your own there, then go. If you will not be happy there, then stay where you are if that will make you happy.
2007-03-10 03:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by torn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you give yourself some time off from your bf. Go to LA and get into a new job. Do not rush into the relationship with your previous bf. Give that time too. In fact give yourself some time and enjoy your work. If your relationship with your bf is the right one, then he will make some moves to get you back. If he does not, it is not the right relationship. You deserve more. Who knows, maybe you will realise that you love ur previous bf more when you are in proximity with him. Or maybe you will meet someone else. Whatever, do not make a hasty decision. Do not panic. It is your life . You must enjoy it with someone who is as much in love with u as you are with him. Good luck.
2007-03-10 03:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by shgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The move to LA can be a time used to weigh both sides. Give it 6 months and then ask yourself the question your asking now. I would bet my last dollar to pound you will have an easier time answering it.
2007-03-10 02:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by jlsmith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by rocio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are more in love with money than guys.
2007-03-10 02:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by felippie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money does not bring happiness. Ever.
2007-03-10 02:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋