My sister has pretty much abandoned her 3 small children and her husband. She started talking to this guy online and now they are in a relationship for the past I'd say 5 months but I think she is now on drugs and I'm worried the other night she came to my house wanting money after she got $600 and didn't give her kids a penny I didn't give her any then 2 nights ago she said she was hungry so I bought her something to eat she is now pregnant by this guy and I want her away from him I can see why she don't want her kids around him but to not do anything for them her youngest wont even be 1 until july 4th I'm afraid if I say something she'll stop talking to me and I wont know where she is I want to help her I think I should ignore her and not help her at all so maybe she'll have to help herself but what would you do I want my sister back.
2007-03-10 02:41:30 · 9 answers · asked by fluttergirl2004 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you are right you can't help her so you need to stop. You want your sister back, but the person she is right now on drugs is not your sister. That is not saying that you have to stop loving her. She is your sister and always will be but the way to show your love right now is to say no.
As a person in recovery it will either cause her to want to get help and realize that as she is living in the present her life has become unmanageable or She will become institutionalized, and last but not least she will die.
Unfortunately Addiction is a disease that is treatable, but it is a disease that causes the person in it not to want to get help.
No one can help her until she wants it. A lot of times courts do intervene and I have seen it work, but it is a low statistic.
2007-03-10 05:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Marla D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave her alone, spend some time with her as she really needs it. She is fighting against herself and the fight will be long and painful. You have to help her but don't help her going deeper down, help her with her mind. You won't be able to do this alone too, especially if she hasn't the will to get out of it, so try to get your family and friends on your side. Once you'll act, she'll hate you for it but it won't be permanent because at this moment she'll get back on her feet and once she'll have realized where she was gone, she'll be sorry. If you don't act, she'll still hate herself and it'll be worse, until she is harmed or killed by her own autodestruction.
Believe me, I've already helped a friend which was in that case, if you wish to contact me for further information, just email me through yahoo answers.
2007-03-10 10:51:42 · answer #2 · answered by bemanni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to help some one who doesn't want help
and the only way for her to get help or to accept help is to admit she is in trouble or has a problem and it could take alot of things for this to happen
when a mother has nothing to do with her children there is a big problem is there a way to find out if she is on drugs
if she starts stealing she could go to jail and that would be a bad wake up call
where are the children?someone needs to wake her up before it's to late
maybe you could find a rehab center where family could admitt her with out her consent and yes this sounds mean to do to someone but look at what she is doing to her children
I would rather die than to make my children hurt or to make them wonder why i'm not there
hope all turns out for you for the better so you can help two children before they are hurt to badly
2007-03-10 10:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by country-girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister will end up dead and you should probably do a background check on this guy. You should intervene because your sister is doing some serious drugs-not just weed and beer. The baby she is carrying will turn out deformed or will get a miscarrage.
2007-03-10 10:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like she's trying to destroy her life. The best way to help her is make sure she gets into rehab. Moving to a different city would help. New surroundings may help her change her ways. Make sure those kids are taken care of too!
2007-03-10 10:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by dww32720 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you can for the kids are you old enough to care for them? try not to get them caught up in the system. I did the same thing your sister is doing I didn't get pregnant but I left my 3 kids my husband was on drugs I couldn't do it on my own so my sister got custody of my kids for a while. Is her husband willing to take on the 3 kids? tell him to take her to court he can get her for adultery ,. let her do what she wants to do just pray for her believe me it works. take care of the kids. in time she will realize what she's done
2007-03-10 10:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by sanric01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try talking to her about this. is she not concerned about her children at all? does she ask about them or anything? she has gotten herself into a mess! try asking her what her plans are with this guy and with her children. start the conversation and see where it goes. be sure to let her know that you just want to help.
2007-03-10 10:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by pamcake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help her. She has to help herself.
2007-03-10 10:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask here tell here hubby
2007-03-10 11:31:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋