I have been single for almost three years. I have male friends - some platonic some sexual. I can't seem to

Question

find a happy medium. I have male friends who want to see me every day to make love to me, but they don't want to hang out, go to a movie, have dinner, go dancing. I'm definitely not ugly, and because of the demand it seems I satisfy men very well sexually. I am a very independent woman and very outspoken. Some of my male friends love me alot but there never seems to be a 'relationship' that develops. What could be happening here?

Answer 1

there is an old saying, dog. it goes: why buy the cow when you gettin free milk? stop having sex unless unless you are in love and the guy is in love with you. friends w/ benefits is not a good idea

Answer 2

Not to sound blunt-as I am 47 and probably a whole generation off-but there is an old addage that if you get it for free,why buy the product. Don't be so physical so quickly. We all have needs-I'm married to my best friend 20 years now and met him (my Mom would have killed me!) on a SoCal freeway-who knew? Also-I think I almost did better when I stopped looking and they found me-I don't know your circumstances in your meetings or introductions- maybe try a respectable dating service-even a good web one? Sex isn't all to a marrige (but a GOOD addition) friendship,like morals and beliefs and family relationships are a big tie in-you will live and sleep with this person forever-you must be good roommates and friends and as my hubby and I say "partners in crime".Friendship can turn to love-esp. when you admire the person on many levels. Look for respect and admiration coming from both of you-stop bed hopping-if you know your good then that question is answered. Don't be loose. To be blunt-take care of it yourself....and good luck. They are out there-and probably wondering where you are too! ;0)

Answer 3

It's your choice in guys. You're ideal from the standpoint of promiscuous men who can't tolerate intimacy. Anybody who doesn't want to do the things you mentioned after making love has a very small heart.
You could try advertising on the Internet (a lot of sites allow women to advertise for free). Spell out what you want - affection and respect as well as sex - and see what kind of response you get. If you advertise in a place like eharmony, you're better off than at a place like craigslist.org
Another thing you could do, if you don't like this idea, is to join some clubs that have a lot of men (photography, hiking, computers, astronomy, writing, etc.), or take classes in these things. Engineering classes are loaded with men. You don't even have to pass!
Good luck!

Answer 4

Why would they want any type of relationship? You are giving them just what they want. If you stop having sex with them, they'll move on to someone else. As men say: all .... look alike in the dark.

As for the platonic friends: these have the possibility of developing into deeper relationships but not so long as you are having repeated sexual encounters and stay involved with all of these other guys. Trust me. No man wants a relationship with a woman who can't discriminate between accommodation sex and friendship.

Answer 5

Are any of these male friends married? They fit the bill--only being with you sexually and nothing more. Maybe they think you are "just getting some on the side" with them, such as you have a steady boyfriend. That's one thing that could be happening. It's 50% up to you too. With any of these men have you specified how you want the relationship to be, before having sex? I think guys do not associate sex with love, in general. I'm not trying to come across as a nun, but maybe you need to spell it out to one of the guys you want to be with. If he won't commit, dump him. Keep going until you find one that wants you. Unless you like having various sex partners--which can be exciting sometimes. You know your in trouble, when 2 of your friends want to screw you on the same day. That's a sticky situation!

Answer 6

I think that your circle of male friends needs to be extended a bit, and you said that it "seems i satisfy men very well sexually", maybe thats what it is? maybe you're doing a marilyn Monroe and passing yourself between the Kennedy brothers. Also, it might not help if you turn down your "outspokenosityness" when around these guys, as men dont really like it. I hope that this helps. xx

Answer 7

Perhaps your male friends have the wrong idea as to what you are expecting and what you want out of a relationship. If you are sleeping with them continually and they don't do anything for you in return then they probably don't think you care. You need to let it be known that you aren't just going to sleep with them if you want a serious relationship. It gives out mixed signals.

Answer 8

hope you don't take this the wrong way but you are giving it away too easy and for free! i am not a prude and don't think people have to wait thill they are married but don't just have sex with your friends. they will never want a relationship as long as they have someone like you they can call up, screw and leave. come on girl have some respect! make the men work for it a little. they love the chase!!!

Answer 9

massive FREAKING social gathering WITH super quantities OF each little thing. do no longer provide up on the tequila and goodies. choose for broke. Get some Dinglebury's to have relaxing with. you are able to dip those 36 C's interior the chocolate Congratulations Lisa. God bless. decrease unfastened and have some relaxing, you earned it

Answer 10

I can only say that you POTENTIALLY give it up to quickly and bottom line men lose respect for woman that do that. They have no need to invest any romance into the equation or spend large somes of money because there is no challenge there. They get the sex then they spin off.Of course you would never know that because they want to be pleasent on the outside to get what they want...i.e. your lips and your body.