Why do people think or feel someone is being RUDE when they are being themselves and honest?

Question

When you speak your true feelings and don't put on an act or front to others.

Answer 1

Because too many people in this world today are so worried about giving the right impression that they expect the facade. They'd rather have you lie to their face and talk about them as you walk away then hear the honest truth. Unfortunately, when people are honest and being themselves, instead of being appreciated for being honest, it is taken wrong. I'm sorry if I'm applying this to talking about someone, but it is in my opinion the best way to describe it. We don't like to hear the truth about ourselves (most people anyway) and many can't handle even constructive criticism, so we'd rather be lied to and live in our own happy little worlds.

Answer 2

Because if you are unkind, you are rude.

If you are an unhappy person, it would be quite natural to say whatever comes to your mind no matter the consequences. But people don't want to hear about how miserable you are by being offensive or abusive to others. It really is just plain unhealthy to concentrate on the negative aspects, and healthy minded people would not be interested in that and might not want to associate with you unless you "act or front" healthy and happy.

Sometimes I am in a situation where I am given the chance to decide if I should be right or be kind. I have found that being kind serves me best.

I hope you find peace and wish you happiness.

Answer 3

Why should anyone HAVE TO put on a facade? Why should anyone be OTHER THAN what they truly are? I don't think that they should have to do or be either. The truth, in order to be effective, should penetrate, like an arrow. And that is likely to hurt. Hurt someone and they feel pain. Cause someone pain, either intentionally or not, and you WILL be considered rude. People are programed to be concerned solely with themselves. Since that is the case you will either be all about the other person and their feelings, wants and desires or you WILL be considered RUDE.

Answer 4

I know exactly how you feel. I am one of those whom speak up.
I have a tendency of saying what I think, (very out spoken),in my younger years i have, by doing this, hurt a lot of people or have put my foot in my mind (getting some of them mad).
I stil believe in speaking up in what I believe, if someone asks for my opinion, however, now, what I have changed is: I am much more carefull in HOW I SAY IT, it makes all the difference plus, there are certain people that, really DONT want to know and after learning to pick them out, I'M BEING RESPECTED FOR THE MOST PART, standing up for my BELIEVES.
So stick with it but may have to polish up a bit in HOW TO, OK??

Answer 5

Maybe you should consider that you are being rude. Sometimes it really is better to keep your big mouth shut. No one really cares about your opinions anyway. Not trying to insult you, that's just the way it is with everyone. You can still be you without all the rude commentary. Believe it or not what you say truely affects other people and what they think of you and what kind of person you are. You'll learn this when you grow up. You are making yourself look bad.

Answer 6

Speaking the truth and being rude are not the same thing. You can be perfectly honest and true to yourself, but you can also express your thoughts and opinions in a polite, classy manner. Also, if you're so busy speaking your version of "the truth" you may not listen to what others believe is their "truth."

Answer 7

There is a very fine line between honest - rude and stupid,
this means you think everyone wants to hear how honest you are when in reality you are just being plain stupid and of course rude... learn to pin yourself to the wall and stop thinking one has the right of
speaking the mind out, sometimes no one is even asking your oppinion but since one is very >Honest< you think, can't keep your mouth shut.

Answer 8

Often it is the case where some people will say that you or someone else is rude when you or the other person is simply telling the truth and being forthright|

That may be nothing but a form of deceptive attack to disconcert| It is a form of psychological warfare|

So we have to watch out for that sort of thing|




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Answer 9

Consider the origin of the word "rude". It comes from a Latin word meaning "raw" or "uneducated". "Polite", by contrast, originally meant "polished". In other words, "rude" is the way we naturally are, and "polite" is what some of us are made into.

Hopefully, experience will teach you the wisdom of "putting on an act" of consideration for other people.

Answer 10

Because if you hurt or insult someone else in the process of being "honest", it is rude. You must first be considerate of the feelings of others & use diplomacy.