I have a huge crush on one of my good friends. In my eyes she is perfect for me. She is attractive, smart, funny, easy to talk to, has a great personality, and we have the SAME morals. The only problem is that she is a devout christian and I am an atheist. She has stated that she could never date an atheist and is completely oblivious to my feelings. I thought that my feelings would subside, but they haven't and have only increased as I have gotten to know her better. What should I do?
2007-03-10 02:16:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont change yourself for her.. thats the worst thing you can do.
tell her how you feel, and tell her that your beliefs, even though they are different than hers, should not matter. its the differences in people that make them interesting..
tell her "can you imagine if EVERYONE in the world was the same religion, same race, had the same likes and same dislikes..... the world would be boring."
try to get her to understand that your differences should not matter.
2007-03-10 02:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by brown_eyed_girl_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a christian and you are an atheist how do you expect that to work into a meaningful relationship? She has already told you what her religious belief are and I am sure she is not going to change her religious belief for someone who is an atheist. You aren't on the same level of religion so I don't see how this would work. A devout Christian love God with all her soul, might and heart. She is raise to believe in God and of course you don't. I recommend you do some soul searching for yourself and if she means a lot to you talk with her and try to understand her belief. Otherwise don't even waste her time because she wants to be equally yoke with someone who also have similar religious belief as she has.
2007-03-10 02:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Denese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we get more cought up in the challenge presented to us, then wether or not we even really care about the situation that much. There is a clear road block here and the thing to remember is this subject is going to be there now and will still be there two years from now and probly being the reason the realtionship falters(sp) that is if you do not address it now meaning communicate to eachother about it, come to a decision or understanding and then move on. If you dont like I already said if you try to avoid it or move around it will ultimately end up smacking you in the face, it always does. Many times in relationships, in the beginning there have been things I have clearly seen, and thought to myself that it will change, or I can work on that w/him and there things that I know I hate, anyways they dont go away and some things about people you just cant change. But if you find the right person and you guys can communicate and work of loving instead of being loved maybe just maybe you can defeat the devil's plan to destroy our greatest gift, LOVE. Good luck Kim
2007-03-10 02:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one. First of all like I tell most people tell her what you told us. Put all your cards out on the table. If you have the same morals then it shouldn't be that huge of a deal. Good luck. Sorry I can't help more.
2007-03-10 02:23:22 · answer #4 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how you feel. If she doesn't want a romantic relationship with you and you can still remain friends then great! Keep in mind, you do take the chance of ruining the friendship once you tell her how you feel but if you don't, you're not being true to yourself. Take care and good luck. Donna
2007-03-10 02:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's that important to you, convert to Christianity. Either way, you need to let her know you like her that way. No guarantee how she'll respond though. Be prepared cos she may not feel that way about you. Either risk telling her or not. You decide.
2007-03-10 02:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shud tell her how u feel its the only way u will ever truly know if shes willing to put aside her religious feelings for her romantic ones.
2007-03-10 02:23:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a lame and tell her. The worst she could do is say no!!!!
2007-03-10 02:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by Brian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want this woman, and she is not interested in anyone outside of her faith, then I think you no what to do.
2007-03-10 02:21:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to understand her, if she said so then at least you can do is to know Christianity better...
2007-03-10 02:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by kamqx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋