Are there any decent men out there that truly want to be with and can handle a woman like me? I'm terribly complicated, could this be the problem? I don't have any issues attracting them, or keeping them really, I just get bored too easily and I hate it! I'm a 30 yr-old Sagittarius, does my sign have anything to do with it? Gosh that seems retarded, I know, but be kind people and hear me out! I want to find a meaningful relationship with a man that I don't end up hurting.
2007-03-10 02:01:17 · 15 answers · asked by anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm getting some really helpful answers here, I'm so thankful to all of you. I never really thought of this as an issue, but I don't keep very close with female friends. The ones I have either tend to annoy me to pieces or really inspire and help but I'm usually so surrounded by males in my life! Not just romantically mind you, they're just everywhere!
No offense guys, I've still got love for ya! >.<
2007-03-10 02:23:20 · update #1
yes we exist --- in my case its more a matter of not hurting you --- i seem to be very good at unintentionally hurting my loved ones --- your sign has nothing to do with your character --- think about it all 6 billion plus people are put into 12 boxes and they govern their life ---- riiiiiiiiiiiiight --- i use my chinese sign because i think its cool not because i believe it ---- best wishes
boredom is merely not meeting someone who truly engages your mind --- you will meet someone
2007-03-10 02:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the thing you need to realize about long lasting love affairs or marriage is that it takes 100% from both people not 50/50 first off then you have to love the person enough to spend your time loving them instead of how much your being loved, because when you do that the love comes back naturally and the only way to really get it honastly. Also it takes real committement from both people to make it work and be willing to communicate effectivly to work your way through any situation while also wanting it bad enough to bend in your ways to help it along, theres more giving involved then we realize or it will never and I mean NEVER work out! The only other thing I can really say it despite how sad it is to go thru all these seemingly worthless episodes with men is that in the end you realize all those episodes are the key to eventually getting it right, learning what works and what will not, you know wont make that mistake again or you know what I mean. Theres also the possibility that the next relationship you get into you might need to be honast with yourself about what you really do want, and maybe that is just a friend with benefits so that way you can be upfront about it in the beginning and find someone looking for the same thing and then you wont be hiding anything, lying, and unsatisified, and thats not to say one day you wont have more but maybe right now thats all your really capable of or willing to "give". Believe me whatever it is you want if your honast about it there out there and there is someone wanting the same thing and willing to do it respectivly, YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE, good luck Kim
2007-03-10 02:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, love comes in stages. First the initial infatuation stage, a fun roller coaster ride. That always wears off in a year or less and what is left is a mellower deeper true love...or nothing.
Maybe you have just never had a strong true love yet. It really is a rare thing, movies and books are not the reality, they are the ideal.
As a person who has no problem attracting candidates you are right to move on as you find that you haven't found the love of your life in your present relationships. It's horrible to be dumped but it sounds like you don't dump these guys in a mean way. That's life.
2007-03-10 02:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never lose faith. No 2 people are alike and you will find the right guy. You have to ask yourself why do you get bored easily, what is it that you are after. First you must know what you want and there is give and take in a relationship. What if the guy thinks your boring?
2007-03-10 02:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like being in control? Fear of NOT being in control? Fear of getting hurt? Fear of commitment?
I'll take a wild guess and say that as soon as you start to feel like things are getting serious in the relationship, then you suddenly feel "bored" with them. An urge to go "try new things", "mix it up". It's most likely a fear that you'll get in deep and then they'll break your heart.
Am I on the right track? You could try seeing a therapist to help you work out some of your complexities. You could also just try being open and vulnerable in your next relationship. Express your fears and wants and needs clearly and try and ride it out, see how far you can take it.
Good luck.
Hope some of this was helpful.
2007-03-10 02:12:49 · answer #5 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sign has plenty to do with it. Saggies get board extremely easily. It gonna take a very experimental and creative person to be with you. Try a Gemini man. They will always keep you motivated. Water signs will only excite you in the beginning. Your fear of being trapped may contribute to why you have yet to settle down.
2007-03-10 02:15:04 · answer #6 · answered by Solar Ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think its bec ur a sagg sure hope not im one.lol... i been married for a long long time...lol... though I do understand ... I too find it hard to stay friends with certain people... seems im too blunt .. say the wrong thing and they not like me that much....lol... though theyyyyyy can make fun of me and I laugh it off ...maybe our sence of humor is different... I swear I dont do it on purpose... so ur the one hurting them... just give the guy a chance... spend more time with them.... find someone that has a great personality fun fun fun guy.... dont find a shy timid guy for sure u be bored fast.... dont find a guy that wear suits.. STUFFY guy... doctors seems boring too.. maybe some guy that works outdoors...a bartender...lol....a guy in uniform is good too.. firman... cop... etc..
2007-03-10 02:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you sound yest like my daughter. she's the same sign, married and still not satisfied.. you all tend to want to much and bore easy but keep in mind you need to change from within and not expect so much and let things take it's course and you'll be happier with someone that's compatible to your needs and nature..
2007-03-10 02:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont give up on men completely just because the right one hasnt come yet just keep searchin for him and hopefully you will find him i hope this helps
2007-03-10 02:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by david15882002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you shouldn't rush into relationships.
and i also think you shouldn't rush the relationships.
you seem to expect a lot and believe anything that is told to you.
next time try to be proved and just take things slow.
there are great guys out there. there are billions of them. the right one is one that will fight for you.
2007-03-10 02:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by John Becker 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋